Whitney Goodman

And that's where I feel like as parents, we have to have some humility around that stuff and say, we used to think it was okay to smoke cigarettes around our kids or smoke cigarettes ourselves. And now we know that's dangerous. That's not a good thing to do. If you exposed your child to that, you would reasonably be expected to be like, wow, we shouldn't have been doing that. I wish I knew.

And that's where I feel like as parents, we have to have some humility around that stuff and say, we used to think it was okay to smoke cigarettes around our kids or smoke cigarettes ourselves. And now we know that's dangerous. That's not a good thing to do. If you exposed your child to that, you would reasonably be expected to be like, wow, we shouldn't have been doing that. I wish I knew.

And that's where I feel like as parents, we have to have some humility around that stuff and say, we used to think it was okay to smoke cigarettes around our kids or smoke cigarettes ourselves. And now we know that's dangerous. That's not a good thing to do. If you exposed your child to that, you would reasonably be expected to be like, wow, we shouldn't have been doing that. I wish I knew.

But I find that with some of these little T things that you're talking about, like emotions, a lot of parents across cultures are much more willing to say like, oh, that wasn't that big of a deal. Get over it. And I think we are learning as a society, especially younger generations, the impact those things can have on you. We're saying like, hey, but you actually did hurt me.

But I find that with some of these little T things that you're talking about, like emotions, a lot of parents across cultures are much more willing to say like, oh, that wasn't that big of a deal. Get over it. And I think we are learning as a society, especially younger generations, the impact those things can have on you. We're saying like, hey, but you actually did hurt me.

But I find that with some of these little T things that you're talking about, like emotions, a lot of parents across cultures are much more willing to say like, oh, that wasn't that big of a deal. Get over it. And I think we are learning as a society, especially younger generations, the impact those things can have on you. We're saying like, hey, but you actually did hurt me.

And all I really want you to do is recognize that, right? And try to learn how to do better and maybe apologize so that we can have a better relationship moving forward.

And all I really want you to do is recognize that, right? And try to learn how to do better and maybe apologize so that we can have a better relationship moving forward.

And all I really want you to do is recognize that, right? And try to learn how to do better and maybe apologize so that we can have a better relationship moving forward.

You know, I think that certainly there are going to be outliers in every conversation where there are people who are using estrangement in maybe like a manipulative fashion or they haven't thought it through or they're doing it because they don't have the skills to negotiate what's going on in the relationship.

You know, I think that certainly there are going to be outliers in every conversation where there are people who are using estrangement in maybe like a manipulative fashion or they haven't thought it through or they're doing it because they don't have the skills to negotiate what's going on in the relationship.

You know, I think that certainly there are going to be outliers in every conversation where there are people who are using estrangement in maybe like a manipulative fashion or they haven't thought it through or they're doing it because they don't have the skills to negotiate what's going on in the relationship.

But I think that when you give up a relationship with your family, you are giving up so much. You know, you're giving up ties to your culture, to your community, to your family.

But I think that when you give up a relationship with your family, you are giving up so much. You know, you're giving up ties to your culture, to your community, to your family.

But I think that when you give up a relationship with your family, you are giving up so much. You know, you're giving up ties to your culture, to your community, to your family.

potentially losing relationships with other family members, losing out on inheritance, history, all this stuff that I think the cost is so large that it's very hard for me to believe that there's this massive group of people that I haven't met yet that are doing this in a malicious kind of way, or who are doing it to punish or not truly out of survival. And I want to point out just

potentially losing relationships with other family members, losing out on inheritance, history, all this stuff that I think the cost is so large that it's very hard for me to believe that there's this massive group of people that I haven't met yet that are doing this in a malicious kind of way, or who are doing it to punish or not truly out of survival. And I want to point out just

potentially losing relationships with other family members, losing out on inheritance, history, all this stuff that I think the cost is so large that it's very hard for me to believe that there's this massive group of people that I haven't met yet that are doing this in a malicious kind of way, or who are doing it to punish or not truly out of survival. And I want to point out just

a different way of looking at the point that you just made about, you know, is this because we become more individualistic and are people just moving away from relationships that I think we have to flip the script a little bit here and say, it's the dynamics of the family that are making this happen. If we learn to speak more kindly to one another, to set boundaries,

a different way of looking at the point that you just made about, you know, is this because we become more individualistic and are people just moving away from relationships that I think we have to flip the script a little bit here and say, it's the dynamics of the family that are making this happen. If we learn to speak more kindly to one another, to set boundaries,