Talena Zar (Reenactment)

I've got a terrible migraine. I've been staying in bed today.

I've got a terrible migraine. I've been staying in bed today.

Ouch.

Ouch.

And I don't want anybody coming to the porch and making the dogs bark because I'm sleeping a lot.

And I don't want anybody coming to the porch and making the dogs bark because I'm sleeping a lot.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs.

Hey, everyone. I'm on day nine of this virus, and I am pretty sure it has reached my lungs.

Over the last two years, many people have said they don't know how to interact with me already Tom's death. The anniversary of Tom's death is approaching. I'm already struggling with that, combined with lonely holidays. What I do not need right now are unsolicited videos and pics of Tom. At this point, it's difficult for me to concentrate on work or have pockets of happiness.

Over the last two years, many people have said they don't know how to interact with me already Tom's death. The anniversary of Tom's death is approaching. I'm already struggling with that, combined with lonely holidays. What I do not need right now are unsolicited videos and pics of Tom. At this point, it's difficult for me to concentrate on work or have pockets of happiness.

If I see an unsolicited pic or video during those times, I feel like I ran flat out into a wall. It's painful. If you ask first, I can respond when I'm emotionally and physically available to reminisce. If you post on your own feed, I can choose whether or not to surf that content. If you send me or tag me in unsolicited reminiscence, I will block you to save my sanity.

If I see an unsolicited pic or video during those times, I feel like I ran flat out into a wall. It's painful. If you ask first, I can respond when I'm emotionally and physically available to reminisce. If you post on your own feed, I can choose whether or not to surf that content. If you send me or tag me in unsolicited reminiscence, I will block you to save my sanity.

Please don't slap me in the face with my grief. Thanks for hearing me.

Please don't slap me in the face with my grief. Thanks for hearing me.

And so, in April 2020, when Talena posts on Facebook, I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time.

And so, in April 2020, when Talena posts on Facebook, I made the decision at the onset that if it got bad enough, I would not go to the hospital. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time.

In and out of fever and chills. With Tom just out of reach. I'm going to either beat this virus... Or be with Tom. I see it as a win-win situation. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. With Tom.

In and out of fever and chills. With Tom just out of reach. I'm going to either beat this virus... Or be with Tom. I see it as a win-win situation. Please respect my privacy and give me my alone time on the lake. With Tom.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. I am thankful and grateful that I do have someone watching out for me and running the household. Back to bed. I'm exhausted. I love you all.

I called my doctor and was told to stay in bed and stay hydrated and self-medicate and call back or go to the ER if my temp reaches 102. I think Oklahoma's medical system is stretched thin right now. I am thankful and grateful that I do have someone watching out for me and running the household. Back to bed. I'm exhausted. I love you all.