Talena Zar (Reenactment)

Over the last two years, many people have said they don't know how to interact with me already Tom's death. The anniversary of Tom's death is approaching. I'm already struggling with that, combined with lonely holidays. What I do not need right now are unsolicited videos and pics of Tom. At this point, it's difficult for me to concentrate on work or have pockets of happiness.

Over the last two years, many people have said they don't know how to interact with me already Tom's death. The anniversary of Tom's death is approaching. I'm already struggling with that, combined with lonely holidays. What I do not need right now are unsolicited videos and pics of Tom. At this point, it's difficult for me to concentrate on work or have pockets of happiness.

If I see an unsolicited pic or video during those times, I feel like I ran flat out into a wall. It's painful. If you ask first, I can respond when I'm emotionally and physically available to reminisce. If you post on your own feed, I can choose whether or not to surf that content. If you send me or tag me in unsolicited reminiscence, I will block you to save my sanity.

If I see an unsolicited pic or video during those times, I feel like I ran flat out into a wall. It's painful. If you ask first, I can respond when I'm emotionally and physically available to reminisce. If you post on your own feed, I can choose whether or not to surf that content. If you send me or tag me in unsolicited reminiscence, I will block you to save my sanity.

Please don't slap me in the face with my grief. Thanks for hearing me.

Please don't slap me in the face with my grief. Thanks for hearing me.

And so, in April 2020, when Talena posts on Facebook, I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time.

And so, in April 2020, when Talena posts on Facebook, I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time.

In and out of fever and chills. With Tom just out of reach. I'm going to either beat this virus... Or be with Tom. I see it as a win-win situation. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. With Tom.

In and out of fever and chills. With Tom just out of reach. I'm going to either beat this virus... Or be with Tom. I see it as a win-win situation. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. With Tom.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. I am thankful and grateful that I do have someone watching out for me and running the household. Back to bed. I'm exhausted. I love you all.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. I am thankful and grateful that I do have someone watching out for me and running the household. Back to bed. I'm exhausted. I love you all.

Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake.

Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake.

At one of my favorite hideaways, at one of my favorite lakes, and I've booked it for the remainder of this week.

At one of my favorite hideaways, at one of my favorite lakes, and I've booked it for the remainder of this week.

didn't feel up to driving, so I hired a ride.

didn't feel up to driving, so I hired a ride.

I've got a terrible migraine. I've been staying in bed today.

I've got a terrible migraine. I've been staying in bed today.

Ouch.

Ouch.

And I don't want anybody coming to the porch and making the dogs bark because I'm sleeping a lot.

And I don't want anybody coming to the porch and making the dogs bark because I'm sleeping a lot.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs.

Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake.

Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake.

Day two of a bad migraine. Taking more meds and turning down my phone volume so I can sleep. I'll catch up with everyone later.

Day two of a bad migraine. Taking more meds and turning down my phone volume so I can sleep. I'll catch up with everyone later.

My weekend migraine developed into a fever last night, and it is currently hovering around 100.5. I'm surfacing long enough to go to the bathroom and get a drink, then it is back to sleep. All I want to do is sleep. Send your well wishes and energy, but please don't expect a response.

My weekend migraine developed into a fever last night, and it is currently hovering around 100.5. I'm surfacing long enough to go to the bathroom and get a drink, then it is back to sleep. All I want to do is sleep. Send your well wishes and energy, but please don't expect a response.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. Everyone stay safe, healthy, and please practice social distancing. If you don't live with someone, don't visit them.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. Everyone stay safe, healthy, and please practice social distancing. If you don't live with someone, don't visit them.

Hey everyone, I'm on day nine of this virus. I've made arrangements to spend some quality alone time. After I post this, I am turning off my phone.

Hey everyone, I'm on day nine of this virus. I've made arrangements to spend some quality alone time. After I post this, I am turning off my phone.

I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital.

I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital.

I didn't want to be talked out of this plan.

I didn't want to be talked out of this plan.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs. I'm feeling sick. A little raspy and tight. I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Those of you who know me well know I have DNR orders in my health directive and I'm not going to let anyone intubate me.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs. I'm feeling sick. A little raspy and tight. I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Those of you who know me well know I have DNR orders in my health directive and I'm not going to let anyone intubate me.

So I've made arrangements to spend some quality alone time at one of my favorite hideaways at one of my favorite lakes, and I've booked it for the remainder of this week. Didn't feel up to driving, so I hired a ride. I'm almost there. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. I haven't been chatting with some of you, calling you back.

So I've made arrangements to spend some quality alone time at one of my favorite hideaways at one of my favorite lakes, and I've booked it for the remainder of this week. Didn't feel up to driving, so I hired a ride. I'm almost there. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. I haven't been chatting with some of you, calling you back.

I didn't want to be talked out of this plan. After I post this, I am turning off my phone for exactly this reason. I'll catch up with everyone on the other side.

I didn't want to be talked out of this plan. After I post this, I am turning off my phone for exactly this reason. I'll catch up with everyone on the other side.