Vanessa Van Edwards

It could be a wine tasting. Anything that's not restaurant or coffee shop, normal things. You have an hour there, about an hour activity to activity and an hour back. You're going to find out in that setting how they drive or how they listen to you, how they stop, stop and get gas, stop and pick up some snacks. Like we're trying to see them in a lot of different environments.

It could be a wine tasting. Anything that's not restaurant or coffee shop, normal things. You have an hour there, about an hour activity to activity and an hour back. You're going to find out in that setting how they drive or how they listen to you, how they stop, stop and get gas, stop and pick up some snacks. Like we're trying to see them in a lot of different environments.

How do they treat people? How do they treat your space? You want to see them off script. That's the very first thing. Then you're going to be looking for what I call cues of inauthenticity. Cues of inauthenticity is when your verbal does not match your nonverbal. And this is what liars do.

How do they treat people? How do they treat your space? You want to see them off script. That's the very first thing. Then you're going to be looking for what I call cues of inauthenticity. Cues of inauthenticity is when your verbal does not match your nonverbal. And this is what liars do.

So we do a lot of lie detection at Science of People because I'm fascinated by what are the cues that humans do when they're not telling the truth. And all of the lie detection cues are when there's incongruence. It means someone is saying something, but they're not showing it. So nodding is a good example of this.

So we do a lot of lie detection at Science of People because I'm fascinated by what are the cues that humans do when they're not telling the truth. And all of the lie detection cues are when there's incongruence. It means someone is saying something, but they're not showing it. So nodding is a good example of this.

So we've found we have a little game we play with people in our lab where we ask them two truths and a lie. Share two truths about yourself and one lie. Sometimes people will say yes, but shake their head no, or say no, but shake their head yes. That's an incongruence. And liars will often do this. So you'll ask, you know, so what do you think of the new girl? You know, she's great, right?

So we've found we have a little game we play with people in our lab where we ask them two truths and a lie. Share two truths about yourself and one lie. Sometimes people will say yes, but shake their head no, or say no, but shake their head yes. That's an incongruence. And liars will often do this. So you'll ask, you know, so what do you think of the new girl? You know, she's great, right?

And they're shaking their head no, but they're saying yes. There's a hesitation there, but we don't even notice it. But once you start to look out for it, you'll start to see these incongruences a lot.

And they're shaking their head no, but they're saying yes. There's a hesitation there, but we don't even notice it. But once you start to look out for it, you'll start to see these incongruences a lot.

And also could be doubt, right? Like someone could not know if they like the girl or not. So they're kind of, yeah, kind of, sort of, right? By the way, India, Bulgaria, and Pakistan, nodding is a little bit different. Oh, yeah. Very different. I know India for sure. Right. So I just like to make that note. So looking for incongruence. They're saying I'm happy, but they're not showing happy.

And also could be doubt, right? Like someone could not know if they like the girl or not. So they're kind of, yeah, kind of, sort of, right? By the way, India, Bulgaria, and Pakistan, nodding is a little bit different. Oh, yeah. Very different. I know India for sure. Right. So I just like to make that note. So looking for incongruence. They're saying I'm happy, but they're not showing happy.

Like a fake smile, for example, is a real smile is when we reach all the way up into these upper cheek muscles. So when I'm smiling all the way, I get these crow's feet, right? If someone says to you, oh, I'm so happy for you. Their face is just dead on top, right? Or too much Botox, either one. That's getting harder. It's making my job harder. It's making my job harder.

Like a fake smile, for example, is a real smile is when we reach all the way up into these upper cheek muscles. So when I'm smiling all the way, I get these crow's feet, right? If someone says to you, oh, I'm so happy for you. Their face is just dead on top, right? Or too much Botox, either one. That's getting harder. It's making my job harder. It's making my job harder.

That you know, uh-oh, there's not real happiness here. And this happens a lot in dating when you'll say your truth. You'll say your passion or your value or your love and they'll go, oh, that's nice. And they're giving you a fake smile. They're saying that's verbally okay. And your brain goes, uh-uh.

That you know, uh-oh, there's not real happiness here. And this happens a lot in dating when you'll say your truth. You'll say your passion or your value or your love and they'll go, oh, that's nice. And they're giving you a fake smile. They're saying that's verbally okay. And your brain goes, uh-uh.

That's oftentimes your body has picked up on, ooh, they said it was good, but I didn't feel it was good. So you're looking for incongruent cues or clues that someone is not stating what they actually feel. And when you're off script, you see way more of them.

That's oftentimes your body has picked up on, ooh, they said it was good, but I didn't feel it was good. So you're looking for incongruent cues or clues that someone is not stating what they actually feel. And when you're off script, you see way more of them.

You see way, way more of them. I also think there's some cues that we can't read. For example, we catch fear through smell. So I mentioned smell before. This is a study that completely blew my mind. They brought people into their lab. They sold them off into two different groups. They had them wear sweat suits, like suits that caught their sweat. The first group had to run on the treadmill.

You see way, way more of them. I also think there's some cues that we can't read. For example, we catch fear through smell. So I mentioned smell before. This is a study that completely blew my mind. They brought people into their lab. They sold them off into two different groups. They had them wear sweat suits, like suits that caught their sweat. The first group had to run on the treadmill.