Suzy Miller

Authenticity of communication, I think, is huge. Most parents are really taught when you feel bad, you just tell your kids you're doing great so that they don't worry or that kind of thing. Where that might work for a neurotypical kid to a certain extent doesn't work at all for somebody diagnosed on the spectrum because they're so privy to our inner worlds.

Authenticity of communication, I think, is huge. Most parents are really taught when you feel bad, you just tell your kids you're doing great so that they don't worry or that kind of thing. Where that might work for a neurotypical kid to a certain extent doesn't work at all for somebody diagnosed on the spectrum because they're so privy to our inner worlds.

As human beings, all of us, we need ways to regulate ourselves. our own emotional bodies we need tools in our toolbox to move through stressful times without those tools we as adults revert back to our own fears and anxieties and stresses and the minute that energy is up

As human beings, all of us, we need ways to regulate ourselves. our own emotional bodies we need tools in our toolbox to move through stressful times without those tools we as adults revert back to our own fears and anxieties and stresses and the minute that energy is up

Then, of course, somebody who's so tuned into the subtle worlds and that vibrational change, it's just they're getting an influx of that kind of energy and it's difficult to regulate. So if we're coming in and we've had a bad day, to actually just say that, to have the words actually match the feeling is so helpful for an autistic individual because then they're not trying to figure out

Then, of course, somebody who's so tuned into the subtle worlds and that vibrational change, it's just they're getting an influx of that kind of energy and it's difficult to regulate. So if we're coming in and we've had a bad day, to actually just say that, to have the words actually match the feeling is so helpful for an autistic individual because then they're not trying to figure out

that energy.

that energy.

And the other side of it is the opportunity to say, Yes, I'm a little bit scared right now, or I'm a little bit overwhelmed. And this is hard. You know, you're not saying you're making it hard. You're not pointing at your kids and making them wrong for it. You're just saying, I'm owning my feelings. And then we get the opportunity to show them that no matter what feeling you're having, it's okay.

And the other side of it is the opportunity to say, Yes, I'm a little bit scared right now, or I'm a little bit overwhelmed. And this is hard. You know, you're not saying you're making it hard. You're not pointing at your kids and making them wrong for it. You're just saying, I'm owning my feelings. And then we get the opportunity to show them that no matter what feeling you're having, it's okay.

A lot of kids on the spectrum, they don't like when people cry or they don't like when people have really strong emotion. I don't think it's the emotion itself. I think it's the fact that there's no way to deal with the emotion.

A lot of kids on the spectrum, they don't like when people cry or they don't like when people have really strong emotion. I don't think it's the emotion itself. I think it's the fact that there's no way to deal with the emotion.

And if we can just say, yeah, this is how I'm feeling and I need to be by myself for a minute or I need to... And a lot of parents say to me, oh, my kid's never going to leave me alone. You know, they would never give me that space. But I always tell them, try it. Just say it. Say it out loud. Own it. And usually that child all of a sudden changes and is trying to comfort that parent.

And if we can just say, yeah, this is how I'm feeling and I need to be by myself for a minute or I need to... And a lot of parents say to me, oh, my kid's never going to leave me alone. You know, they would never give me that space. But I always tell them, try it. Just say it. Say it out loud. Own it. And usually that child all of a sudden changes and is trying to comfort that parent.

And it's a-okay that they do that.

And it's a-okay that they do that.

There's just an innate... I mean, we share DNA, we share behavioral experiences. So absolutely, telepathy is something that is very easy. But again, if we're stressed, if we're overwhelmed, if nobody has ever taught us to listen to our own cues in our body, How are we going to pay attention to some of those more subtle experiences?

There's just an innate... I mean, we share DNA, we share behavioral experiences. So absolutely, telepathy is something that is very easy. But again, if we're stressed, if we're overwhelmed, if nobody has ever taught us to listen to our own cues in our body, How are we going to pay attention to some of those more subtle experiences?

I'm all for getting the parents' support in regulating as much as they can, feeling as loved and nurtured and supported as they possibly can, because that in and of itself will open up the telepathy. Other thing I tell parents all the time is just say to your child, just verbally say, I would really like to enter your world. I'd really like to know what's going on for you.

I'm all for getting the parents' support in regulating as much as they can, feeling as loved and nurtured and supported as they possibly can, because that in and of itself will open up the telepathy. Other thing I tell parents all the time is just say to your child, just verbally say, I would really like to enter your world. I'd really like to know what's going on for you.