Thais Gibson

Then you get into the commitment stage long term.

And then the bliss stage, like things are really good long term.

Highly likely to break up in that stage.

But what's so interesting...

is that in the dating stage of relationships, usually we are very attracted to people who express our repressed traits.

So the thing that we'll invest in longest term are people who mirror back to us how we treat ourselves.

But one of the other things that does drive attraction early on psychologically is somebody who expresses your repressed traits.

Okay.

So it's that opposite attract.

So let's say, for example, that you're somebody who struggles with boundaries.

If you meet somebody really assertive, you're going to be like, wow, I

Like, ooh, let me get close to them.

And that's not a bad thing.

Not a bad thing.

Or if you're somebody who's very type A, organized, intense, when somebody's really easygoing, you're going to be like, oh, wow, like, look at them.

And so we're very drawn because the mind likes to attach.

And when we attach to something, we have an allostatic or homeostatic impulse at the subconscious level.

So when we attach, we feel more whole through that person.

But what's so crazy is over time, we are still going to invest in the most people who mirror our subconscious comfort zone.

So in the early stages, we're often attracted.