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Hi, how are you doing?

Hi, how are you doing?

You know, sitting on the floor throwing treats at my dogs to try to keep them quiet.

You know, sitting on the floor throwing treats at my dogs to try to keep them quiet.

I'm going to read my question because I tend to fumble.

I'm going to read my question because I tend to fumble.

How do I metabolize anger and resentment towards my father, who is a therapist, while I also pursue my own career in therapy?

How do I metabolize anger and resentment towards my father, who is a therapist, while I also pursue my own career in therapy?

Um, I mean, obviously it kind of goes back to being a kid, but the big thing is, is I just see a big disconnect between his work life and his family life.

Um, I mean, obviously it kind of goes back to being a kid, but the big thing is, is I just see a big disconnect between his work life and his family life.

Um, but the thing is, is he's a, he's an amazing therapist. So it's kind of like there's, there's like confusion on my side too on how those don't connect.

Um, but the thing is, is he's a, he's an amazing therapist. So it's kind of like there's, there's like confusion on my side too on how those don't connect.

Okay.

Okay.

Um, well, I, I probably just say like, he, he wasn't always a therapist. He became a therapist within the, like the last eight years. Um, but he, he kind of like self-diagnoses himself as a workaholic and he, he knows it. Um, so like as a kid, I just kind of always felt abandoned by him. Um, But a lot of what my anger comes from is recent stuff between him and my mom.

Um, well, I, I probably just say like, he, he wasn't always a therapist. He became a therapist within the, like the last eight years. Um, but he, he kind of like self-diagnoses himself as a workaholic and he, he knows it. Um, so like as a kid, I just kind of always felt abandoned by him. Um, But a lot of what my anger comes from is recent stuff between him and my mom.

And I know it's not my place to get in the middle of that. It might be.

And I know it's not my place to get in the middle of that. It might be.

They had a really rocky start. They did not... start off their marriage in the best way. Um, and there was a lot of really bad stuff that kind of happened between them in the first couple of years. And they've been married for over 30 years now. Um, but now they're empty nesters and my dad is kind of using his, his therapy knowledge kind of against my mom. Um,

They had a really rocky start. They did not... start off their marriage in the best way. Um, and there was a lot of really bad stuff that kind of happened between them in the first couple of years. And they've been married for over 30 years now. Um, but now they're empty nesters and my dad is kind of using his, his therapy knowledge kind of against my mom. Um,

And it's really frustrating for me because I'm going to school to become a trauma therapist. And what I learned, I've applied to my life. And my dad is such a smart guy. He's really smart. And I'm really frustrated with his behavior and how he treats my mom. And some of the stuff that's coming out that I'm learning is just, it's really, really bad. And

And it's really frustrating for me because I'm going to school to become a trauma therapist. And what I learned, I've applied to my life. And my dad is such a smart guy. He's really smart. And I'm really frustrated with his behavior and how he treats my mom. And some of the stuff that's coming out that I'm learning is just, it's really, really bad. And

I don't know where my place is to step in or not because I'm the youngest child of five.

I don't know where my place is to step in or not because I'm the youngest child of five.

Yeah, I'm in undergraduate. I'm kind of taking it slow so that, you know, no debt.

Yeah, I'm in undergraduate. I'm kind of taking it slow so that, you know, no debt.

But I do a lot of my own studying off the course as well.

But I do a lot of my own studying off the course as well.

Uh, yeah. Yeah. I'm like mid twenties.

Uh, yeah. Yeah. I'm like mid twenties.

Oh yeah.

Oh yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, no, I'm, I'm very, very aware of that. Cause I actually, a lot of this started before I even got into school and I've been listening to your show forever. Um, And I actually learn a lot from you, which is kind of fun. Well, I appreciate it.

Yeah, no, I'm, I'm very, very aware of that. Cause I actually, a lot of this started before I even got into school and I've been listening to your show forever. Um, And I actually learn a lot from you, which is kind of fun. Well, I appreciate it.

Yeah. I quickly understood that in the beginning, and I was like, okay, this is not a good idea.

Yeah. I quickly understood that in the beginning, and I was like, okay, this is not a good idea.

I actively try to close the book on myself.

I actively try to close the book on myself.

Yeah, no, it's weirdly enough, even though I'm the youngest, and I know this isn't healthy, and I've tried to back off on it, but... Both of them do kind of come to me to talk about stuff, or at least my dad does sometimes because he knows I'm interested in therapy, but then I get his side of the story and then my mom's side, and it's like they're two different things.

Yeah, no, it's weirdly enough, even though I'm the youngest, and I know this isn't healthy, and I've tried to back off on it, but... Both of them do kind of come to me to talk about stuff, or at least my dad does sometimes because he knows I'm interested in therapy, but then I get his side of the story and then my mom's side, and it's like they're two different things.

A little bit, yeah.

A little bit, yeah.

That's actually one thing that I learned from your show that I actually kind of did with my dad.

That's actually one thing that I learned from your show that I actually kind of did with my dad.

Cause he, he would try to like bad mouth my mom and I'm like, Hey, I'm not here to talk about my mom. Good. This is a, this is a different conversation.

Cause he, he would try to like bad mouth my mom and I'm like, Hey, I'm not here to talk about my mom. Good. This is a, this is a different conversation.

She doesn't.

She doesn't.

Hi, how are you doing?

You know, sitting on the floor throwing treats at my dogs to try to keep them quiet.

I'm going to read my question because I tend to fumble.

How do I metabolize anger and resentment towards my father, who is a therapist, while I also pursue my own career in therapy?

Um, I mean, obviously it kind of goes back to being a kid, but the big thing is, is I just see a big disconnect between his work life and his family life.

Um, but the thing is, is he's a, he's an amazing therapist. So it's kind of like there's, there's like confusion on my side too on how those don't connect.

Okay.

Um, well, I, I probably just say like, he, he wasn't always a therapist. He became a therapist within the, like the last eight years. Um, but he, he kind of like self-diagnoses himself as a workaholic and he, he knows it. Um, so like as a kid, I just kind of always felt abandoned by him. Um, But a lot of what my anger comes from is recent stuff between him and my mom.

And I know it's not my place to get in the middle of that. It might be.

They had a really rocky start. They did not... start off their marriage in the best way. Um, and there was a lot of really bad stuff that kind of happened between them in the first couple of years. And they've been married for over 30 years now. Um, but now they're empty nesters and my dad is kind of using his, his therapy knowledge kind of against my mom. Um,

And it's really frustrating for me because I'm going to school to become a trauma therapist. And what I learned, I've applied to my life. And my dad is such a smart guy. He's really smart. And I'm really frustrated with his behavior and how he treats my mom. And some of the stuff that's coming out that I'm learning is just, it's really, really bad. And

I don't know where my place is to step in or not because I'm the youngest child of five.

Yeah, I'm in undergraduate. I'm kind of taking it slow so that, you know, no debt.

But I do a lot of my own studying off the course as well.

Uh, yeah. Yeah. I'm like mid twenties.

Oh yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, no, I'm, I'm very, very aware of that. Cause I actually, a lot of this started before I even got into school and I've been listening to your show forever. Um, And I actually learn a lot from you, which is kind of fun. Well, I appreciate it.

Yeah. I quickly understood that in the beginning, and I was like, okay, this is not a good idea.

I actively try to close the book on myself.

Yeah, no, it's weirdly enough, even though I'm the youngest, and I know this isn't healthy, and I've tried to back off on it, but... Both of them do kind of come to me to talk about stuff, or at least my dad does sometimes because he knows I'm interested in therapy, but then I get his side of the story and then my mom's side, and it's like they're two different things.

A little bit, yeah.

That's actually one thing that I learned from your show that I actually kind of did with my dad.

Cause he, he would try to like bad mouth my mom and I'm like, Hey, I'm not here to talk about my mom. Good. This is a, this is a different conversation.

She doesn't.