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I feel blindsided.

I don't want to be controlling and I don't know.

And I don't own either of them, but it feels like a betrayal that she didn't tell me herself.

And I don't understand why she feels the need to keep in the contact after everything she put me through at the breakup.

She doesn't know I know, but I know I've been off with her and she's sensing it.

I don't really know if I'm being overly sensitive or if my feelings are actually valid.

That can be a difficult one because like just because you don't like your ex doesn't mean she likes her ex and she doesn't like your ex.

And it depends how close you two were before you and your ex got together.

And if you've all been friends before and you kind of can't force people not to be friends with somebody.

Do you know what I find?

Yeah, it shouldn't be a secret.

That's for sure.

But I always find it strange.

Like, like when you break up somebody, I'm kind of happy.

Like, even if you've been with somebody for a long time, you will have some mutual friends, but none that are mutual enough to like claim, I guess.

But like, I think that like I, like I've broken up with people that we've been together for quite a while, but our friends have just naturally changed.

broken apart and we've kind of just had our own friends from when we were together and like it's just naturally done that way but I wouldn't like if my best friend was talking to my ex I'd be like why do you need to do that but also not just talking to your ex not being honest with you about it I think

Good luck.

Yeah, good luck.

That's a toughie.