Thomas

That was actually really a joyous time. We were so happy our son was alive. Seeing him sick and emaciated to seeing him become a newborn baby right in front of our eyes. It was kind of bliss those last few days in the hospital. I remember just being so happy. And even though she was in a lot of pain, we were kind of smiling through it.

They invited her, myself, and obviously our son. And they're like, you can come take pictures in our tub whenever you're ready. And I was like, fuck that. Like, we don't want a bath. I hate to laugh about it, but that stands out. Nobody came to the hospital. Nobody visited her. Nobody sent anything. We started to kind of see their true colors and how much danger we had been in.

They invited her, myself, and obviously our son. And they're like, you can come take pictures in our tub whenever you're ready. And I was like, fuck that. Like, we don't want a bath. I hate to laugh about it, but that stands out. Nobody came to the hospital. Nobody visited her. Nobody sent anything. We started to kind of see their true colors and how much danger we had been in.

They invited her, myself, and obviously our son. And they're like, you can come take pictures in our tub whenever you're ready. And I was like, fuck that. Like, we don't want a bath. I hate to laugh about it, but that stands out. Nobody came to the hospital. Nobody visited her. Nobody sent anything. We started to kind of see their true colors and how much danger we had been in.

When we got home, it was like the tablecloth being ripped out from under us. We lived in the seventh floor of the loft while we were kind of finishing up our leasing. We did have an elevator, thankfully, but I mean, it was an older building too. It wasn't quiet. We're on the corner of literally Main Street.

When we got home, it was like the tablecloth being ripped out from under us. We lived in the seventh floor of the loft while we were kind of finishing up our leasing. We did have an elevator, thankfully, but I mean, it was an older building too. It wasn't quiet. We're on the corner of literally Main Street.

When we got home, it was like the tablecloth being ripped out from under us. We lived in the seventh floor of the loft while we were kind of finishing up our leasing. We did have an elevator, thankfully, but I mean, it was an older building too. It wasn't quiet. We're on the corner of literally Main Street.

There's people yelling at all times of night and people drag racing in the middle of the night, things that you get in the city. I had used my time away from work, so I had to go back to work shortly after we had gone through this process. She needed to go and stay with her mom because she needed full-time help. For a month or two, we weren't even staying together.

There's people yelling at all times of night and people drag racing in the middle of the night, things that you get in the city. I had used my time away from work, so I had to go back to work shortly after we had gone through this process. She needed to go and stay with her mom because she needed full-time help. For a month or two, we weren't even staying together.

There's people yelling at all times of night and people drag racing in the middle of the night, things that you get in the city. I had used my time away from work, so I had to go back to work shortly after we had gone through this process. She needed to go and stay with her mom because she needed full-time help. For a month or two, we weren't even staying together.

It was devastating for our relationship at the time. By the time I was able to rejoin them, I felt out of place. I didn't feel like part of the family unit. And I didn't feel like I knew how to take care of my son who had changed so much in his time staying there. I mean, of course, I was going there as much as I could. And I was spending the nights there, probably most nights, but still.

It was devastating for our relationship at the time. By the time I was able to rejoin them, I felt out of place. I didn't feel like part of the family unit. And I didn't feel like I knew how to take care of my son who had changed so much in his time staying there. I mean, of course, I was going there as much as I could. And I was spending the nights there, probably most nights, but still.

It was devastating for our relationship at the time. By the time I was able to rejoin them, I felt out of place. I didn't feel like part of the family unit. And I didn't feel like I knew how to take care of my son who had changed so much in his time staying there. I mean, of course, I was going there as much as I could. And I was spending the nights there, probably most nights, but still.

Yeah, working and then I would drive to go spend the night with moms and come back early to take care of the dogs and go to work. I just remember feeling really, really lost. And I remember even my performance at work really suffering too. I'm just having moments where I'd be working and working and just kind of like look up and just be like, where am I? It was really rough.

Yeah, working and then I would drive to go spend the night with moms and come back early to take care of the dogs and go to work. I just remember feeling really, really lost. And I remember even my performance at work really suffering too. I'm just having moments where I'd be working and working and just kind of like look up and just be like, where am I? It was really rough.

Yeah, working and then I would drive to go spend the night with moms and come back early to take care of the dogs and go to work. I just remember feeling really, really lost. And I remember even my performance at work really suffering too. I'm just having moments where I'd be working and working and just kind of like look up and just be like, where am I? It was really rough.

On top of all the new parent woes that the dad's working and then the mom is overwhelmed, we were both coming to terms with what had happened to us and the negligence and the misguided care that we had gotten. As we're discovering that, I mean, where is all that anger going to go? It wasn't something that united me and Kristen. It kind of formed a wedge between us. I think a lot of it was guilt.

On top of all the new parent woes that the dad's working and then the mom is overwhelmed, we were both coming to terms with what had happened to us and the negligence and the misguided care that we had gotten. As we're discovering that, I mean, where is all that anger going to go? It wasn't something that united me and Kristen. It kind of formed a wedge between us. I think a lot of it was guilt.

On top of all the new parent woes that the dad's working and then the mom is overwhelmed, we were both coming to terms with what had happened to us and the negligence and the misguided care that we had gotten. As we're discovering that, I mean, where is all that anger going to go? It wasn't something that united me and Kristen. It kind of formed a wedge between us. I think a lot of it was guilt.

We felt like we had picked this place that was so negligent and was doing all these things. We were the idiots for doing this. We put our son in danger. And I truly think that's how we felt. And that guilt had a way of taking a toll on our marriage and our relationship. Definitely for the first year, I'd say almost two years, we really, at least for me, felt that guilt upon ourselves.