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It's coming from family members who have seen a more detailed death certificate than has been released to the public.

But how do we know?

How do they know this information if those reports have not been made official?

There are so many confusing details about this case, Nancy.

Well, Nancy, I think this speaks to a larger issue that I see in blended families especially.

Sometimes adults minimize concerning behaviors because acknowledging them, Nancy, would mean they have to confront deeper problems in the family structure.

And there's often like this pressure to present this unified, happy family image.

But when children don't feel safe and their safety doesn't come first, and especially when a young woman says she's uncomfortable when a boyfriend reportedly witnessing inappropriate behavior, I mean, those things can't be dismissed.

So I would suggest that she probably didn't tell her parents because of whatever the family dynamics probably could have been, minimization, dismissing, or there was no safety there.

So she confided in her parents.

boyfriend at the time and perhaps friends.

But we see this very common in blended families when the picture of the happy family comes before the safety and the feelings of the children, Nancy.

It means a couple of things, Nancy, in that interview, her talking about his demons.

So did the family know that he had some struggles and they weren't adequately addressed?

And then the critical question to me becomes, then where were the adults if they were aware of these demons and if he's emotionally distressed in these types of things, right, that can be a shock.

truly a shock because we do have situations, Nancy, where when people go into what we would call a narcissistic type of rage, when they get some type of rejection or they're not getting the things that they want, that in that moment, the heightenedness of their emotional regulation goes and they can have these moments where they kind of black out, so to speak.

And then when they come to, there's a gravity of what has happened

um to in their behaviors in in this in this situation so you know it also could be the consciousness of guilt when you have the consciousness of guilt those emotions can come on come on strong so i would probably say it's somewhere in those uh two realms nancy then you have the whole other can of worms with the bio mom what are we hearing from her he never once tried to call me get a hold of me and anything when she died i found out through google