Tara Brach

They shouldn't treat me this way.

They don't care about me.

I'm not being seen.

I'm caring more than my share.

I'm being left out.

I'm being judged.

this isn't fair just notice and then pause and rather than believing the thoughts just begin noticing what's actually going on inside your body what emotions are here maybe that you're not so willing to feel when you're in that victim mentality is it fear?

And as you sense into it, just find where you feel the vulnerability in your body.

If it helps to put your hand on your heart, just keep in company with what's here, please do.

Maybe you're sensing tightness or pressure, heat, ache, contraction.

Whatever it is, allow it.

Let there be curiosity, kindness, as you're getting familiar with the felt sense of the victim self.

This is part of victim consciousness, and the more familiar you are, the less you'll be stuck inside it.

Now gently drop beneath the story to fully feel the vulnerability and just sense what feels threatened, unmet.

What is this place in you most need right now?

Let your intention be to offer a kind and healing presence.

You might acknowledge the pain.

This is painful.

This hurts.

And sense how this hurting place, the root of the victim identity, might need your love.