Tommy Metz III

Now, this is where Sting is a role model for all. Some tantric practices involve delaying or avoiding orgasm to cultivate, to harness sexual energy. And that can go for days and days and days. If I take a vacation for a week and you just don't hear from me, there's a non-zero chance I'm trying something new.

Now, this is where Sting is a role model for all. Some tantric practices involve delaying or avoiding orgasm to cultivate, to harness sexual energy. And that can go for days and days and days. If I take a vacation for a week and you just don't hear from me, there's a non-zero chance I'm trying something new.

So I think this is really fascinating because the ultimate goal of or not, I'm not going to say goal because I'm not a practicing tantric experientialist. It seems to it seems to me that one of the outcomes of tantric experience is a more enthusiastic experience.

So I think this is really fascinating because the ultimate goal of or not, I'm not going to say goal because I'm not a practicing tantric experientialist. It seems to it seems to me that one of the outcomes of tantric experience is a more enthusiastic experience.

orgasmic experience right you restrain for so long that it's just a much bigger sort of right holistic experience and chastity again does not says you're not leading to the big finale there is no finale because there was no show because the show is yes got it the show was canceled yeah exactly right

orgasmic experience right you restrain for so long that it's just a much bigger sort of right holistic experience and chastity again does not says you're not leading to the big finale there is no finale because there was no show because the show is yes got it the show was canceled yeah exactly right

Tantra is, you know, the thing that's misunderstood about Tantra is that it's not always just about sexual practices, apparently. The reputation from Sting is that, you know, because we get into the pop culture headlines of Sting does this thing. And that was my memory of him in the 90s.

Tantra is, you know, the thing that's misunderstood about Tantra is that it's not always just about sexual practices, apparently. The reputation from Sting is that, you know, because we get into the pop culture headlines of Sting does this thing. And that was my memory of him in the 90s.

No, that's totally it. So it's largely misunderstood. And I think by the same token, chastity, when you take it out of the spiritual context, out of the religious context, it does not have to be about complete abstinence, right? It's a really nuanced approach to sexuality and spirituality. And I think that's the important thing that gets lost.

No, that's totally it. So it's largely misunderstood. And I think by the same token, chastity, when you take it out of the spiritual context, out of the religious context, it does not have to be about complete abstinence, right? It's a really nuanced approach to sexuality and spirituality. And I think that's the important thing that gets lost.

that everything just becomes black and white when you talk about chastity. You do or you do not. And if you don't, you are better. And if you do, right, and smarter. And the other piece of this is that there are many people out there writing about the idea of the death of chastity and what that does to our relationships, right? That there is this spectrum of

that everything just becomes black and white when you talk about chastity. You do or you do not. And if you don't, you are better. And if you do, right, and smarter. And the other piece of this is that there are many people out there writing about the idea of the death of chastity and what that does to our relationships, right? That there is this spectrum of

There's childishness on one side, that if you are chaste, you are childish or childlike, right? And on the other side, there is hookup sex, right? That it is, you're the opposite of chaste. You're just hooking up for the immediate gratification.

There's childishness on one side, that if you are chaste, you are childish or childlike, right? And on the other side, there is hookup sex, right? That it is, you're the opposite of chaste. You're just hooking up for the immediate gratification.

Yeah. Exactly. And there are many mental health professionals out there who are writing and sex experts who are saying, look, maybe if you slow down a little bit and you build stronger emotional relationships under the guise of or the definition of chastity, right, be more chaste for a while, you will have better, more sort of soul-fulfilling sex when you do. And that's the takeaway, right?

Yeah. Exactly. And there are many mental health professionals out there who are writing and sex experts who are saying, look, maybe if you slow down a little bit and you build stronger emotional relationships under the guise of or the definition of chastity, right, be more chaste for a while, you will have better, more sort of soul-fulfilling sex when you do. And that's the takeaway, right?

But it's that's not related to dogma. Right. That's related to emotional well-being and mental health. Right. And I think that's the important part that this term that, you know, Ron are Ron Rollheiser writes this this term about it. He says, there's a certain ennui and fatigue and an ultra sophistication that believes all taboos may be broken.

But it's that's not related to dogma. Right. That's related to emotional well-being and mental health. Right. And I think that's the important part that this term that, you know, Ron are Ron Rollheiser writes this this term about it. He says, there's a certain ennui and fatigue and an ultra sophistication that believes all taboos may be broken.

And there's a vibrancy and happiness that's felt in keeping your shoes off before the burning bush. Note in every one of these dualisms, chastity speaks for soul, for wisdom, for respect, and for happiness. A generation earlier, a renowned educator, Alan Bloom, writing out of a purely secular perspective, came to this conclusion.

And there's a vibrancy and happiness that's felt in keeping your shoes off before the burning bush. Note in every one of these dualisms, chastity speaks for soul, for wisdom, for respect, and for happiness. A generation earlier, a renowned educator, Alan Bloom, writing out of a purely secular perspective, came to this conclusion.