Vanessa Van Edwards

So much.

So much.

Oh, it's coming. The setties are coming. I cannot wait for these olfactory laughs.

Oh, it's coming. The setties are coming. I cannot wait for these olfactory laughs.

I'm into it. I'm into it. Like if someone runs by me, I'm like... I want to smell them. I think it's important.

I'm into it. I'm into it. Like if someone runs by me, I'm like... I want to smell them. I think it's important.

So all these studies are based on natural body scent. In these studies, they make them wear a plain white t-shirt. They don't let them wear deodorant or anything like that. So it's natural smell. I actually think that sometimes too much cologne or perfume is like masking. Like, I don't know if you've ever been with someone where you're like, whoa, it's too much. I don't like it.

So all these studies are based on natural body scent. In these studies, they make them wear a plain white t-shirt. They don't let them wear deodorant or anything like that. So it's natural smell. I actually think that sometimes too much cologne or perfume is like masking. Like, I don't know if you've ever been with someone where you're like, whoa, it's too much. I don't like it.

I think in dating, actually, you should under-scent perfume.

I think in dating, actually, you should under-scent perfume.

Of course.

Of course.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I also think like I look at people pleasing as our deep desire to be liked. Yeah. It is so safe for us to be liked. And so when I look at the research, so research from Princeton University found that as humans, we are trying to answer two basic questions about other human beings. Can I trust you? And can I rely on you? We are constantly trying to assess people's warmth and competence.

I also think like I look at people pleasing as our deep desire to be liked. Yeah. It is so safe for us to be liked. And so when I look at the research, so research from Princeton University found that as humans, we are trying to answer two basic questions about other human beings. Can I trust you? And can I rely on you? We are constantly trying to assess people's warmth and competence.

Warmth and competence makes up 82% of our judgments of people. 82%. And so warmth is actually what we're talking about here in that most people have an imbalance of warmth and competence. We're very high in warmth, maybe not as high in competence, or we're signaling a lot of warmth, but not signaling enough competence.

Warmth and competence makes up 82% of our judgments of people. 82%. And so warmth is actually what we're talking about here in that most people have an imbalance of warmth and competence. We're very high in warmth, maybe not as high in competence, or we're signaling a lot of warmth, but not signaling enough competence.

Highly warm folks, people who are off the charts in warmth, their primary desire is to be liked. Highly competent folks, this is a lot of my students, they want to be right and So a highly competent person, they're very at work. They want to be on agenda. They want to get it right. You know you're in a relationship with a highly competent person if they constantly Google fact check you, right?

Highly warm folks, people who are off the charts in warmth, their primary desire is to be liked. Highly competent folks, this is a lot of my students, they want to be right and So a highly competent person, they're very at work. They want to be on agenda. They want to get it right. You know you're in a relationship with a highly competent person if they constantly Google fact check you, right?