Tara Brach

So first step is to forgive and honor the no.

Because if it feels like too much, it feels like too much.

And we need lots of breaks from trying to feel.

And it may be that we can

find more healing or nourishing ways of responding that for many people who are just with excruciating pain lying down outside on the earth, are leaning against a tree, are having the company of a pet, are learning the different kind of grounding processes that help us to just feel ourselves as part of the earth, feel ourselves more rooted helps.

Ultimately, trauma is about disconnection.

That's what it is.

It's a feeling of complete separateness that is anguish.

And the healing for the pain of trauma always is some form of connection.

You know, reconnecting with earth, reconnecting with another person, reconnecting with a sense of spirit, reconnecting with our own hearts.

It's always about reconnecting and so

When I work with people, I ask a question, what helps?

What helps even a tiny, tiny bit?

And what I'll find is that even when there's huge pain, there's a tendril of what helps connect, even when somebody feels really isolated.

There's a tendril.

There's something.

There's some beauty or some person that's dead or some spiritual figure or some pet.

And I'll build from there.

And I think we need to build from wherever we have some access to feeling connection.

That's called resourcing.