Travis (Big Yeti Kelsey)

Yeah, I mean, the old dad shoes suggest otherwise, but those are the I'm-out-the-game shoes right there.

Yeah, I mean, the old dad shoes suggest otherwise, but those are the I'm-out-the-game shoes right there.

Yeah, I mean, the old dad shoes suggest otherwise, but those are the I'm-out-the-game shoes right there.

I felt the hunger deep inside So off to Chili's I did ride My hunger knew just what to do But then I felt it in my chair My stomach was ill-prepared I sat on the toilet and then it blew Chips and queso

I felt the hunger deep inside So off to Chili's I did ride My hunger knew just what to do But then I felt it in my chair My stomach was ill-prepared I sat on the toilet and then it blew Chips and queso

I felt the hunger deep inside So off to Chili's I did ride My hunger knew just what to do But then I felt it in my chair My stomach was ill-prepared I sat on the toilet and then it blew Chips and queso

I have two kids, and I seem to be able to experience all of the sort of negative emotions of parenting, over exhaustion, frustration, fear, responsibility. But I have yet to experience the real highs of parenting that other people talk about, sort of the joy that fills them up. And so I'm three years in and I'm starting to get concerned.

I have two kids, and I seem to be able to experience all of the sort of negative emotions of parenting, over exhaustion, frustration, fear, responsibility. But I have yet to experience the real highs of parenting that other people talk about, sort of the joy that fills them up. And so I'm three years in and I'm starting to get concerned.

A couple of boys and they are both great. The first one was definitely a tougher baby, but you know, I don't know if that was part of just becoming a new parent, but I think he was just a bit more tricky. Second one has been pretty good, right? Like that's why I said good on paper, right? I don't really have a lot to complain about.

A couple of boys and they are both great. The first one was definitely a tougher baby, but you know, I don't know if that was part of just becoming a new parent, but I think he was just a bit more tricky. Second one has been pretty good, right? Like that's why I said good on paper, right? I don't really have a lot to complain about.

Tell me about it. It is. But I guess part of why it concerns me so much is that my wife derives so much joy from the children. Yeah. And it's hard for her to see me not sharing in that. Okay.

Tell me about it. It is. But I guess part of why it concerns me so much is that my wife derives so much joy from the children. Yeah. And it's hard for her to see me not sharing in that. Okay.

I grew up right here in the Valley. I grew up in a fairly religious household.

I grew up right here in the Valley. I grew up in a fairly religious household.

It's a complicated thing. There you go. All right. Let's put it this way. I'm not religious anymore. Okay. All right. My mother passed away when I was 11. Okay. Uh, the, I sort of have like a very much older sister. There's like a big gap to my older sister and me. Uh, so she's been more kind of like an aunt in my life. Uh, and then I have one younger sister is closer in age.

It's a complicated thing. There you go. All right. Let's put it this way. I'm not religious anymore. Okay. All right. My mother passed away when I was 11. Okay. Uh, the, I sort of have like a very much older sister. There's like a big gap to my older sister and me. Uh, so she's been more kind of like an aunt in my life. Uh, and then I have one younger sister is closer in age.

You didn't mention your dad. Where's your old man? Uh, he's still around. He's still like very helpful. He, you know, he is the guy that I can call at any time and he will show up. No questions asked. Um, if there's sort of a problem, like, but he, uh, there's never been like strong, like emotional conversations, if that makes sense. Absolutely. Right. Like very stoic, very helpful, very wise.

You didn't mention your dad. Where's your old man? Uh, he's still around. He's still like very helpful. He, you know, he is the guy that I can call at any time and he will show up. No questions asked. Um, if there's sort of a problem, like, but he, uh, there's never been like strong, like emotional conversations, if that makes sense. Absolutely. Right. Like very stoic, very helpful, very wise.

But, um, it's almost like he's, he's being the arbitrator, being the therapist. Like he's listening, he's taking it in, he's offering some advice, but like sometimes I feel like I don't know like what he actually thinks.

But, um, it's almost like he's, he's being the arbitrator, being the therapist. Like he's listening, he's taking it in, he's offering some advice, but like sometimes I feel like I don't know like what he actually thinks.

Yeah, and you are meant to be the pillar. You are meant to be the rock upon which everything is built on.

Yeah, and you are meant to be the pillar. You are meant to be the rock upon which everything is built on.

I was pretty all over the place. I was pretty wild. I was probably a pretty annoying child to a lot of people, but I was a big bundle of joy. I had fun all the time.

I was pretty all over the place. I was pretty wild. I was probably a pretty annoying child to a lot of people, but I was a big bundle of joy. I had fun all the time.

I mostly just didn't like, I remember I just like, I think I went to a friend's house that day. Like I just didn't want to acknowledge it. I just left. I just continued on my way.

I mostly just didn't like, I remember I just like, I think I went to a friend's house that day. Like I just didn't want to acknowledge it. I just left. I just continued on my way.

I did. When I was in my 20s, I think I finally just let go of the guilt. I felt like I hadn't treated her right up until she died, but I was 10.

I did. When I was in my 20s, I think I finally just let go of the guilt. I felt like I hadn't treated her right up until she died, but I was 10.

It took over a decade, but I think I finally got – I don't feel guilt when I think about it now. Good.

It took over a decade, but I think I finally got – I don't feel guilt when I think about it now. Good.

Yeah, that's right, yeah.

Yeah, that's right, yeah.

Can I recontextualize a little bit of that for you?

Can I recontextualize a little bit of that for you?

And the time when my body shut down had like nothing to do with like where I'm at now with like my kids. I don't think I'm very good at my job. It took me like seven years to get through college. I did get married, right? I'm a fiscally responsible person. So like we're set, right? There's not stressors there. But when my body, like when I noticed that like,

And the time when my body shut down had like nothing to do with like where I'm at now with like my kids. I don't think I'm very good at my job. It took me like seven years to get through college. I did get married, right? I'm a fiscally responsible person. So like we're set, right? There's not stressors there. But when my body, like when I noticed that like,

I kind of changed fundamentally was in college. I was really, really miserable comparing myself to like my fellow high school mates and my wife who were all doing really amazing in college. And I was just kind of struggling and floundering. And then at the time I thought like, Oh, you know, I have, I've, I've conquered it. I don't feel bad anymore.

I kind of changed fundamentally was in college. I was really, really miserable comparing myself to like my fellow high school mates and my wife who were all doing really amazing in college. And I was just kind of struggling and floundering. And then at the time I thought like, Oh, you know, I have, I've, I've conquered it. I don't feel bad anymore.

But looking back, I feel like I have fundamentally changed since then where like, I don't, I just don't feel. That's it.

But looking back, I feel like I have fundamentally changed since then where like, I don't, I just don't feel. That's it.

But I seem to only care when people look. I have a therapist, and the way I describe it is I kind of have this ramshackle house. There's stuff in the gutters. The lawn needs to be mowed, right? You could probably use a pressure wash. I don't mind it. It's okay with me, but I don't like when people look. I don't want to have them over.

But I seem to only care when people look. I have a therapist, and the way I describe it is I kind of have this ramshackle house. There's stuff in the gutters. The lawn needs to be mowed, right? You could probably use a pressure wash. I don't mind it. It's okay with me, but I don't like when people look. I don't want to have them over.

Yeah, it's kind of both. I feel like I am a good dad.

Yeah, it's kind of both. I feel like I am a good dad.

I have two kids, and I seem to be able to experience all of the sort of negative emotions of parenting, over exhaustion, frustration, fear, responsibility. But I have yet to experience the real highs of parenting that other people talk about, sort of the joy that fills them up. And so I'm three years in and I'm starting to get concerned.

A couple of boys and they are both great. The first one was definitely a tougher baby, but you know, I don't know if that was part of just becoming a new parent, but I think he was just a bit more tricky. Second one has been pretty good, right? Like that's why I said good on paper, right? I don't really have a lot to complain about.

Tell me about it. It is. But I guess part of why it concerns me so much is that my wife derives so much joy from the children. Yeah. And it's hard for her to see me not sharing in that. Okay.

I grew up right here in the Valley. I grew up in a fairly religious household.

It's a complicated thing. There you go. All right. Let's put it this way. I'm not religious anymore. Okay. All right. My mother passed away when I was 11. Okay. Uh, the, I sort of have like a very much older sister. There's like a big gap to my older sister and me. Uh, so she's been more kind of like an aunt in my life. Uh, and then I have one younger sister is closer in age.

You didn't mention your dad. Where's your old man? Uh, he's still around. He's still like very helpful. He, you know, he is the guy that I can call at any time and he will show up. No questions asked. Um, if there's sort of a problem, like, but he, uh, there's never been like strong, like emotional conversations, if that makes sense. Absolutely. Right. Like very stoic, very helpful, very wise.

But, um, it's almost like he's, he's being the arbitrator, being the therapist. Like he's listening, he's taking it in, he's offering some advice, but like sometimes I feel like I don't know like what he actually thinks.

Yeah, and you are meant to be the pillar. You are meant to be the rock upon which everything is built on.

I was pretty all over the place. I was pretty wild. I was probably a pretty annoying child to a lot of people, but I was a big bundle of joy. I had fun all the time.

I mostly just didn't like, I remember I just like, I think I went to a friend's house that day. Like I just didn't want to acknowledge it. I just left. I just continued on my way.

I did. When I was in my 20s, I think I finally just let go of the guilt. I felt like I hadn't treated her right up until she died, but I was 10.

It took over a decade, but I think I finally got – I don't feel guilt when I think about it now. Good.

Yeah, that's right, yeah.

Can I recontextualize a little bit of that for you?

And the time when my body shut down had like nothing to do with like where I'm at now with like my kids. I don't think I'm very good at my job. It took me like seven years to get through college. I did get married, right? I'm a fiscally responsible person. So like we're set, right? There's not stressors there. But when my body, like when I noticed that like,

I kind of changed fundamentally was in college. I was really, really miserable comparing myself to like my fellow high school mates and my wife who were all doing really amazing in college. And I was just kind of struggling and floundering. And then at the time I thought like, Oh, you know, I have, I've, I've conquered it. I don't feel bad anymore.

But looking back, I feel like I have fundamentally changed since then where like, I don't, I just don't feel. That's it.

But I seem to only care when people look. I have a therapist, and the way I describe it is I kind of have this ramshackle house. There's stuff in the gutters. The lawn needs to be mowed, right? You could probably use a pressure wash. I don't mind it. It's okay with me, but I don't like when people look. I don't want to have them over.

Yeah, it's kind of both. I feel like I am a good dad.

So this is my question. Right now I'm driving to work, and it's costing me quite a bit of money because I drive a three-quarter ton pickup truck. I'm planning on buying a cheap little gas zipper four-cylinder car. My question is, when I do buy that car, this truck is totally mechanically sound, nothing wrong with it, has high miles.

So this is my question. Right now I'm driving to work, and it's costing me quite a bit of money because I drive a three-quarter ton pickup truck. I'm planning on buying a cheap little gas zipper four-cylinder car. My question is, when I do buy that car, this truck is totally mechanically sound, nothing wrong with it, has high miles.

Do I park it in my garage, keep it for a spare, or do I sell it and invest the money?

Do I park it in my garage, keep it for a spare, or do I sell it and invest the money?

$10,000.

$10,000.

Well, I just started investing and only like, only like 3000 right now.

Well, I just started investing and only like, only like 3000 right now.

Yes. Okay.

Yes. Okay.

Right. And, well, if I'm buying a cheap car and if that does go down on me, I will have a backup.

Right. And, well, if I'm buying a cheap car and if that does go down on me, I will have a backup.

So we started with about $150,000. Right now, currently, we make about $135,000. And in the middle there for a big chunk, it goes up to about $250,000. Okay, cool. What do y'all do for a living? We're both teachers. I'm a teacher and a coach. She's a math coach, actually.

So we started with about $150,000. Right now, currently, we make about $135,000. And in the middle there for a big chunk, it goes up to about $250,000. Okay, cool. What do y'all do for a living? We're both teachers. I'm a teacher and a coach. She's a math coach, actually.

I've only been a teacher for six years.

I've only been a teacher for six years.

Yes, I was in retail management for almost 20 years, 18 years.

Yes, I was in retail management for almost 20 years, 18 years.

Well, we were... doing like most people, I guess, and spending every bit of raise that we got, and just, you know, we could afford the payment, so we'd buy it, and we had the payment, and then we came to realize that we're making, you know, what felt like a ton of money back then, and we didn't have any money left over. So one of my friends, actually, told me about this Dave Ramsey guy.

Well, we were... doing like most people, I guess, and spending every bit of raise that we got, and just, you know, we could afford the payment, so we'd buy it, and we had the payment, and then we came to realize that we're making, you know, what felt like a ton of money back then, and we didn't have any money left over. So one of my friends, actually, told me about this Dave Ramsey guy.

I came home, and I told her about this Dave Ramsey guy, and we went and bought your book. And she actually read it first in basically one evening, and she said it sounded great. Next day, I read it. We both said it sounded great, and we just went with it. Whoa.

I came home, and I told her about this Dave Ramsey guy, and we went and bought your book. And she actually read it first in basically one evening, and she said it sounded great. Next day, I read it. We both said it sounded great, and we just went with it. Whoa.

Well, we paid aggressively. We paid off all our consumer debt, $92,000 of it in 18 months to two years. And we were progressively paying for the house until my son got into about junior high age. And we realized we wanted to spend some money on vacations and some experiences with him. So we kind of stopped aggressively paying on the house. We were down to...

Well, we paid aggressively. We paid off all our consumer debt, $92,000 of it in 18 months to two years. And we were progressively paying for the house until my son got into about junior high age. And we realized we wanted to spend some money on vacations and some experiences with him. So we kind of stopped aggressively paying on the house. We were down to...

How long did we – we had about $70,000 left on the house, and we kind of just were cruising on it. And actually, thanks to my mother-in-law, she just actually paid off the last $70,000 for us. Whoa! Wow! Pretty cool. Absolutely, yes.

How long did we – we had about $70,000 left on the house, and we kind of just were cruising on it. And actually, thanks to my mother-in-law, she just actually paid off the last $70,000 for us. Whoa! Wow! Pretty cool. Absolutely, yes.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

We were excited. We read that book. She read it first. I read it the next day. I was like, man, let's get started. We were excited.

We were excited. We read that book. She read it first. I read it the next day. I was like, man, let's get started. We were excited.

Eight hours of Dave Ramsey podcast. Oh, God.

Eight hours of Dave Ramsey podcast. Oh, God.

So we started with about $150,000. Right now, currently, we make about $135,000. And in the middle there for a big chunk, it goes up to about $250,000. Okay, cool. What do y'all do for a living? We're both teachers. I'm a teacher and a coach. She's a math coach, actually.

I've only been a teacher for six years.

Yes, I was in retail management for almost 20 years, 18 years.

Well, we were... doing like most people, I guess, and spending every bit of raise that we got, and just, you know, we could afford the payment, so we'd buy it, and we had the payment, and then we came to realize that we're making, you know, what felt like a ton of money back then, and we didn't have any money left over. So one of my friends, actually, told me about this Dave Ramsey guy.

I came home, and I told her about this Dave Ramsey guy, and we went and bought your book. And she actually read it first in basically one evening, and she said it sounded great. Next day, I read it. We both said it sounded great, and we just went with it. Whoa.

Well, we paid aggressively. We paid off all our consumer debt, $92,000 of it in 18 months to two years. And we were progressively paying for the house until my son got into about junior high age. And we realized we wanted to spend some money on vacations and some experiences with him. So we kind of stopped aggressively paying on the house. We were down to...

How long did we – we had about $70,000 left on the house, and we kind of just were cruising on it. And actually, thanks to my mother-in-law, she just actually paid off the last $70,000 for us. Whoa! Wow! Pretty cool. Absolutely, yes.

Absolutely.

We were excited. We read that book. She read it first. I read it the next day. I was like, man, let's get started. We were excited.

Eight hours of Dave Ramsey podcast. Oh, God.

So this is my question. Right now I'm driving to work, and it's costing me quite a bit of money because I drive a three-quarter ton pickup truck. I'm planning on buying a cheap little gas zipper four-cylinder car. My question is, when I do buy that car, this truck is totally mechanically sound, nothing wrong with it, has high miles.

Do I park it in my garage, keep it for a spare, or do I sell it and invest the money?

$10,000.

Well, I just started investing and only like, only like 3000 right now.

Yes. Okay.

Right. And, well, if I'm buying a cheap car and if that does go down on me, I will have a backup.