Susie from Phoenix, Arizona

So I want to know how can I go on, um, in the ways I can trust my husband after he had moved, um, all our savings without telling me I discovered it and he keeps on making financial decisions without telling me or asking me.

So I want to know how can I go on, um, in the ways I can trust my husband after he had moved, um, all our savings without telling me I discovered it and he keeps on making financial decisions without telling me or asking me.

Um, well, he, um, moved it to another account and, um, that, well, part of it that has higher interest and some of it went into some investments, but like not a concern cause we kind of talked about it, but it's just not the only in the last two years, not the only time that he did things and I discovered it and,

Um, well, he, um, moved it to another account and, um, that, well, part of it that has higher interest and some of it went into some investments, but like not a concern cause we kind of talked about it, but it's just not the only in the last two years, not the only time that he did things and I discovered it and,

Yeah, so, like, relationally, I know what to ask of him. Like, I know, like, first you do this, this, and this, and then we can, like, work together, and, you know, I'll start trusting you after these steps.

Yeah, so, like, relationally, I know what to ask of him. Like, I know, like, first you do this, this, and this, and then we can, like, work together, and, you know, I'll start trusting you after these steps.

But financially, I don't know what to ask of him, because I thought we had, like, a joint bank account, and it turns out, like, probably I don't know what a joint bank account is, and what, like, what I ask of, what should I ask of him? to be sure that money doesn't disappear like all of a sudden, that I have some.

But financially, I don't know what to ask of him, because I thought we had, like, a joint bank account, and it turns out, like, probably I don't know what a joint bank account is, and what, like, what I ask of, what should I ask of him? to be sure that money doesn't disappear like all of a sudden, that I have some.

He couldn't explain it, actually. He started saying, well, because you, because you, and I'm like, I stopped, like, my mind shut off. I stopped even listening because Like, what do you mean? Because you, you did it. You didn't like he's, um, saying, well, he's trying to put the guilt on me or somehow.

He couldn't explain it, actually. He started saying, well, because you, because you, and I'm like, I stopped, like, my mind shut off. I stopped even listening because Like, what do you mean? Because you, you did it. You didn't like he's, um, saying, well, he's trying to put the guilt on me or somehow.

Well, the worst thing is that for 15 years, like money wasn't something that we ever had fights or, or.

Well, the worst thing is that for 15 years, like money wasn't something that we ever had fights or, or.

about did you ever talk about it in those 15 years and you saw everything you had access to everything and you knew where everything was for 15 years yeah and he would always say we would discuss it or sometimes like he'll say i want to do this or i did this and i'm like okay so he always said what's going on and then he just is he in trouble is he making is he making is he struggling with gambling or is he seeing somebody else like where's this money going um

about did you ever talk about it in those 15 years and you saw everything you had access to everything and you knew where everything was for 15 years yeah and he would always say we would discuss it or sometimes like he'll say i want to do this or i did this and i'm like okay so he always said what's going on and then he just is he in trouble is he making is he making is he struggling with gambling or is he seeing somebody else like where's this money going um

I want to say that it's not going, I don't think he has problems with gambling, but, and he, I don't know actually what's going on. Cause this is like, um, the last two years there's been a serious of betrayals.

I want to say that it's not going, I don't think he has problems with gambling, but, and he, I don't know actually what's going on. Cause this is like, um, the last two years there's been a serious of betrayals.

Relationally what to ask, but then how do I make myself financially safe?

Relationally what to ask, but then how do I make myself financially safe?

He was in an emotional affair with somebody.

He was in an emotional affair with somebody.

So I want to know how can I go on, um, in the ways I can trust my husband after he had moved, um, all our savings without telling me I discovered it and he keeps on making financial decisions without telling me or asking me.

Um, well, he, um, moved it to another account and, um, that, well, part of it that has higher interest and some of it went into some investments, but like not a concern cause we kind of talked about it, but it's just not the only in the last two years, not the only time that he did things and I discovered it and,

Yeah, so, like, relationally, I know what to ask of him. Like, I know, like, first you do this, this, and this, and then we can, like, work together, and, you know, I'll start trusting you after these steps.

But financially, I don't know what to ask of him, because I thought we had, like, a joint bank account, and it turns out, like, probably I don't know what a joint bank account is, and what, like, what I ask of, what should I ask of him? to be sure that money doesn't disappear like all of a sudden, that I have some.

He couldn't explain it, actually. He started saying, well, because you, because you, and I'm like, I stopped, like, my mind shut off. I stopped even listening because Like, what do you mean? Because you, you did it. You didn't like he's, um, saying, well, he's trying to put the guilt on me or somehow.

Well, the worst thing is that for 15 years, like money wasn't something that we ever had fights or, or.

about did you ever talk about it in those 15 years and you saw everything you had access to everything and you knew where everything was for 15 years yeah and he would always say we would discuss it or sometimes like he'll say i want to do this or i did this and i'm like okay so he always said what's going on and then he just is he in trouble is he making is he making is he struggling with gambling or is he seeing somebody else like where's this money going um

I want to say that it's not going, I don't think he has problems with gambling, but, and he, I don't know actually what's going on. Cause this is like, um, the last two years there's been a serious of betrayals.

Relationally what to ask, but then how do I make myself financially safe?

He was in an emotional affair with somebody.