Tom Bilyeu

and so that was the why i called the only belief that matters that ended up dictating every step i made after that so the reason i put myself around people that were going so hard was because i believed that i could improve if i didn't believe i could improve and i actually had a moment of crisis when i was with them because they were so much farther ahead than me in every aspect

They were more muscular than I was.

They were smarter than I was.

They were farther ahead in business than I was.

And it just like was just this unrelenting parade of why I was a loser.

And I thought, okay, well, hold on.

If you believe you can get better, then you need to switch your mentality.

Because I was thinking of leaving.

Because I'm like, this is so miserable to always be the worst.

And

If it's true that they're the surest path to my success, which at the time it really, really seemed obvious that they were, then I need to build my self-esteem around something more useful than being smarter than them because I'm not smarter than them.

And that gave me the insight to, okay, think of yourself solely as the learner and pride yourself on being the learner.

So don't pride yourself on being right.

Pride yourself on admitting you were wrong faster than anyone else.

And then putting the energy behind the right idea.

And that changed my life.

That that's like the one moment that's like, I remember where I was when I had the realization, it's a demarcation point in my life.

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But ultimately, it came from the belief that brain plasticity was real, meaning if I put time and energy into getting better, I actually will get better.

And so that was the thing that lifted that hopelessness off my shoulders.