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The Science Behind Lasting Relationships with Logan Ury
17 Nov 2021
#29: Bestselling author and relationship expert Logan Ury joins Chris to discuss the science behind successful relationships. They discuss how to build relationships that last a lifetime, how to apply relationship science to professional relationships, and how to make sure you have a fulfilling marriage once you find a partner that is right for you. Logan Ury (@loganury) is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone. She is also the director of relationship science at the dating app Hinge. Previously, she ran Google’s behavioral science team (The Irrational Lab). “Love is natural, but dating is not” - Logan Ury Full show notes available at: https://allthehacks.com/lasting-relationships-logan-ury/ Partner Deals For all the deals, discounts and promo codes from our partners, go to: allthehacks.com/deals Resources Mentioned Connect with Logan Ury: Website | Twitter | Instagram Logan Ury’s Book: How to Not Die Alone Find your dating tendency: Quiz Relationship contract: Google Doc Template Notable relationship researchers: Eli Finkel | Dr. John and Julie Gottman Friendship in the age of loneliness by Adam Smiley Poswolsky: Book Full Show Notes (00:14) Who Is Logan Ury? (01:32) Why She Titled Her Book “How To Not Die Alone” (02:38) Does Being in a Relationship Improve Your Life According to Research? (03:13) Why Logan Ury Went From Behavioral Scientist to Dating Coach (04:33) Dating Is a Relatively New Phenomenon, How Does That Affect Us? (05:50) Do Arranged Marriages and Set-Ups Work? (08:54) Does Having More Options Make Dating Harder? (11:00) Why the Idea of ‘The One’ or Having a Soul Mate Is a Harmful Idea (12:02) How to Transition From a Maximizer to a Satisficer Personality in Dating (14:08) The Three Dating Tendencies (Which One Are You?) (17:59) Why Don’t We Ever Learn About How to Date Better? (19:40) Which Couples Are Most Likely to Break Up (According to Relationship Scientists) (22:42) Can You Learn to Have More Successful Relationships? (24:23) Four Ways Relationship Science Can Level Up Your Professional Relationships (29:13) Why You Should Stop Searching for a ‘Spark’ (31:44) Looking for a Life Partner, Not a Prom Date (34:13) Why You Need a Relationship Contract (And Other Hacks for Married Couples) (39:40) Why You Should Have Other Significant Others (44:10) How Logan Ury Wrote Her Book and Overcame Procrastination (46:30) Should You Write a Book? (48:09) Logan’s Goals for 2022 (49:25) What Does Logan Ury Think of Dating Apps? (50:59) How Can You Make Friends as an Adult? (53:18) How to Connect With Logan Ury Connect with All the Hacks All the Hacks: Newsletter | Website | Membership | Email Chris Hutchins: Twitter | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn Editor’s Note: The content on this page is accurate as of the posting date; however, some of our partner offers may have expired. Opinions expressed here are the author's alone, not those of any bank, credit card issuer, hotel, airline, or other entity. This content has not been reviewed, approved or otherwise endorsed by any of the entities included within the post. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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