Viv Groskop

make sure that that is word perfect and non-negotiable.

And the same for your ending.

Always know where you're going to finish up, what your last few words are going to be.

I think we believe we can identify confidence and there's a lot of really interesting psychological and academic research about this that is extremely inconclusive and really there is no consensus as to what confidence really looks like.

If you think about it, the way that I've come to think about it is to think that confidence is like beauty.

It is in the eye of the beholder.

And personally, I find that really liberating to remember how subjective this is.

And I also take the lesson from comedy that comedy is completely subjective.

You know, what one person finds funny, another person finds completely unfunny.

But that is actually liberating because it means you can make it up for yourself, accept that perhaps you're not going to be for everybody, but release yourself from the judgment of having everybody love you and everyone think you're confident by just being who you are.

And the right people will be attracted to your confidence and the wrong people, well, they didn't really matter in the first place.

Well, you chose two perfect examples of incredibly confident, attractive, charismatic individuals who are the absolute hallmark of confidence and what I would call happy high status.

But unbelievably, I know this is impossible to believe, but there are people who do not like George Clooney and there are people who do not like Barack Obama anymore.

and who do not buy their version of confidence.

Those people are in the minority, but that's still their view.

So it's always inspiring for me to think that there is no one who can be for everyone.

There is no one whose confidence

reads to everyone and therefore it's okay to be in your own energy.

And I think those two men in particular are attractive and confident to 99.9% of the population because they are very comfortable in their own energy.

Yeah, I think there are a lot of examples of people in politics for whom that is the case.