Victoria Devine

And now I've started to feel a little bit resentful, which is making me feel like a terrible friend and I'm spiralling.

Is this just part of being a wedding, should I have already known?

Or is it okay to set a boundary even this late?

How do I tell my friend it's stressing me out so much?

Or does she know when this is normal?

Why is it a difficult conversation?

Like I just, I would like to like, sorry, split the conversation.

Yes.

There are...

ethnic weddings and religious weddings where tradition kind of says that this is just what it costs and these are the expectations.

I would like to be very clear that we're not talking about those weddings.

We're not talking about, you know, I've had friends who have had big Chinese weddings.

I've had friends who have had big Indian weddings.

And it is so different what the expectations on friends and family are.

And

These are the people, I would say, that aren't having this conversation.

We are talking about very Australian weddings.

We are talking about very white girl wedding.

Is that right?

Like, is that fair to say?