Yara Shahidi
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547 appearances
4 recordings
2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard 10 Apr
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All those things were, I think, adjustments and things that I was able to learn in real time and get support to be like, all right, this is how I'm going to navigate the fact that I'm a public person. You need all these social media things for your job. But you don't have to engage in this way of being super accessible all the time and always looking at what people are saying.
So luckily, that was a lesson that I think I learned in real time and was able to learn from. But in terms of like just interpersonal relationships, I think it's the nature of just my job is when you're in an audition room, half of it is acting well, but also being liked. And so I think it made me aware of what people thought of me.
And I'd like to think it didn't take up too much of my brain space, but particularly if I was at events, I'm like, I'm so preoccupied with how am I coming off right now?
Or even that feeling of, it sounds so silly. It's a good problem to have, but here I am coming in with my little Harvard degree. And again, seeming so put together that I'm putting an extra effort to seem super chill. I'm super laid back. Like, I know you know me as the kid that multitasked Harvard in the show, but-
i'm relaxed i'm relaxed the thing is i am relaxed but i was doing this other like layer of performing because i knew that people saw me as this like type a getting things done person or even if i'm at events and not drinking then there's a lot of questions because if you don't say oh it's because i'm sober i have this weird hard and fast rule unfortunately you still get a lot of questions like why is that it never stops
Right. So now my issue is I'm like, I drink Coca-Cola at events just to have something in my hand, but now I'm drinking so much soda that I never intended to drink. Just drink water.
I know, but I'm saying for some reason within this age demographic, getting water is even more like, wow, you think you're all that. You're drinking water.
Precisely.
And I think that's truly the work. I think I knew immediately, okay, this is something to sort through because my journey is not drinking this much soda to make people happy. As simple as that was. My journey is not doing all of this extra work to seem chill because I think they think that I'm this way.
And so I say that to say I was talking through it with my therapist and she was like, oh, well, how do you feel about the people that you meet? And I realized I wasn't developing an opinion. I was so kind of preoccupied with what they thought I was like.
And as simple as that was, going into events and going into spaces, checking in with how I was enjoying myself has gotten rid of almost immediately all of the little thinking and like notes I made in my head about, oh, I wonder if that was awkward. I wonder how they feel about that. I wonder, da, da, da, da, da. But, yeah, I was prompted by me going to this event and knowing immediately.
I was like, I'm so in my head. And here I am in a beautiful room with beautiful people. It's a privilege to be here. It should feel like a privilege. It shouldn't feel like this constant job. And so luckily I had learned. She had asked me that question almost like a couple days after because I was like, it's time to work through this.
And I really did feel such an immediate twist in being like, oh, if I am always asking myself how I'm feeling, there's just less room and space to ask myself how they're feeling about me. Still not perfect. I still go through my moments. But it definitely made a big shift in just how I move.
Yeah.
I think... Part of the positive thing in suspending the traditional cause and effect, if I do this super well, then this is going to happen for me because of this event or because of this meeting. I've started to have more kind of personal self-development goals and less career goals when I go into those things. Like what? Meetings. Again, it's being honest.
Like my goal in this meeting is to be as honest as possible. Mm-hmm. about where I am, how I'm feeling. And it happened even last week. I was in a director's meeting and it was a great meeting. I liked the person, but they had some questions on the fact that I live such a straight and narrow life and whether I'd veer from that for the sake of a role.
And it was nice where I think I typically would have just kind of laughed my way out of it and then had the team handle like, oh, tell them there may be a misalignment. It was so nice to have the wherewithal to be like, hey, yeah, I don't think that's the journey I'm interested in going on. I'm not excited by that.
Yeah, and I said it in the meeting, and I think that was really new for me, to be like, I have the feeling. All right. Thank you.
I know where to have the courage.
Yeah, but I think it was setting intention of saying, oh, if my goal is honesty, if my goal is finding what excites me, then it changes how I move in these rooms, and I honestly feel so much better about it, because the times that I've gone in, I speak in second person at times, the times I've gone in to a meeting with the idea of they are the keepers of this opportunity or thing,
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