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Holding the s**t show of grief.
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16 Jun 2025
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19 May 2025
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The Short Magnificent Life of Flowers
24 Apr 2025
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What to do when you get dumped.
07 Apr 2025
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Hey everyone, it is Carissa and this is Bad at Keeping Secrets. What to do when you get dumped? Ther...
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24 Feb 2025
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I am what they call a runner. I felt a connection with Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride—the idea tha...
How to feel alive again.
03 Feb 2025
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We can control whether we merely endure our days or experience and enjoy them. We can control whethe...
What is the point of art?
27 Jan 2025
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Hi, it’s Carissa, and welcome to Bad at Keeping Secrets! Today, I’m chatting with Liana Finck, a...
It's not you. It's your stress.
11 Nov 2024
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What is your stress telling you? Just curious… Mine is that I need to change my expectations for m...
What if the great love of your life was friendship?
20 May 2024
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“Inside our words and actions, the people we love live on through us.”-Lissa Soep, Other People’...
How to create meaning.
15 Apr 2024
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Recently, I read something somewhere that admitting you were lonely was one of the most shameful thi...
Do you wonder if you are doing more? You are.
25 Mar 2024
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We are in this amazing moment where we are trying to make a more equitable future by the ways that w...
Setting Yourself Up For Failure.
19 Feb 2024
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“To witness one life's miserable devastation and see her reach, instead, for joy. Let your life re...
Avoidance of pain leads to more pain.
29 Jan 2024
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I grew up thinking that addiction was not something that ran in my family. So I didn’t have to wor...
Why do we avoid rest?
08 Jan 2024
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I have known Ashley Neese for years. We met when we gave a talk together in the winter of 2019. I ha...
Is depression a character flaw or illness?
11 Dec 2023
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“It's startling to realize how narrowly we avoid, or miss, living radically different lives.” - ...
How to slow down and...
03 Dec 2023
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In celebration of darkness, this week I want to revisit my chat with Katherine May, a best-selling a...
What is a lie? The unraveling of our shared reality...
13 Nov 2023
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“...sometimes, when something is such an integral part of your life, it's hard to see where the ra...
How to feel alive again.
23 Oct 2023
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We can control whether we merely endure our days or experience and enjoy them. We can control whethe...
Can AI tell how you're feeling?
03 Sep 2023
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This week, I’m revisiting a topic that is a little scary but also extremely hopeful. A few months ...
Knowing what your body needs
27 Aug 2023
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Lately I have been feeling under the weather without actually being sick with a fever - does that ev...
What makes life worth living?
13 Aug 2023
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The idea that the universe is ultimately meaningless is something that I have been sifting through a...
How to actually do the thing.
30 Jul 2023
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The older I get the more dubious I am of how much control we actually have over our lives. And quest...
When does positivity become toxic?
23 Jul 2023
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This week, I am super excited to revisit and share Whitney Goodman’s work with you. As someone who...
Should I quit or should I stay?
09 Jul 2023
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So, you came here for help. I am guessing. You want to know if you should leave your partner, quit y...
How to steal like an artist
25 Jun 2023
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“Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But since no one was listening, everythin...
"Should I have a baby?"
11 Jun 2023
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A few months ago, I wrote about resources for people who were on the fence about if they wanted to h...
Where is the line between inspiration and copy?
04 Jun 2023
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Where do we draw the line between inspiration and copying someone else’s original idea? Do any of ...
We're a molecule away from madness
28 May 2023
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Sara Manning Peskin takes on the idea of "madness" in her book A Molecule Away From Madness: Tales o...
Where does the mind stop and the world begin?
21 May 2023
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What would it mean to think outside of your brain? I am fascinated by the idea that we can think wit...
Everybody is trying to manage their pain
14 May 2023
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This week I am talking to Aamina Ahmad, author of The Return of Faraz Ali. Her book is about a murde...
What does a secure relationship look like?
07 May 2023
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Hi friends, hi,I hope this week treated you gently and with care. And if it didn’t, well, then I a...
How can we use our own imperfections to understand others?
30 Apr 2023
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I spend a lot of time thinking about how to make sense of this world that we live in - holding multi...
Perfect is the enemy of the good
23 Apr 2023
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Emma Straub’s paperback release of her NY Times Bestseller This Time Tomorrow is coming to us soon...
What do we do with our regrets?
16 Apr 2023
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Regrets… I have some experience in this area because: a) I am a highly sensitive person, and b) I ...
Does laziness actually exist?
09 Apr 2023
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Have you ever considered yourself a lazy person? I would say I do, when I walk past the sink of dirt...
Is all love unconditional?
02 Apr 2023
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Have you ever felt unconditionally loved? I guess I should start by defining what I mean when I say,...
We are not getting enough touch...
26 Mar 2023
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I am personally super fascinated by how our relationships with tech have changed the course of human...
How to accept ourselves as we already are
19 Mar 2023
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Can you accept yourself as you are? Do you ever feeling like shame is running the show?Today, we rev...
Why do we like to listen to sad music?
12 Mar 2023
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“Longing itself is a creative and spiritual state.” —Susan CainRecently, I have been spending ...
Why we shouldn't wait for something to go wrong
05 Mar 2023
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Do you ever wonder why we think our brains are separate from our bodies? In this week’s episode, a...
How can we find wonder and awe in anxious times?
26 Feb 2023
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Katherine May’s new book, Enchantment, comes out this week! Feb 28 in the US and March 9 for the U...
How to Be Okay When Things Don't Feel Okay
19 Feb 2023
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Is comparison the thief of joy? Most days I think I can confidently say that I’m content with wher...
How to move forward without closure
12 Feb 2023
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Many of us have a complicated understanding of the statement, “Things Were Meant To Be.” I know ...
Can we live a "good" life without suffering?
05 Feb 2023
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What happens when we don't feel held?
29 Jan 2023
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**Transcription of audio can be found at the end of this post** This year, I’ve been curious about...
How to actually get through heartbreak
22 Jan 2023
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**Transcription of audio can be found at the end of this post** Florence Williams is a journalist, a...
Admitting life is hard can be a relief
15 Jan 2023
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There is something inherently beautiful in the human condition and being able to experience the enti...
How to Expand Time to Be Happier
08 Jan 2023
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I am not the kind of person who wants to be happy all the time. Actually, I am a wallower - sitting ...