Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke
Episodes
#093 - It's the TRUTH or NOTHING: I got close to selling my soul, finding Jesus (!?), & fighting for integrity
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
I think this is the one we've all be waiting for. I'M BACK HOME, AND I'M BACK WITH A FIRE that can never be extinguished. And YES, I ad...
#092 - Storytelling as resistance, wild tea, deep friendship, and fighting to remember - w/ Rui Liu
05 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Oh my goodness. This conversation is everything I needed, and more.I’m joined by one of my best friends and favourite humans on this planet, the inc...
#091 - are you 'protecting your peace' or is it just avoidance in disguise?
24 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve been thinking a lot about the ways we convince ourselves we’re doing something noble - spiritual, even - when really, we’re just avoiding t...
#090 - I let myself down, this breakup was my most brutal lesson in self-integrity, pain of duality, & MORE
10 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
WOW! I really went there with you for this one. March is here, Spring is upon us, which means my 2025 begins. I return here with fresh thoughts and an...
#089 - The cost of belonging, identity, and being okay with being the unconventional one - w/ Caro Gomez
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What does belonging look like for you? Can you think of a time when you navigated the space between two cultures, and how did it shape your identity? ...
#088 - Be brave enough to ask for help!
09 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I know there's a sense of hopelessness in the world right now, and to be very honest, there always will be. And something that I want to do here ...
#087 - Put an end to sex & intimacy related SELF-SABOTAGE
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of feeling like you're constantly tripping over your own feet when it comes to sex and intimacy? You're not alone. Let's get real...
#086 - Being brutally honest about my relationship with identity & money - w/ Sharmadean Reid
08 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling like the system's rigged against you? Join us as Sharmadean Reid MBE, founder of The Stack and author of "New Methods for Women,&quo...
#085 - It's time to face the conflict you're avoiding
01 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs? In this episode, I explore the surprising impact conflict avoidance can have on our ability to bu...
#083 - What your discomfort is trying to teach you
17 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Discomfort. It's that feeling that makes you want to crawl back under the covers. But what if I told you it could be the key to unlocking your fu...
#082 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is correct?
10 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like a fraud despite your accomplishments? That nagging voice whispering "you're not good enough". What if that discomfort is...
#081 - You need to initiate sex, avoiding conflict in relationships, desire, & MORE
03 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ready to unravel the mysteries of modern love and intimacy? Today I'm joined by renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, Todd Baratz. ...
#080 - An update: my book IS OUT, signing to Steven Bartlett, success on my terms, & MORE
27 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What a whirlwind this past week since my book has been published and has been in your hands! It's been a crazy but amazing past few years writing...
#079 - Releasing cult-like thinking & rigid identities - w/ Mark Vicente
15 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the ...
#078 - How to deal with rejection (I'm facing it in real time!)
01 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with y...
#077 - Rejecting urgency culture
25 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally an...
#076 - Dark side of dating apps, heartbreak, raw attachment style truths - w/ Rebecca Archer
18 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachm...
#075 - Let people f*cking help you!
04 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound ...
#074 - How to refuse living in shame
26 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my...
#073 - Be okay with disappointing people
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the r...
#072 - It’s time to manage who has access to you
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance. Your support...
#071 - How to seduce people socially
29 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – ...
#070 - Don't be afraid to be seen trying
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still exp...
#069 - Your circle determines your success
08 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
WE ARE BACK! As we step into the new year, join me as I riff out loud and explore how our social circles influence our personal success; whether we re...
#068 - What happens when you outgrow YOURSELF?
25 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered how each new experience moulds the person you're evolving into? Join me in a powerful exploration of self-awareness and transformat...
#067 - The trap of attachment style labels
18 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall...
#066 - REVISITED: Should the outrage of others stop you from speaking?
11 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitleme...
#065 - Painful but necessary changes
04 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writi...
#064 - Refuse to play the game
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us...
#063 - The fear of being left behind
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a ‘content creator’ or as someone who influences, but ...
#062 - Tough lessons: owning your toxicity, using your voice confidently, the truth about success
11 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Deve...
#061 - Confession: I've been writing timidly
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I receive...
#060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of?
21 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied...
#058: Do you have high standards, or unrealistic expectations?
31 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a whi...
#057: The freedom of choicelessness with Light Watkins
24 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual min...
#056: A message for you: I know you’re exhausted
17 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and per...
#055: Why are you hiding in plain sight?
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already...
#054 - Getting sober, facing shame & taking responsibility - w/ Sarah Ann Macklin
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know i...
#053: Are you self-censoring? Understanding communication styles in today's culture
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential.This is where assertive ...
#052: Are you killing intimacy by avoiding conflict?
29 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hid...
#051 - For those that can no longer delay making THAT decision…
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permi...
#050 - Can you be fulfilled in life and still participate in cancel culture?
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life?I dive deep into this top...
#049 - Why 'faking it till you make it' doesn't work, and what you can do instead
24 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helpin...
#048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive (dealing w/ a breakup)
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve never shared anything like this publicly…Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my curren...
#047 - It's time to re-introduce yourself, no more hiding!
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a tr...
#046 - My deep desire to be led by a man
03 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and do...
#045 - Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views?
27 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community:Do your public opinions match your private (and most hon...
#044 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is pointing to an uncomfortable truth?
20 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a MUST LISTEN.It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills...
#043 - Thinking deeply again, living slowly, redefining success
13 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (st...
#042 - Are you sabotaging your sex life: porn, intimacy, drugs & alcohol
23 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No option but to get honest...let's talk!Books mentioned:Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson...
#041 - Using envy as a motivator (instead of self-sabotaging)
09 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Oh man...something tells me more than a few of us need this one. Let's talk about it.To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this ...
#040 - Rejecting urgency culture & the pressure to do it ALL
03 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
WHEW! If there was ever a more timely episode...THIS IS IT!To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this month (January 2023) , head to ...
#039 - How to have difficult conversations (the ones you’re avoiding)
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our natural instinct as human beings is to avoid things that will likely cause discomfort or pain - navigating difficult conversations is no different...
#038 - Refuse to accept your own bullsh*t
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Look what the cat dragged in....ME!With a whole lot of updates and musings for you. Strap in.To join the private group I'll be mentoring in Janua...
#037 - An URGENT call for independent thinking - w/ Kyle Creek
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This audio is from an IG LIVE I had with the brilliant author and creative director - Kyle Creek, who is widely known for his writing under the alias ...
#036 - Is it confidence, or an inflated sense of self?
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ready to ruffle your own feathers?Do you have an unrealistic view of yourself and others? Are you self-centred, pretentious, or boastful? Do...
#035 - Courage in the face of censorship, courage in the face of your own BS - w/ Salomé Sibonex
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This conversation was a wild f*cking ride. So much so, that nearly a week later I am STILL processing all that took place!We covered it all, and I mea...
#034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Let's get honest! What happens when you can no longer relate to the people around you, to your surroundings, and to the old versions of yourself?...
LIVE SHOW announcement: No more outrage
08 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, I’ll be hosting a very special & intimate LIVE recording of my podcast Beyond the Self.On Saturday 18th of June you’l...
#033 - Are you lying to yourself?
16 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this final episode of the season, we take the opportunity to call our own BS out and shine a light on where we're not being entirely honest wi...
#032 - Dare to do things differently
09 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
SUBSCRIBE to my new YouTube channel!If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this ...
#031 - How to avoid losing your sh*t in a divided world - w/ Mark Groves
02 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Last week I went LIVE with a man I've come to know and truly adore - Human Connection Specialist, friend, and fellow advocate for free expression...
#030 - Why cancel culture thrives on you being a terrible communicator (let's talk solutions!)
25 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode (originally recorded LIVE on IG), I covered: are you a more passive-aggressive communicator than you think?, why ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATO...
#029 - The gifts of being misunderstood
18 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and ...
#028 - What are you willing to risk?
11 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Playing it safe won't cut it. Let's talk about it....If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Appl...
#027 - A personal note: when life humbles you
28 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Subscribe to my new YouTube channel: CLICK HERENEW EVENT: Book your ticket for the private virtual masterclass I'm hosting (April 9th) on &apos...
#026 - What happens when the 'toxic person' is you?
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We can all agree that removing people who consistently exhibit toxic behaviours from our life is almost always a good idea. But what happens when that...
#025 - 5 reasons why I self-censor
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
NEW EVENT: Book your ticket for the private virtual event (April 9th) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': http...
#024 - Why you don't have to speak up on every social issue
28 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
No mincing of words with this one.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast ...
#023 - How to stop being rigid in your thinking
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
(Previously titled: How to exist in a complex world with a binary brain). Black and white (either or) thinking is great if you need to cross the road...
#022 - What to do when change feels f*cking scary (LIVE Oct 2020)
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
An audience member reminded me of this fantastic LIVE I did nearly two years ago. It was relevant then, but it feels even more relevant now - for reas...
#021 - Are other people entitled to decide how you use your voice?
07 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
"Those who have accepted self-censorship as a part of themselves tend to work overtime to justify the punishment of those who choose to express t...
#020 - The true cost of entitled behaviour
31 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is one you won't want to miss!I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts...
#019 - The truth shouldn't be controversial
24 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Some juicy answers to some fantastic questions!I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple P...
#018 - Do you know what you stand for?
17 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you really who you say you are? Let's find out...I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review...
#017 - Why discomfort is good for you
10 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Discomfort gets a bad rep despite it being a crucial component if you want ever to want to exist beyond the confines of your 'comfort zone'....
#016 - Do I need to apologise? And other thoughts
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
No words of seduction needed - this was a good'un! I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review o...
#015 - What you're not changing, you're choosing
22 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This was a very personal episode and it's one I think will resonate with many of you listening. Those many layers of identity, huh? I'll let...
#014 - How to focus on what you can control
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Book your ticket for the private virtual event (October 23rd) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://afri...
#013 - How to stop self-censoring
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Book your ticket for the private virtual event (October 23rd) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://afri...
#012 - Why 'faking it till you make it' doesn't work, and what you can do instead
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
'Fake it till you make it' has to be one of the worst widely accepted mantras I've heard in my adult life. This approach to life messes...
#011 - Why you might be having an identity crisis
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Who am I? What do I believe in? What do I want to do? Do I even agree with this anymore? Those are just a few of the common questions that pull at us ...
#010 - Everything about you has changed
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What a pleasure it is to be back with you. In this minisode I reintroduce myself and tell you what you can expect in the upcoming series which will ta...
#009 - How to be f*****g patient! (& 2 other thoughts)
30 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I decided to unpack 3 THEMES that have been coming up as of late, and something tells me more than a few of us need to hear it. Let&a...
#008 - How to move through imposter syndrome
16 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I HOPE YOU (and your ego) ARE READY FOR THIS ONE!In this juicy episode we talk all things imposter syndrome. What is it? Where the f**k does it ...
#007 - How to break self-sabotaging patterns
02 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Self-sabotage is a F**KER!!!!! This we know...but we don't always do it because we hate ourselves. It's usually out of self-preservation......
#006 - How to release perfectionism
28 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Perfectionism is something a lot of us experience. It's something many of us OVER-IDENTIFY with. It's something we sometimes see as a '...
#005 - How to identify your own toxic behaviours
14 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is this REAL!? Is Africa really back with another podcast episode. YES SHE F**KING IS! In this deliciously expansive comeback episode we are diving in...
#004 - How to manage negative thoughts
22 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Pesky negative thoughts! Something we ALL experience, but how we do actually manage them and stop being slaves to each mindset gremlin that decides to...
#003 - Why choosing yourself won't always feel empowering
15 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
WHEW! That's best way to describe Episode 3 of the podcast. I explored why 'choosing ourselves' doesn't always feel great and addr...
#002 - How to Release Limiting Beliefs
08 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode (recorded in my closet under the Full Flower Moon) I explored all things BELIEFS, and we went beyond the surface.What is a belie...
#001 - Why it seems impossible to change
02 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this introductory episode, I delved into the reason why we find it difficult to make long-lasting changes in our habits and behaviour - it turns ou...