Be A Better You
Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex
09 Dec 2025
Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.And yes… we’re going there with adults and kids.I’m breaking down why survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse slip into “fixer mode,” how it drains you, and what it’s really costing your nervous system. You’ll also hear the story of the year I didn’t put up a Christmas tree right before a big move — my kids weren’t thrilled, my friends had opinions, and I learned one of the biggest lessons of my healing journey: I don’t have to rescue anyone from their own emotions. And neither do you.In this episode you’ll learn: ✨ Why the holidays activate old survival patterns ✨ How rescuing creates self-betrayal (even when it feels loving) ✨ What it looks like to stop managing everyone else’s feelings ✨ How to support your kids without over-functioning ✨ Nervous-system resets you can use at holiday gatherings ✨ Permission to do less — without guilt, shame, or burnoutIf this hits a little too close to home, it’s not a coincidence. These patterns come from deep subconscious conditioning — and that’s exactly what I help women unravel.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)
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