TJ Power

As a hunter gatherer, if you were cast aside from the tribe, that would have been the most anxious and stressful experience ever because you would not survive alone in the wild and your oxytocin level would become extremely low because you were disconnected from the group. For many of us now, because this chemical is under satisfied, whilst we're not out there in the wild on our own,

As a hunter gatherer, if you were cast aside from the tribe, that would have been the most anxious and stressful experience ever because you would not survive alone in the wild and your oxytocin level would become extremely low because you were disconnected from the group. For many of us now, because this chemical is under satisfied, whilst we're not out there in the wild on our own,

Our biochemistry almost perceives that we are because it's not satisfied from a connection point of view. So touch is at the forefront. Then the way in which you socially connect with people is really important. So when you're with people, the eye contact you make, the questions you ask, how well you listen, how engaged you are in that conversation and not distracted by technology.

Our biochemistry almost perceives that we are because it's not satisfied from a connection point of view. So touch is at the forefront. Then the way in which you socially connect with people is really important. So when you're with people, the eye contact you make, the questions you ask, how well you listen, how engaged you are in that conversation and not distracted by technology.

These kind of things enable good oxytocin to transfer between you.

These kind of things enable good oxytocin to transfer between you.

Yeah, and that's super accurate. As our brain evolved over hundreds of thousands of years, it never necessarily could have perceived that we were going to come up with these little glass screens that could create the experience of connecting with humans without you even being there.

Yeah, and that's super accurate. As our brain evolved over hundreds of thousands of years, it never necessarily could have perceived that we were going to come up with these little glass screens that could create the experience of connecting with humans without you even being there.

And when you look into these research studies, yes, being face-to-face in person and physically having a moment of embracing one another is the absolute goal. There's even this great study by this lady called Seltzer who just compares people sending each other messages versus people calling one another. And when we receive texts, no oxytocin transfers in the brain.

And when you look into these research studies, yes, being face-to-face in person and physically having a moment of embracing one another is the absolute goal. There's even this great study by this lady called Seltzer who just compares people sending each other messages versus people calling one another. And when we receive texts, no oxytocin transfers in the brain.

When we call one another and we hear one another's voices, oxytocin does begin to transfer. And it just really makes you think with many aspects of society, whether it's Parents calling their kids they're at university or your partner's away for a while or you're in the dating world and you're on like apps like Hinge or whatever it might be.

When we call one another and we hear one another's voices, oxytocin does begin to transfer. And it just really makes you think with many aspects of society, whether it's Parents calling their kids they're at university or your partner's away for a while or you're in the dating world and you're on like apps like Hinge or whatever it might be.

So much is digital based when we're actually looking for something that requires the sound of someone's voice to stimulate the hormone that we're actually chasing in the first place.

So much is digital based when we're actually looking for something that requires the sound of someone's voice to stimulate the hormone that we're actually chasing in the first place.

Yeah, it really is. And I noticed that I have a good relationship with my brother and I haven't seen him for over a year in real life. And he lives out in Bali. And we noticed that we hadn't been calling much, but we had been texting. But we noticed that we just really weren't bonding. And then we were like, okay, let's intentionally start calling.

Yeah, it really is. And I noticed that I have a good relationship with my brother and I haven't seen him for over a year in real life. And he lives out in Bali. And we noticed that we hadn't been calling much, but we had been texting. But we noticed that we just really weren't bonding. And then we were like, okay, let's intentionally start calling.

And suddenly it's a very different experience because we now hear each other's voices on the phones. And when you're a very young baby lying in a cot, so much of your oxytocin comes from hearing the sound of your primary caregiver's voices and then knowing, okay, they're near me, I'm safe. And it came from sound and also came from touch.

And suddenly it's a very different experience because we now hear each other's voices on the phones. And when you're a very young baby lying in a cot, so much of your oxytocin comes from hearing the sound of your primary caregiver's voices and then knowing, okay, they're near me, I'm safe. And it came from sound and also came from touch.

A baby wasn't growing up reading a little message saying, okay, now I'm safe because I've read a message. And with these primal things that are deeply wired into our brain are important to consider.

A baby wasn't growing up reading a little message saying, okay, now I'm safe because I've read a message. And with these primal things that are deeply wired into our brain are important to consider.