Unnamed Caller 3

Hi, Dan. I'm a mid-30s woman from the Southeast, and I'm calling about a question related to an open marriage. My husband and I have been with each other since we were in our late teens. We are both in our mid-30s now, so it's been a very long time. A few years ago, we decided to open up our marriage because we have a shared fantasy of me being like a slut and things like that.

Hi, Dan. I'm a mid-30s woman from the Southeast, and I'm calling about a question related to an open marriage. My husband and I have been with each other since we were in our late teens. We are both in our mid-30s now, so it's been a very long time. A few years ago, we decided to open up our marriage because we have a shared fantasy of me being like a slut and things like that.

It really was intended for me to just explore my sexuality and for it to bolster our sex life. Well, my husband also decided that he wanted to play with people, and that was great. So we opened it up for both of us. But he quickly got kind of tired of it. It's a lot harder for men than it is for women to find random hookups, as you often talk about.

It really was intended for me to just explore my sexuality and for it to bolster our sex life. Well, my husband also decided that he wanted to play with people, and that was great. So we opened it up for both of us. But he quickly got kind of tired of it. It's a lot harder for men than it is for women to find random hookups, as you often talk about.

And so he was just, like, done with it, disenchanted and done. So basically when he became done with it, he asked if I would stop playing. And I don't want to stop. It's really easy for me to find dates. I really enjoy the time that I have. And I also just want to mention that my husband is really, he is the only positive sex partner I have ever had in my life.

And so he was just, like, done with it, disenchanted and done. So basically when he became done with it, he asked if I would stop playing. And I don't want to stop. It's really easy for me to find dates. I really enjoy the time that I have. And I also just want to mention that my husband is really, he is the only positive sex partner I have ever had in my life.

So before I met him, I had only negative sexual experiences, non-consensual, very traumatic experiences. And when I met him, we did a lot of growing and learning together and safety work and all kinds of things that made me feel comfortable and safe. But I did realize very recently that I've never had a fantasy life. I've never had my own sexual fantasy life.

So before I met him, I had only negative sexual experiences, non-consensual, very traumatic experiences. And when I met him, we did a lot of growing and learning together and safety work and all kinds of things that made me feel comfortable and safe. But I did realize very recently that I've never had a fantasy life. I've never had my own sexual fantasy life.

My only thoughts about sex were really how I could be appealing to the person that I was with. It was never really what turns me on. It was only based off of what turns them on also turns me on because I'm turning them on. But throughout opening our relationship, I've realized, and I'm really starting to see myself as my own independent sexual being. He basically said,

My only thoughts about sex were really how I could be appealing to the person that I was with. It was never really what turns me on. It was only based off of what turns them on also turns me on because I'm turning them on. But throughout opening our relationship, I've realized, and I'm really starting to see myself as my own independent sexual being. He basically said,

I'm not going to stand in your way of you being happy, but this is going to break my heart. I don't know what to do, Dan. I really want to stay true to myself and live my life while also holding my husband's hand, but I also don't want to do damage to him.

I'm not going to stand in your way of you being happy, but this is going to break my heart. I don't know what to do, Dan. I really want to stay true to myself and live my life while also holding my husband's hand, but I also don't want to do damage to him.

I don't want to hurt him, but I feel like because we have been together for so long, my entire youth, my 20s, everything was spent with him, and I really want to have some of my own experiences.

I don't want to hurt him, but I feel like because we have been together for so long, my entire youth, my 20s, everything was spent with him, and I really want to have some of my own experiences.

Hi, Dan. So my boyfriend and I bought a house about a few months ago, and we have three bedrooms. One is for us, one is for the work-from-home office, but he and I are both ABDLs. We wanted the third bedroom to be our nursery, but I guess this could kind of apply to any kind of dungeon or play space. What do we tell

Hi, Dan. So my boyfriend and I bought a house about a few months ago, and we have three bedrooms. One is for us, one is for the work-from-home office, but he and I are both ABDLs. We wanted the third bedroom to be our nursery, but I guess this could kind of apply to any kind of dungeon or play space. What do we tell

visitors that that room is for like we put keys on the bedroom doors that lock and we you know so far we've been telling people oh we're just storing stuff in there but that's not going to be a good excuse forever so what do we tell guests who want to know like why can't they stay in our guest bedroom or what's in that room that is kept shut

visitors that that room is for like we put keys on the bedroom doors that lock and we you know so far we've been telling people oh we're just storing stuff in there but that's not going to be a good excuse forever so what do we tell guests who want to know like why can't they stay in our guest bedroom or what's in that room that is kept shut

Hi, Dan. I have been in a LTR for 10 years, almost married for three. I was always realistic about our marriage and told my husband he could flirt, get attention, as long as there were, one, no numbers exchanged, two, he told me. He did both behind my back, and I just recently found out about that. I am so hurt.

Hi, Dan. I have been in a LTR for 10 years, almost married for three. I was always realistic about our marriage and told my husband he could flirt, get attention, as long as there were, one, no numbers exchanged, two, he told me. He did both behind my back, and I just recently found out about that. I am so hurt.