Vicki Anstey

Yeah, it's kind of been a journey of, as you say, like becoming myself, really.

And it's absolutely not how I saw my life playing out.

Yeah, I definitely grew up with that sort of label attached to me.

And I think in some ways, you know, that's self-perpetuating, isn't it?

You hear that you're difficult and perhaps you live up to that a bit.

Although, you know, I'd constantly be in my childhood searching for the evidence to back up.

was I really a difficult child or did I just not fit in?

And I think, you know, over the years, I've sort of realised that actually the latter is really the case.

And, yeah, there was just something inside of me from a very early age that felt that that wasn't the life that I was...

Yeah, and it's something that I go into quite deeply.

There's sort of a thread of psychology through the book, actually, and, you know, I've done a lot of therapy myself in the writing of the book, and I sort of...

also do a lot of um coaching in my own professional work and come to really understand that a lot of things that happen to us in life are the consequence of i guess events that happen to other people and the projection of those events hence the title of the book hence the title of the book other people are like the weather um and that particular event

Was significant, I think, at the time, but became significant in terms of the ongoing ripple effect, the impact on my life.

And I think to some extent, the relationship that I had and continue to have with my mom.

So, yeah, they were they were in a car and this is my my mom was actually pregnant with me.

My sister was a toddler.

And my mum and dad were driving back, I think from a family holiday in the dark.

And my mum was driving and something woke my dad up and he reached for the steering wheel and realised that there was a guy in a car coming head on to them on the motorway, not on the other side of the road.

And, you know, amazing near miss, quite a traumatic event for both of them, really.

But my mum suffered from whiplash as a result of that.