Tim Molnar

you know, um, are you interested, you know, like, uh, just got back from a trip to Japan, like amazing powder and sushi and someone who's in the ski community understands that they read between the lines and, and like maybe even a question at the end, like, you know, like, let me know if you're up for sushi so that you've given a leading question to someone on the other end that they can more easily respond to.

you know, um, are you interested, you know, like, uh, just got back from a trip to Japan, like amazing powder and sushi and someone who's in the ski community understands that they read between the lines and, and like maybe even a question at the end, like, you know, like, let me know if you're up for sushi so that you've given a leading question to someone on the other end that they can more easily respond to.

you know, um, are you interested, you know, like, uh, just got back from a trip to Japan, like amazing powder and sushi and someone who's in the ski community understands that they read between the lines and, and like maybe even a question at the end, like, you know, like, let me know if you're up for sushi so that you've given a leading question to someone on the other end that they can more easily respond to.

I completely agree. I think we have so much more agency than we give ourselves credit for. And like you're saying, putting a little bit of effort into that differentiates you from a giant swath of the population who's not taking the time to do that.

I completely agree. I think we have so much more agency than we give ourselves credit for. And like you're saying, putting a little bit of effort into that differentiates you from a giant swath of the population who's not taking the time to do that.

I completely agree. I think we have so much more agency than we give ourselves credit for. And like you're saying, putting a little bit of effort into that differentiates you from a giant swath of the population who's not taking the time to do that.

And then in terms of how we're actually engaging once we connect with someone is also going to be really indicative of whether or not this leads to meeting in real life. And so one of the things that I think is just as simple as from here is recognizing these tools. I mean, they are tools. They're great servants, terrible masters. And so if we're using them,

And then in terms of how we're actually engaging once we connect with someone is also going to be really indicative of whether or not this leads to meeting in real life. And so one of the things that I think is just as simple as from here is recognizing these tools. I mean, they are tools. They're great servants, terrible masters. And so if we're using them,

And then in terms of how we're actually engaging once we connect with someone is also going to be really indicative of whether or not this leads to meeting in real life. And so one of the things that I think is just as simple as from here is recognizing these tools. I mean, they are tools. They're great servants, terrible masters. And so if we're using them,

the way they're designed to be used, or I won't even say designed, the way that they can be used, we can move relatively quickly from a brief back and forth into a date. And I think that's really what we want to set the goal at here. We don't want to have these endless pen pal relationships where we're writing and writing for days and days and weeks on end.

the way they're designed to be used, or I won't even say designed, the way that they can be used, we can move relatively quickly from a brief back and forth into a date. And I think that's really what we want to set the goal at here. We don't want to have these endless pen pal relationships where we're writing and writing for days and days and weeks on end.

the way they're designed to be used, or I won't even say designed, the way that they can be used, we can move relatively quickly from a brief back and forth into a date. And I think that's really what we want to set the goal at here. We don't want to have these endless pen pal relationships where we're writing and writing for days and days and weeks on end.

That's not why many people are on the apps. And if you are, find another platform. So I think if we're using these intentionally and thoughtfully, we can do a lot to differentiate ourselves and move more into that other group of the bimodal distribution that I was talking about of people who have had a lot of success on the apps and are going on dates with interesting people.

That's not why many people are on the apps. And if you are, find another platform. So I think if we're using these intentionally and thoughtfully, we can do a lot to differentiate ourselves and move more into that other group of the bimodal distribution that I was talking about of people who have had a lot of success on the apps and are going on dates with interesting people.

That's not why many people are on the apps. And if you are, find another platform. So I think if we're using these intentionally and thoughtfully, we can do a lot to differentiate ourselves and move more into that other group of the bimodal distribution that I was talking about of people who have had a lot of success on the apps and are going on dates with interesting people.

So there's a concept that has been talked about a bit before that I expand on in the book. And it's this idea known as the secretary problem. It discusses when do we know when we should stop dating.

So there's a concept that has been talked about a bit before that I expand on in the book. And it's this idea known as the secretary problem. It discusses when do we know when we should stop dating.

So there's a concept that has been talked about a bit before that I expand on in the book. And it's this idea known as the secretary problem. It discusses when do we know when we should stop dating.

So we run into this paradox of choice sometimes in the apps where there's so many options and there's the temptation to continue swiping to try and find this partner who's as good looking as this ex and as funny and charismatic as this ex and whose in-laws you got along well as this other ex.

So we run into this paradox of choice sometimes in the apps where there's so many options and there's the temptation to continue swiping to try and find this partner who's as good looking as this ex and as funny and charismatic as this ex and whose in-laws you got along well as this other ex.