Episode 20: Influencing Difficult People: Leadership Skills That Work | 12MinuteLeadership

Ever feel like you're speaking a different language with that one difficult team member? You're not alone. Leadership effectiveness hinges on our ability to influence across differences, yet most of us instinctively label challenging people rather than seeking to understand them.In this practical episode, I unpack what truly makes someone "difficult" and why that label often masks a simpler truth: they're just different from us. Whether you're dealing with the perpetually negative team member, the change-resistant veteran, or the person who seems wired to challenge every decision, these relationships drain energy and stall progress—unless you have the right approach.The breakthrough comes through three powerful strategies: shifting from judgment to curiosity, communicating in their language instead of yours, and setting boundaries with empathy. I walk through each technique with practical examples that you can implement immediately, connecting these approaches to the core strengths model and emotional intelligence framework we've explored in previous episodes. You'll discover how to decode the underlying motives driving difficult behavior, adapt your communication style to build bridges instead of walls, and protect your energy while maintaining respect.What sets this approach apart is the reframe: difficult people become our greatest teachers in leadership when we approach them strategically. I share my own experiences of growth through challenging relationships and provide a simple framework for applying these insights to your most pressing relationship challenges. By the end of these twelve minutes, you'll have practical tools to transform your most difficult workplace relationships from energy drains to opportunities for mutual growth.Ready to change the dynamic with that difficult person? Listen now, then share this episode with another leader who could benefit from these strategies. For deeper leadership development, pick up my book "Lead Anyone" on Amazon or visit eliseboggs.com to explore coaching and training options for you and your team.Follow on Instagram: @12minuteleadership Order my book, Lead Anyone!

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