Terry Real
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
Your work was more important.
And you blew it.
What I feel about it.
This is a big tip for your listeners.
Take the feeling that comes easiest to you and put that last.
Reach for the feelings that are less common.
So if you're used to big, you know, I'm pissed off, go for the vulnerability.
I was hurt.
If you're used to being hurt, go for your strength.
That was really not a good way.
So whatever you're used to, flip it.
And then what we never add, this would help me feel better.
This would be repair.
So you're leading your partner into repair.
Now here's a funny story.
So Janet said, you get four sentences.
one sentence for each part.
We have no attention span for being criticized, so four sentences is enough.
I said to Janet, hey, look,
You're a West Coast Christian.