Vanessa Van Edwards

What happens if, let's just say there's a person you don't like.

Maybe they're not toxic.

There's someone you don't like and you don't like being nice to because you feel like...

Why am I, I just don't, nothing wrong with them, they're just not my person, yeah.

Let's say you're in a work environment.

And you're at a company, got 50, 100 employees that you're working with, you're on a team with, and you're just, okay, I'm here.

Is it better to be

inauthentic and lie and act nice around this person.

Friendly, fake, how are you, interested, even though you've been around them for six months or a year and you realize you really don't like them.

Or is it better to go right up to the person after six months and say, you know what, I just want to be completely honest and not fake with you because I feel like I've been fake.

that I don't connect with you, I don't like you, I think you're out of integrity, I think you're inauthentic, and maybe I'm being judgmental, but I'd rather be honest with you and fake nice to you.

So create boundaries around the, hey, let's go have coffee.

Yeah, yeah.

So get back to the mission, the task on hand, the competence.

And maybe you've just got to be like, okay, this is someone where, you know, 20 seconds a day, I've got to be around someone that's trying to be fake, la-di-da-di with everyone.

And I'll just wait.

And then I'll move on to the next.

That's it.

Yes.

What if you don't feel like they're warm or competent?