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What is the complicated relationship between romance and friendship?
Hey there, and welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything, and I mean anything, you want advice on. And then I give you my own professional advice. And today's topic is the complicated relationship between romance and friendship, okay?
Whether you're dating your friend of five years or you hate your significant other's best friends, There's like a weird, complicated relationship between friendship and romance. There just is. It's messy for some reason. And so that's what we're going to be diving into today. So I guess without further ado, let's begin.
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Somebody said, my boyfriend has a female bestie. She's married and has a family, but their friendship still feels too close for my comfort. What do I do? Sigh. This is tough because I think it's almost biological or something for us to get protective over our significant others when they're friends with someone who technically they could be attracted to.
From my experience with that, it almost feels innate and inevitable. In an ideal world, we would feel comfortable with our significant others being friends with somebody who they could technically be attracted to, right? I think we all would love to reach that level of security in ourselves, in our relationships. confidence in ourselves and our relationships.
But I think for most of us, majority of the time, this is an uncomfortable situation. We don't like when our significant others have friends that they could technically have sex with. Well, we could have sex with anyone, but you get what I'm saying? Like they would be down to have sex with, right? It's not ideal.
However, we can be platonic friends with people that we could also technically be physically attracted to, right? This is just a fact. Some people disagree with me on that. Some people are pretty adamant about believing that relationships between two people who could technically be attracted to each other, there's usually some sort of sexual undertone. Some people really believe that.
I do believe, because I've experienced this, that, you know, like, I've been friends with straight men before. And it been completely... platonic on my end and honestly on their end as well maybe deep down they had a little crush on me but they didn't make it clear and everything was fine so I do think it's possible some people disagree with me on that I think it's possible listen
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