Sydney Sumner

But I'm the same way.

For instance, if I walk in and one of my twins is not in their room or in the kitchen or

I immediately call them.

I try to find them.

I try to find them first before I call them.

But that's me projecting how I would react.

And to Dr. Janie Lacey, joining us, psychotherapist, CEO of Life Counseling Solutions, author of many books and host of the Resilient Professional podcast on YouTube.

Dr. Janie, thank you for being with us.

I can't help but project what I would have done in that situation onto the facts.

Why do we do that?

Not everybody wants to track down a family member when they don't know where they are.

Nancy, it's very normal that we project on what we would do in these situations.

But until we are in that situation and until we know the family dynamics, we don't know what we're going to do.

You know, this is what I would say about Antoine Brown.

Like his behavior so far has been consistent.

with a genuine distraught spouse, right?

He's been publicly emotional, he's been cooperative with police, and he's given some details, but a deceptive spouse typically controls the narrative more tightly.

So that said, the spouse is always looked at closely in these cases, and for good reason, right, Nancy?

Because statistically intimate partners are the most common perpetrators when something happens to women.

But what I would want to know is, oh, what was the state of their marriage?