In this episode, Scott Becker shares inspiration from Sahil Bloom’s quote about not letting the fear of judgment hold you back,.
Chapter 1: Who is Scott Becker and what is this episode about?
This is Scott Becker with the Becker Private Equity and Business Podcast. Today's discussion comes out of a quote from an author, Sahil Bloom. And I've had a chance to read Sahil Bloom's book, at least one of them. Very smart person. But he had a particular quote that I just loved. And I thought that quote was right on in so many ways. So here's where the quote goes.
Chapter 2: What is Sahil Bloom’s quote about judgment?
Stop fearing the judgment of people who aren't even thinking about you. Nobody is thinking about you. Nobody cares. They're too busy thinking about themselves. The thing you've always wanted to do, go do it. Go do it now. It's this concept, I think, appeals to me in so many different ways. It's an overstatement that no one's thinking about you. Nobody cares about you.
Chapter 3: Why should we stop fearing the judgment of others?
But the point being, so many people that are scared to really move forward, scared to make that call, scared to put out that effort to try and get a job, scared to network. I see so many people who are young looking for a job by sending out
Chapter 4: How does fear of rejection hold people back from opportunities?
thousands of applications almost electronically where the hit rate is so low versus picking up the phone, emailing somebody directly, talking to somebody directly, trying to connect directly. And I just think people need to sort of stop fearing the judgment of people or stop fearing that they're going to get rejected. This rejection is a part of life.
Chapter 5: What is the importance of resilience and handling rejection?
And I don't know if we're all becoming soft or scared to be rejected. I get rejected every single day. I can't even remember telling you about how many rejections I got at prom. No, I'm just kidding about that. I'm just kidding. I didn't get rejected that many times trying to find a prom date.
But the idea of having a thick skin and getting rejected and living with rejection is a part of growing up and a part of resilience. And the overfearing of every encounter, every microaggression, every issue is It is so problematic. It's such a challenge. It's such a paralysis for people that they've got to move past that.
Chapter 6: How can we apply the idea of not fearing judgment in daily life and business?
That's why I love this concept of, again, let me quote the first part of it. Stop fearing the judgment of people who aren't even thinking about you. You know, if I send out a sales email to somebody. and they don't respond, they don't like it, they're not really interested, life goes on. At the end of the day, this is okay.
If I send out a request to help somebody on something, or if I send out a proposal for somebody to ask me to give a talk, and they don't like the price, they don't like what I'm doing, they're not interested, This is okay. Don't fear the judgment of it. If I'm on the golf course, I hit a horrendous shot. It's not okay. No, I'm just kidding. It's okay too.
It doesn't really matter in the big scheme of things. And what matters is your family's okay. You're okay. You're plugging forward. You're moving along. You're taking care of your mental and physical health. It is what it is. But the fear so much, the judgment of other people. I remember when I first started building a legal practice, people would laugh and scoff at me.
And I tell this story to every young person who's trying to build something. The first couple of times you try and build something, you get all this negativity from people of sort of like, oh, they laugh at you. A person used to say to me of my original newsletter. Oh, I use it for toilet paper.
What happens is it's not until you do it 10 times, 15 times, 20 times that they move from laughing at you to, oh, my God, they respect the fact that you're trying to be a serious professional.
So, again, I think at the end of the day, I love this tee-off point from Sahil Bloom, this concept of stop fearing the judgment of people who aren't even thinking about you, even if they are thinking about you. Who cares? Move forward. Make your life. The sooner you really go after it, the sooner you keep on doing things that are positive and productive,
the sooner that everybody starts to respect, oh, and I saw this very vividly. I see this with young professionals, moves from being like, oh, the person's trying too hard, to that person's a serious professional. I just love when I see that evolution in people. We've all seen it in ourselves, I think, and it is what it is, but I love this concept. Don't fear the reaper.
Don't fear the judgment of people who aren't even thinking about you. Go get them. Thank you for listening to the Becker Private Equity and Business Podcast. Thank you very, very much.
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