Victoria Devine

Absolutely.

So this week's message says, Hey, girls, I think I've backed myself into a financial corner and I don't know how to get out of it.

I said yes to being a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding.

And at the time, I didn't think too much about the cost.

But now it's all adding up.

The dress, the hands, travel, accommodation.

I've done my research and it's looking like it's going to cost between four and five thousand dollars.

Sorry?

I can technically afford it because I have savings, but it will wipe out a huge chunk of my savings.

And now I've started to feel a little bit resentful, which is making me feel like a terrible friend and I'm spiralling.

Is this just part of being a wedding, should I have already known?

Or is it okay to set a boundary even this late?

How do I tell my friend it's stressing me out so much?

Or does she know when this is normal?

Why is it a difficult conversation?

Like I just, I would like to like, sorry, split the conversation.

Yes.

There are...

ethnic weddings and religious weddings where tradition kind of says that this is just what it costs and these are the expectations.

I would like to be very clear that we're not talking about those weddings.