The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast

205: 2 Simple Steps To Get Your Irrational and Doubting Wife To Trust Your Rational Lead On Any Topic

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A major frustration for most husbands is his wife’s lack of trust in his leadership.     Your masculine core clearly sees the problem at Point A,...

204: The 3 Uncommon Steps To Holding a Safe Space for your Wife’s Sadness and Depression

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A ton of husbands are suffering the pain of not knowing how to hold space for their wives sadness and depression. Not knowing how to do so effectiv...

203: 10 Masculine Mantras To Be Fearless In Marriage Leadership

30 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

No-BS, Zen-like statements that cut to the point are potent tools. They bring you from the outer chaos of the battlefield of married life to instanta...

202: "The 5D Man Lifestyle Approach To Making Men Strong Again" with Eivind Skjellum

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in Eivind Skjellum to introduce his brilliant 5D Man Lifestyle approach which helps men to awaken their heroic impulse within.   Best kno...

201: What Uncommonly Wise Husbands Do When Their Queens Seek Praise and Validation

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Husbands are meant to be solid oak trees. Husbands need to treat their wives as sublimely beautiful flowers. Your understanding of this energetic di...

200: The Little Known Most Important Masculine Rule In Masculine-Feminine Relating

15 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The main reason us husbands are unnecessarily suffering in marriage is that nobody taught us the most important rule of the game of masculine-feminine...

199: The 1 Surprising Strategy For Evoking A River of Her Praise and Validation

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

As humans, we have a deep psychological need to feel validation. Husbands subconsciously try to get this need met by their wives in ways that unwitti...

198: The 3 Masculine Leadership Characteristics Wives Need, Love and Trust

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There is a secret code to becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship.    It involves embodying three simple to understand and int...

197: Without Doing Shadow Work She’ll Never Trust You As Her King

25 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your Queen can only trust you when you are an embodied Mountain in the Storm. Shadow Work is where boys become men, and men become Kings. If you a...

196: 3 Essential Steps To Rebuilding Your Marriage After Your Wife’s Infidelity

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A wife cheating can be a brutal blow for any man. The fog of hurt, blame and shame blinds the path forward. This episode brings radical no-BS clari...

195: 3 Rules To Stop Resenting Your Wife And Confidently Master The Infinite Game of Marriage

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Us magnificent men have been wrongly conditioned into believing marriage is a finite game. This leads to men relating to their wife as a ball on ch...

194: This Uncommon Insight Helps Husbands Enjoy Unlimited Radical Authentic Freedom in Marriage and Life

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being authentic and real is the heart essence of mans search in life. But WTF does being authentic actually mean? Until you have radical clarity on...

193: "Marriage Transformation Hero" Special Series with Jak Houghton

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jak Houghton is our latest Marriage Transformation Hero from Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles. Jak leads with radical transparency on overcoming his...

192: 10 Super Simple To Implement Romantic Gestures Rational Minded Men Can Light Up Their Queens Hearts With

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

These ten high leverage romantic gestures are made to give the maximum Return-On-Investment for the least amount of time input. No more excuses. T...

190: 3 Simple Steps From Conflict Avoidant Anxiety to Kingly Confidence in Communication Mastery

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

100% of men entering this work are conflict avoidant.  Thus, 100% of men entering this work are not getting what they want in life and marriage.  ...

189: How To Master The Storm of Relating to Challenging Children and Criticising Wife In The Octagon of Husband-Wife-Children Conflict

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Father-to-child relating is hard enough. Husband-to-wife relating is even harder. Husband-to-wife-to-challenging-child relating is a family man’s id...

188: The Simple Conflict De-escalation Tool To Calm Her Irrationality And Have Her Love You For It!

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

GREAT NEWS! Arguably the most powerful communication tool to de-escalate your Queen’s irrationality is the simplest tool in the world for regular gu...

187: "My Autobiography of Healing Trauma" with Dr Peter Levine

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You meet the brilliant Peter Levine in this special guest episode. Mark recognises Peter as one of the most influential teachers on his healing journe...

186: How To Overcome Your Sexual Shame and Get What You Want in the Bedroom

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual shame in men is the most underestimated negative influence that kills intimacy in marriage long-term. Here Mark coaches Duane through his is...

185: "Marriage Transformation Hero" Special Series with Tom Crate

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we welcome in Tom Crate.   Tom attacked his three-month Heroic Husbands 1-1 coaching deep work with ferocious intentionality. His...

184: How To Go From Marital Dead Energy and Overwhelm to Reawakening Your Radically Alive & Free Wild Man Energy

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special episode, Heroic Husbands Men’s Circle member Andrew, brings a question every husband on the planet wants the answer of: “How do I...

183: From Your Marriage Efforts Repulsing Your Queen To Easily Becoming Her King of Sexual Attraction and Masculine Leadership

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most husbands on the marriage transformation path are doing their best but struggling to make real change happen. Until you make this one crucial c...

182: This Mysteriously Powerful 10 Second Practice Helps You Go From Stuck-in-your-Head Mode to Embodying Instant Trust-Earning Presence

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Nothing in marriage is more common than a husband stuck in his head. Nothing in marriage is more repulsive to a wife than a husband stuck in his head...

181: The ONE Secret to Speaking With Your Queen About Sex With Natural Ease

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Talking about sex with their wives is one of the toughest relationship challenges husbands face.    Passing Hell Week in Navy SEAL training is easy...

180: Why 3 Minutes Is The Magic Number In Easily Becoming A Master in Conflict De-escalation

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

96% of the time you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on only the first three minutes of the interaction! Introducing the “Sinking ...

179: The Easily Avoidable and Costly Mistake All Improving Husbands Make On Their Marriage Transformation Journey

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On your road to being a better husband you will have THIS ONE distinctly uncomfortable experience with your Queen many times. If you do not expect ...

178: How To Use Your Eyes To Avoid Conflict and Get What You Want In Marriage

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our humble eyes can kill or cure our marriage struggles. One attacking or avoidant glance kills intimacy. One loving soft direct eye gaze reconnects ...

177: How To Apply The 3 Pillars For Consciously Parenting Challenging Children During Conflict

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For fathers who find parenting difficult and challenging at times, Dan Peterson is the medicine to cure all our parenting woes. In Dan’s first ep...

176: How To End Confusion and Have Focused Clarity as You Face Her Most Intense Storms

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

With no training of your mind and how it works, it’s almost impossible not to have major struggles relating with your Queen in deep intimacy. Th...

175: 3 Hacks To Stop Your Destructive Habit of Screen Scrolling and Become Your Queen’s Hero of Presence

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your mindless scrolling hurts your Queen’s heart. Your “just-a-glance” thinking hurts your Queen’s heart. Both kill your marriage. Marri...

173: 5min Heroic Husband Habits: The 3 Pillars of Heroic Hope Save Marriages

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This 5-min high flame episode empowers you to become an unstoppable force on your marriage transformation journey. The 3 Pillars of Hope add the nu...

174: The 4 Deadly Sins In Marriage…and How To Avoid Them

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

These 4 relationship sins haunt the background of all struggling marriages. No shame needed. The ancient root of the word “sin” simply means “...

172: Heroic Husband Habits – Body Language Of A Friend, The Arguments End

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Introducing Heroic Husband Habits! Short 5min blasts of high leverage habitual ways of thinking, talking and taking action to become the Marriage Tr...

171: Lead Her With Confidence With This Simple Navy SEAL Leadership Mindset

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

According to ex-Navy SEAL commander Jocko Willink, few leadership principles are as solid as High Ground. In a battlefield, High Ground literally r...

170: You Will NEVER Lose Motivation Again Armed With THIS!

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage transformation can be a brutal spiritual dog fight requiring of you the deepest levels of resilience ever asked off you as a man. Imagine...

169: The Secret To Re-igniting The Fire Of Sexual Desire In Marriage

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual fire dies in the majority of marriages. So often that the most people assume loss of sexual desire is an unavoidable part of marriage. Ye...

168: The 7 Most Powerful Journaling Exercises To Save Your Marriage

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If there’s one thing you need to know, it’s that journaling is your secret weapon in winning the battle to save your marriage. Regular journali...

167: "The Hero's Journey Beyond Absent Fathers And Sexual Abuse" with Andrew Briggs

14 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Andrew Briggs came on to speak about his expertise in health and fitness.   What then happened was one of the most inspiring conversations Mark has ...

166: The Art of Setting Up A Super-Charged Sacred Space To WIN BIG ALWAYS!

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Setting up a Sacred Space is the highest leverage action you can take to help you transform your marriage and entire life. CEOs, billionaires, soci...

165: "Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series" with Chris Williams

07 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready to listen to an early legend in the Heroic Husbands Movement, Chris Williams. Chris has faced and addressed issues of mental, emotional, ...

164: 8 Questions From Ancient Mystical Mavericks To Make You Unstoppable

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What if you had immediate access to your own super power by listening to wisdom from some of the world’s greatest ever mystical mavericks?  Would ...

163: "Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series" with Duane Kennedy

29 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in the impressive Duane Kennedy hailing from circle #3 in the Heroic Husbands movement. Duane details his process at overcoming years of...

162: Why Heroic Husbands Do All The Work In Their Marriage Transformation Journey

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Heroic Husband approach to marriage transformation is exceptionally effective. Look at the wave of Heroic Husband circle members who are guest...

161: The Art of Defusing Atomic Bomb Arguments

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Atomic arguments are those mundane moments that suddenly explode into a full-on argument. From one moment of peace to the next moment feeling flood...

160: "How To Help Your Son Become a Man - PART 2" with Don Ross

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

After a sensational first guest appearance, the men within Heroic Husbands men’s circles demanded Mark would get Don back on for a Part 2! So here w...

159: Start Thinking Like A Shaolin Warrior During Conflict

14 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Mastering marriage involving learning how to grab your mind, shut off the supply of BS, and turn on the wisdom tap. Period.    Here's how.    Let...

158: How To Control Your Restless Monkey Mind During Conflict

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The masculine practice in marriage is being the Mountain in the Storm. Your Queen’s unpredictable and untameable feminine core (the Storm) needs the...

157: How Consciously Resenting Your Mother Will Transform Your Marriage!

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you release your subconscious resentment with your mother your marriage will thrive. If you leave resentment with your mother stuck in the reces...

156: My Most Powerful Daily Habit For Creating Uncommonly Deep Connection

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode highlights the most potent daily connection habit a conscious King can bring to his relationship. Mark eats some humble pie as he discuss...

155: Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series with Dean Hoag

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in Dean Hoag, one of the many Marriage Transforming Heroes within Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles. Just two months doing this work, Dean ...

154: Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series with Anthony Marchese

17 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special episode we welcome in Anthony Marchese. Anthony is one more regular man showing up with a ferocious willingness to do irregularly deep...

153: Tibetan Wisdom To Help You Become an Unstoppable Heart Warrior

11 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The most sharpened super-power of most men is their rational mind. It’s also simultaneously their own worst enemy in marriage and personal developme...

152: End 2024 With ZERO REGRET Following These Simple Steps

03 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

“Today is a great day to die!” was the battle cry entering the battlefield of a certain tribe of Native American warriors.  Yet, such a gloriou...

151: 5 Simple Strategies To Dominate In Marriage & Life in 2024

27 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Want no-BS, easy-to-implement, proven strategies to dominate in the arena of marriage and life in 2024??? Of course you do!! Let’s begin….. Wi...

150: Eliminate Her Holiday Season Husband Criticism With This Strategic Masterplan

20 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“Tis the season to be jolly, fa la la la la”…… and all that impossible expectations load of crap we’re bombarded with in modern marketing a...

149: Marriage Is Ceaseless Suffering Until You Build This Simple Practice

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The great tragedy of men in modern society is the all-pervasive lack of felt permission to love oneself completely. Every man who enters deep men’...

148: "Decoding The Fantasy Of What Women Want" with Matilde Crocini

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join Mark and his Queen on a unique journey to decoding what women most want in their life partners by recognising the secret signs that lie in all su...

147: If Your Wife Is Jealous Then Listen To This NOW!

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Nearly every husband has experienced his Queen giving him an earful at times for how he has been interacting with other women. This distrust can be ov...

146: "How To Help Your Son Become A Man" with Don Ross

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a kick-ass conversation with Don Ross on the sacred topic supporting fathers take the guesswork out of helping your son become a man. Don d...

145: Your Purpose Must Come Before Your Relationship

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There exists a widespread felt destructive tension in marriages between a woman’s desire for a man to prioritise the relationship and his desire to ...

144: "Conflict Resolution Made Simple For Rational Minded Men" with James "Fish" Gill

23 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in the uniquely brilliant genius of Fish Gill and his beautifully simple recipe for creating connection out of any relational conflict. ...

143: How To Alchemise Marital Conflicts Into Hero Husband Status

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Heroic Husbands learn to align their entire existence in support of gifting their authentic truth and love to their marriage and world. The only pat...

142: The Most Stupidly Easy Strategy To Upgrade Your Marriage Experience

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There exists one practice in marriage that lies as the ultimate King of high leverage strategies (when used!!!) to become the Marriage Transforming He...

141: 2 Steps To Stopping Your Inner Critic Sabotaging Your Marriage

15 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a part of every husband’s mind that secretly blames his wife and married life for being the cause of his lack of felt freedom and inner pe...

140: "Unleashing Your Savage and Saint Self-Leadership" with Michael Holt

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in Michael Holt, an absolute badass in the arena of masculine vitality, self-leadership and living in integrity with your highest calling a...

139: Why Every Husband Needs To Experience A Mid-Life Crisis

08 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The male mid-life crisis caricature is a man who drop kicks his wife and family life, buys a sports car, begins living in his local CrossFit gym tryin...

138: Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series with Ty Humphries

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in our third Marriage Transforming Hero from Heroic Husbands Men’s Circles, the badass masculine heart warrior Ty Humphries from Circle#1...

137: 10 Marriage Breakdown Warning Signs Husbands Don’t Notice

01 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The most catastrophic capacity modern husbands possess in marriage is the ability to minimise and normalise how bad things really are.  Listen in an...

136: Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series with Andrew Grist

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in Andrew Grist, our second extraordinary heroic husband in our Marriage Transformation Heroes special series. Andrew takes us on a bea...

135: 16 Powerful Actions To Win Her Hurting Heart Back

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A Queen with a hurting heart sets a formidable gauntlet before her husband. Everything her nervous system communicates says, “rise into embodied Kin...

134: Marriage Transformation Hero Special Series with Brendan Savage

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in real-life Marriage Transforming Hero Brendan Savage to share his radically authentic story of doing whatever was necessary to become a b...

133: 3 Secrets To Unfu!king Your Marriage

18 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Using inspiration from John Gottman, the badass revolutionary of marriage therapy research, Mark digs deep into three essential pillars to unfu!king w...

132: "Soul-Centered Leadership In Marriage And Career" with David Peralta

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in David Peralta to tell his inspiring story of saving his severely struggling marriage by reconnecting with his soul-centered purpose in l...

131: 3 Steps To Stopping Resentment Kill Your Marriage

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Resentment is the ultimate corrosive acid in love, which if ignored, relentlessly gnaws away at the foundations of your marriage. This episode wil...

130: "Stop Parenting And Start Leading" with Thomas Pfanner

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome in the inspiring Thomas Pfanner and his heroic story of learning leadership in parenting under extreme circumstances. Having to seek lega...

129: 3 Ways To Stop Screwing Up Communication In Marriage

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What kills marriages is poor communication. 99.99% of poor communication involves three classic steps that create nothing but disconnection and mist...

128: This One Mindset Change Guarantees You Will Win In Marriage

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A positive mentality is essential to creating success in any arena. In the Octagon of marriage, mentality is crucial. Most husbands mentality in mar...

127: The One Essential Move To Win Her Heart Back Forever

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ignore what’s presented in this episode and your marriage is doomed to long-term struggle or ultimate failure. Integrate this episode’s wisdom an...

126: "How Your Phone Is Wrecking Your Relationships" with Joey Odom

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready to enjoy a truly passionate conversation with the legendary Joey Odom from Aro on today’s episode.    Joey tells his heart-breaking sto...

125: 10 Hacks To Unlock Your Sexual Peak Performance Tonight

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Part of a 2-part special series, this episode introduces you to ten epic techniques and strategies to get you out of your head and deeply into your an...

124: 1 Bedtime Secret To Never Go Soft Or Explode Too Soon!

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tons of men around the planet often have the sexual experience of either being frustratingly too soft or prematurely ejaculating too soon. Unnecess...

123: 8 Reasons You Should Never Do Marriage Therapy

13 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mark reveals his eight personal reasons why marriage therapy is the last thing he would ever advise a man or couple to start doing in the hopes to sav...

122: "Loving Your Queen Who's Been Sexually Abused" with Matilde Crocini

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The #MeToo movement awakened global awareness of the extraordinary number of women who have experienced sexual abuse. Yet very little is spoken of th...

121: Masculine Archetypes: The 4 Secret Superpowers of Heroic Husbands

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Four untapped super powers lay dormant within you. Lying dormant, marriage will always be an unending struggle. Reactivated, these four super powers ...

120: Conscious Parenting From Six Years in San Quentin Prison with Wayne Boatwright

01 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Enjoy this riveting conversation with Wayne Boatwright detailing his profound journey of rehabilitation and healing before, during and after his six-y...

119: Marriage Hell To Masculine Heaven Through Mind Mastery

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The outer hell of a failing marriage invites us men to attain our freedom looking elsewhere.  Some men will look outwardly gazing at all the potenti...

118: My Purpose-Driven Career Change in Full Family Life with Michael Hegarty

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we welcome in Michael Hegarty. After a successful 20-year banking career, Michael went from career and income ending uncertainty, to f...

117: The One Thing That Saved My Marriage Last Weekend

23 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Mark shares on how a super intense conversation with his Queen would have classically ended in a marriage-ending style face-off if not...

116: Becoming A Confident and Trusted Husband with Four Arrows

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We welcome back in the amazing Four Arrows, guest speaker at the United Nations General Assembly 2023, to gift us sacred elder wisdom on how to show u...

115: 3 Steps To Deep Intimacy Any Dude Can Nail

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the greatest struggles in marriage for nearly every husband on the planet is trying to figure out how to create deep intimacy. This is especial...

114: The 7 Deadly Sins of Narcissistic Mother-In-Laws

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Special return guest, Matilde Crocini (my beautiful Queen!), rocks the socks off us all in her in-depth surgical analysis of narcissistic mother-in-la...

113: Today My Queen Ripped Through My Mediocrity Justifying BS!

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Raw, real and delivered fresh from the octagon of my marriage today! Enjoy!  Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A...

112: Why Every Husband Listening Should Get Remarried Soon!

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's a fun title that speaks to one of the most transformative healing perspectives any husband can bring into his marriage transformation journey. ...

110: How To Upgrade Your Commitment and Enter Hero Husband Status

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Most husbands subconsciously think that exchanging marriage vows was the biggest commitment, yet that moment in the nervous system of our Queens doesn...

110: Be Like A Monk Who Loves To F!ck

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The cultural shaming of desire has created one of the most destructive unspoken forces poisoning marriages in the modern era.   Our primal body love...

109: Marriage Is a Lonely Dogfight Without Brotherly Love and Support

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A sad tragedy of modern living is that 99% of husbands are feeling lonely in marriage and life.  We men are missing the spiritual nourishment of genu...

111: Masculine Words Of Safety For Marriage First Aid Moments

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The great feminine emotional wound is fearing abandonment in love. Unwittingly most husbands trigger this wound in deeply emotional moments with th...

109: The 4-Word Deep Connection Phrase Wives Love Hearing

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode comes off the back of an intimate relationship wisdom bomb dropped by Duey Freeman during my recent conversation with him.   In these fo...

109: "Living an Alcohol-Free Peak Performance Lifestyle" with Shea Fairbanks

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we welcome back in Shea Fairbanks. Emerging from a childhood of immensely traumatising events, for years Shea would use alcohol to hel...

108: Unscrewing My Arrogant Ass Parenting Style

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I ate humble pie recently when parenting expert Dan Peterson came on the show. Entering the interview with Dan, I felt I had the parenting game in the...