Vanessa Van Edwards

It's a lot of warmth for that photo. And by the way, I want to make this as helpful for folks at home. So think of your impression like a thermostat. You can dial up your trust and your approachability by adding cues. So if you want to add warmth or trust or likability, you can add a head tilt. You can show your hands. Movement is also one.

It's a lot of warmth for that photo. And by the way, I want to make this as helpful for folks at home. So think of your impression like a thermostat. You can dial up your trust and your approachability by adding cues. So if you want to add warmth or trust or likability, you can add a head tilt. You can show your hands. Movement is also one.

So sometimes you'll see people who are like leaning their head over to the side or even in the process of a walk. That's why all those photographers use wind. Yeah. It actually adds like this weird element of warmth.

So sometimes you'll see people who are like leaning their head over to the side or even in the process of a walk. That's why all those photographers use wind. Yeah. It actually adds like this weird element of warmth.

If you want to dial up competence, power, if you want to be taken seriously, especially if you're in a career where you've been challenged or interrupted or not taken seriously or underestimated, you really want to dial up competence in your profile picture. Like the cover of my books, I am not smiling. And that is because I'm quite a smiley person and I want people to take me seriously.

If you want to dial up competence, power, if you want to be taken seriously, especially if you're in a career where you've been challenged or interrupted or not taken seriously or underestimated, you really want to dial up competence in your profile picture. Like the cover of my books, I am not smiling. And that is because I'm quite a smiley person and I want people to take me seriously.

So I made a choice to not smile on my covers.

So I made a choice to not smile on my covers.

Look, I love it. Okay, this guy has a cat around his neck. And you know what? I love it. Why? Because if you love cats, you're going to love this guy. If you hate cats, you're going to swipe. We want to make people not like us with the ornaments we choose, right? Like I love when my husband wears a cowboy hat because certain people are going to love it. Some people aren't going to like it.

Look, I love it. Okay, this guy has a cat around his neck. And you know what? I love it. Why? Because if you love cats, you're going to love this guy. If you hate cats, you're going to swipe. We want to make people not like us with the ornaments we choose, right? Like I love when my husband wears a cowboy hat because certain people are going to love it. Some people aren't going to like it.

He's going to find his people. We're in Austin, Texas. So it would be weird if you like wore it in London or something like that.

He's going to find his people. We're in Austin, Texas. So it would be weird if you like wore it in London or something like that.

Okay, so I do not like sunglasses in photos at all. And the reason for this is because research shows that we can produce oxytocin, which is the chemical of connection, even through a lens. When you can't see someone's eyes, it puts a little barrier in our head of like, I don't know. I don't know about this person. That's chemically your body being like, I cannot see her eyes.

Okay, so I do not like sunglasses in photos at all. And the reason for this is because research shows that we can produce oxytocin, which is the chemical of connection, even through a lens. When you can't see someone's eyes, it puts a little barrier in our head of like, I don't know. I don't know about this person. That's chemically your body being like, I cannot see her eyes.

So I'm a hard no on sunglasses. This is like, she's very distant from me. Even though she has a beautiful smile, I can't see the upper cheek muscles and I can't see her eyes.

So I'm a hard no on sunglasses. This is like, she's very distant from me. Even though she has a beautiful smile, I can't see the upper cheek muscles and I can't see her eyes.

You know, I haven't seen research on that. I've only seen research on sunglasses in photos. So I'm going to say in person I think it's okay. But I will say, like, have you ever been with someone and they, like, take off their glasses to see you better? Has that ever happened to you?

You know, I haven't seen research on that. I've only seen research on sunglasses in photos. So I'm going to say in person I think it's okay. But I will say, like, have you ever been with someone and they, like, take off their glasses to see you better? Has that ever happened to you?

It feels good.

It feels good.