A Therapist Can't Say That
Episodes
Introducing The Kiln Podcast!
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Kae Hixson and I started a new podcast! I wanted to give you a peek into what we’re up to.Welcome to The Kiln, where postgraduate education meet...
MBNET: Confronting Interpersonal Trauma with Courage
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Over the course of three seasons, we have talked plenty about trauma. And yet, somehow, I have never explicitly described or discussed the modality I ...
Ep 3.12 - Into the Hall of Mirrors: Deciding What (and When) to Pathologize
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As I’ve been trying to wrap up this season of the podcast, I’ve been reflecting, in particular on my conversations about psychiatric diagnosis wit...
Ep 3.11 - Redefining Psychiatric Constructs with Dr. Miri Forbes
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone who has a foot in the world of psychiatric diagnosis seems to agree that our diagnostic system could, at the very least, use some updating, i...
Ep 3.10 - What We Talk About When We Talk About Diagnosis
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In my last episode, Dr. Awais Aftab and I explored the controversial nature of Borderline Personality Disorder as a diagnosis.One of the reasons I wan...
Ep 3.9 - Epistemic Justice in Diagnosis:Â Exploring Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Awais Aftab
28 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Suppose you polled therapists and asked them what the most controversial diagnosis is in the current version of the DSM. Many of us would likely say B...
Ep 3.8 - The Medicine of Intimacy: Embracing Anger in Therapy
07 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine yourself saying, “I am angry at my client.” If you immediately need to add a whole bunch of context and caveats to make that statement fe...
Ep 3.7 - Getting Into It: Overt Conflict with Your Clients with Dr. K Hixson
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Be honest. When you think about overt conflict with a client, is your first thought that it’s a site of exciting progress, full of potential for mov...
Ep 3.6 - How to Stop Treating Your Clients Like Your Parents
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How can we stop treating our clients like our parents? As therapists, we often share the experience of having been a parentified child, and this shar...
Ep 3.5 - From Childhood Wounds to Therapeutic Wisdom with Dr. Karen Maroda
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: as a group, therapists tend to have some pretty similar formative childhood experiences.Our shared exp...
Ep 3.4 - Therapy in the Shaky Landscape of Contemporary Neuroscience
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As humans, we tend to like answers a lot more than we like questions. When we believe we have found answers, re-examining what we think of as truth is...
Ep 3.3 - Unraveling Popular Ideas: Challenging Neuroscientific Narratives in Therapy with Kristen Martin
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a therapist in 2024, odds are you have given a client a neuroscientific explanation for a symptom they’re experiencing or an interventio...
Ep 3.2 - Finding Our Place in the Lineage of Therapeutic Practice
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Since the last episode’s conversation with hannah baer about the Jewishness of therapy, I’ve been thinking a lot about lineage.When I first decide...
Ep 3.1 - Between Mysticism and Modernity: Reclaiming the Jewishness of Therapy with hannah baer
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Raise your hand if this sounds familiar: In a group of leftie social justice therapists, someone says that therapy is a profession founded by white me...
Introducing The Kiln: Revolutionizing The Therapy Training Landscape
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Co-conspirator and friend of the podcast, Dr. K Hixson, returns to share some exciting news about a true labor of love.We’ve joined up to create The...
EP 2.12: 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 2
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
To wrap up season two of A Therapist Can’t Say That, I’m continuing my reflections on my ten years as a therapist.I’ll be back in April with int...
EP 2.11 - 10 Things I Have Learned in 10 Years as a Therapist – Part 1
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Every therapist remembers their first client. Many look back and cringe at what a bad job they think they did. But for me, I look back and remember t...
EP 2.10 - Client Relationships in the Trenches: The Role of Self-Validated Intimacy
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the last episode with Dr. K Hixson, I said that our field is defined by the wish fulfillment fantasy of the parentified child. The parentified chil...
EP 2.9 - Immediacy in Therapy:Â Breaking the Fourth Wall with Dr. K Hixson
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Immediacy may seem like a stale topic, but I truly believe that it has the capacity to be the primary tool of magic in the therapeutic relationship.Im...
EP 2.8 - Paradox, Love, and the Therapeutic Journey
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Inspired by my conversation in the last episode with Dr. Andrea Celenza, today I want to talk about tolerating paradoxes and about love in the context...
EP 2.7 - Let's Talk About Sex: A Humane Approach to Sexual Boundary Violations with Dr. Andrea Celenza
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
 Sex with clients.It’s an interesting topic because it’s both very taboo and not at all polarizing. Many taboo topics are just that because discu...
EP 2.6: The Vulnerability of the Therapist as Client
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being in therapy as a therapist, and being a therapist for therapists, is a bit like magicians trying to entertain each other. We’ve studied the tri...
EP 2.5: Behind the Scenes: When Therapists Become Clients with Dr. Elena Herrera
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it so hard to be in therapy as a therapist?Why is it so hard sometimes to be a therapist for other therapists? What happens when we sit down a...
EP 2.4: What Happens When Our Clients Encounter Our Humanity?
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma therapists are often told that we have to prepare our clients for any and all disruptions to our schedules well in advance, to avoid causing ha...
EP 2.3: Normalizing Vulnerability: The Power of Authenticity in Client Relationships with Onyx Fujii and Asher Pandjiris
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve been in this field for even a couple of hours or so, you have almost certainly had someone try to impress upon you the importance of self-...
EP 2.2 Deep Play: Exploring the Therapeutic Playground
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For the last few weeks, I’ve been reflecting on the conversation I shared with you in episode 2.1 with Silvana Espinoza Lau about therapeutic goal s...
EP 2.1: Balancing Goals and Healing in Therapy: Navigating the Tension with Silvana Espinoza Lau
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the final episode of my last season, Therapists As Makers of Culture, I asked you to think about what kind of professional culture you want to leav...
Ep 18 - Therapists as Makers of Culture
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As I've been reflecting on the conversation Dr. K Hixson and I had about clinical supervision and reflecting on the past season of this podcast, I kee...
Ep 17 - The Intimacy and Aliveness of Clinical Supervision with K Hixson
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you hear the phrase “clinical supervision” what do you think of?For me, the first thing that comes to mind is stacks of paperwork - or whatev...
Ep 16 - Marketing With Integrity
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On episode 15, creative director and brand strategist Rachael Kay Albers said something that I have been turning over and over in my mind since:Market...
Ep 15 - Is Ethical Marketing Possible? with Rachael Kay Albers
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Here in 2022, therapists have largely resigned ourselves to the fact that we need to do some kind of marketing. We have been dragged into the world of...
Ep 14 - Growing Into the Light: In Memory of David Schnarch
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Two years ago, on October 8, 2020, my teacher, David Schnarch died suddenly.Anyone who knew Dave even for a few moments, could see that he had an arre...
Ep 13 - Why is Subsequent Therapist Syndrome Common in Our Field?
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the last episode, Dr. Ofer Zur stated that he estimates at least 50% of board complaints in some way involve the subsequent therapist encouraging a...
Ep 12 - Subsequent Therapist Syndrome with Dr. Ofer Zur
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine you’re sitting in your office with a new client and the intake conversation turns to their previous therapist and they toss off a piece of i...
Ep 11 - Anti-exposure Bias in Trauma Therapy
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 10, Allison Aosved and I discussed exposure therapy for trauma, and the anti-exposure bias that we are seeing in the field.Today, I want to...
Ep 10 - Leave No Stone Unturned: The Healing Opportunity of Exposure Therapy with Allison Aosved
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma has become a huge buzzword over the past several years. In fact, I would say that trauma is having a moment.And because trauma is having a mome...
Ep 09 - It's Complicated: Why We Become Therapists
26 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we become therapists?You wouldn’t necessarily think this is a spicy topic, but it is.Some therapists would say that we as therapists are just...
Ep 08 - Why We Become Therapists with Ben Fineman and Carrie Wiita
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are so many ways, so many careers we can choose where helping people is the central thing.And the type of helping that we are interested in and ...
Ep 07 - The Poison and The Cure: Expanding Our Understanding of the Wounded Healer
28 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Therapists are tasked with being secret keepers.The first layer of secrecy seems easy and simple. Maintaining client confidentiality. You can probably...
Ep 06 - Carrying the Weight of Moral Injury with Dr. K Hixson
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Moral injury.It’s a term that often evokes images of soldiers deep in the fog of war or perhaps of a surgeon in scrubs holding their head in their h...
Ep 05 - How Are You Doing? Building A Culture Of Support
25 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As therapists, we know about the power of silence and how much someone is saying when they aren’t saying anything at all. And we know how silence a...
Ep 04 - Doing Our Own Work: Mental Health and Workplace Culture with Rebecca Ching, LMFT, PCC, Certified IFS Therapist
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s something of a cliché that being a therapist comes with the obligation to do your own work. And it happens to be a cliché I agree with. And ...
Ep 03 - Uncharted Waters: The "Good Therapist" and Collective Trauma
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The “good therapist” isn't necessarily the type of therapist you want to be.It's not the most actualized version of you as a therapist. It's not e...
Ep 02 - The Myth of the "Good Therapist" with Nancy Jane Smith
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a therapist, even if you’re far from your practicum days, you can probably relate to the feeling of sitting in a session and being distr...
Ep 01 - Why I Started A Therapist Can't Say That
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I got the idea for this podcast in late 2019. I had been in the field for several years at that point. Long enough to work through the first wave of i...
Introducing A Therapist Can't Say That
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you became a therapist, what did you think you were signing up for?Maybe grad school prepared you for the endless introspection, the awkward inta...