Tamsen Fadal

And it didn't happen right away, but it eventually happened.

And she found that type of person she was really looking for, which was great.

Narcissism is something we've talked about quite a bit on this show, actually.

I'll make sure that the team links in the notes, because I think that it's very complex, and I don't know that I could give you that expert answer in this.

Here's what I will say, though.

If you were already with somebody that was a narcissist, and I was as well, and I didn't even know the word then, I just knew this.

My nervous system was heightened constantly.

Every time he texts, I jumped.

Every time I said something, he said the opposite.

Every time I felt like I was doing something, it felt like it was for his approval.

And every time I felt like I had his approval, he pulled the rug out from under me.

All those things, and they're not limited to, are those type of traits you're looking for.

And I think that if you are being honest with yourself and you're dating somebody for even a few months, you're going to start to see some of those.

So when you see some of those little things and you're like, that didn't sit right, but I'll just brush that aside and give it an excuse and give it another excuse.

If you find yourself doing that.

That's a problem.

That's an issue.

That is noting that situation and hopefully you're not falling for him because you're seeing those little signs.

I think that if I look back on my relationship, I saw all those signs and I turned those red flags into pretty pink flags and I moved on because I wanted what I wanted.

In retrospect, I would never do that again.