Wendy Smith

Am I spending time with my kids that are in the other room?

These tensions come up.

And I was always in conversation with colleagues or friends who are thinking, I don't know how to see myself.

I don't know how to make these decisions.

But what we weren't thinking about was how is it

that the more that I engage with my work, the more passionate I am about it, the more successful I am about it, the more effectively I can show up for my family and really be there to demonstrate to my kids my success, to inform how I think about my parenting.

And the more that I feel confident and secure with everything that was happening at home, in my life, with my family, with my partner, the better that I could then be able to show up at work.

And so we weren't thinking about the relationship between the two of those.

We were just thinking about the ways these are

in conflicts.

But Mary, I'm going to turn it over to you for some examples too.

Heather, I love that.

We talk about this idea of yes and in the book because it is such a crucial and basic practice that we can do to shift our mindsets.

One of the key things in the book, we talk about how we move into both and, and one of the key pieces is shifting our mindset.

By the way, another key piece is shifting our emotions, which we can talk about.

So I think that that language is such a great way to shift our mindsets

And what I love about your example about your TED Talk is that, as Marianne said, what we say in the book is that the first practice, as she said, is that whenever we come into these either-ors, you know, misstep or mistake or possibility, that we sort of tune our brains to recognizing that it's an either-or and just stop and shift the question of what's the and question?

How could the Me Too movement change?

enable possibilities rather than restrict it?

How can our vulnerability enable our confidence?