Tim Urban

But I still think it's case by case in that there's like a meter in everyone's head that I think on –

at a 10, you're experiencing just immense gratitude, right?

Which is a euphoric feeling.

It's a great feeling.

And it makes you happy to savor what you have, to look down at the mountain of stuff you have that you're standing on, right?

To look down at it and say, oh my God, I'm so lucky.

And I'm so grateful for this and this and this.

And obviously that's a happy exercise.

Now,

When you move the meter down to six or seven, maybe you think that sometimes, but you're not always thinking that because you're sometimes looking up at this cloud of things that you don't have and the things that they have, but you don't, or the things you wished you had, or you thought you were going to have or whatever.

And that's the opposite direction to look, right?

And that's the, either that's envy, that's yearning, or often it's, if you think about your past, it's grievance.

Yeah.

And so then you go on tour one and you have someone who feels like a complete victim.

They are just a victim of the society, of their siblings and their parents and their loved one.

And they are wallowing in fear.

Everything that's happened wrong to me, everything I should have that I don't, everything that has gone wrong for me.

And so that's a very unhealthy, mentally unhealthy place to be.

Anyone can go there.

You know, there's an endless list of stuff it can be aggrieved about and an endless list of stuff you can have gratitude for.