Books for Men
Episodes
Entry #32: It's All About the Angle
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #32 documents the difference between "subject matter" and "angle of attack." If you don't have a great subject, then create one. After that, it'...
Entry #31: Don't Think Like This
18 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #31 documents three types of thinking that I try to avoid. I don't always succeed, but I try. I guess that means I think you should try to avoid...
Entry #30: Most Important Entry Yet
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #30 pivots out of the reflections countdown and explains why. It also shares probably one of the strongest forces that move through my life toda...
Entry #29: Reflection No. 7
07 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #29 shares reflection number seven from my Paris-to-Barcelona trip. How short is too short to visit an international city alone? And, fear not b...
Entry #28: Reflection No. 8
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #28 shares reflection number eight from my Paris-to-Barcelona trip. It's about the power of walking a city. Oh, and the observation that Paris a...
Entry #27: Reflection No. 9
03 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #27 shares reflection number nine from my Paris-to-Barcelona trip. It's really about having to step back and/or slow down to make sense of thing...
Entry #26: Reflection No. 10
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #26 starts counting down ten reflections I have about my Paris-to-Barcelona trip. I call this one "discomfort as a rule." Maybe you agree. Take ...
Entry #25: Jale!
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #25 comes to you from Barcelona where I've been sightseeing the last two days. Some people and places mentioned in the episode are Renfe-SNCF hi...
Entry #24: Nothing Beats It
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #24 documents some of my Paris explorations. You can also hear me butcher French, lol. Some places and people mentioned are Musee L'Orangerie, L...
Entry #23: Like a Movie
20 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #23 is sent from Paris with love. It feels like a movie set. Oh, and excuse the poor audio quality. I kinda like it, though. I don't know, don't...
Entry #22: The Escape-Reality Spectrum
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #22 documents an interesting way to look at movies, shows, and books. Some art allows you to escape life, while other art brings you closer to i...
Entry #21: What is self-editing?
16 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #21 builds off entry #20 and briefly covers how I like to self-edit. I was moving fast, so I didn't cover everything. C'mon, gimme a break! Just...
Entry #20: What about grammer? (Wink, wink)
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #20 answers a listener question about writing—what about grammar? In short, it matters. But probably not as much as you think it does. You nee...
Entry #19: Things I'm Bad At
12 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #19 documents three things that I'm currently pretty bad at. In some ways, these things probably hinder me. Actually, at times, I know they do—...
Entry #18: Like a Chef
09 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #18 reminds you that anything documented on It's Not What It Seems is not meant to be advice. It's just my current thoughts, quirks, and ways of...
Entry #17: Writing vs. Storytelling
07 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #17 documents a way I like to think about books—genre, literary, memoir, or whatever really. For writers, this is just a simple strategy to ev...
Entry #16: What is voice?
05 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #16 documents the two main components of that infamous thing known as "writer's voice." Daunting? Maybe, but the hard part isn't finding it. The...
Entry #15: A Writer's Dilemma
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #15 shares a small dilemma that writers face when they're crafting something. Or at least I do, and I'd imagine most creators across most artist...
Entry #14: Hearts Out to Ukraine
27 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #14 takes a timeout to send thoughts and prayers to all the Ukrainian people as they fight for their freedom. Like many of us, this evolving and...
Entry #13: What about the kids?
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #13 pivots to share what I feel is our biggest problem (as a society) as we move forward. Not democrats or republicans. Not crypto or China, or ...
Entry #12: Dispelling a Myth
20 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #12 addresses a common myth about creative work—speed hinders quality. Does it? Some artists mentioned in the entry are Miles Davis, Shakespea...
Entry #11: On That Note
17 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #11 reconsiders the closing line from Entry #10. Are all great writers actually rewriters? Or, is there a case for not rewriting? Some artists t...
Entry #10: Tip for Writers
14 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #10 shares a quick tip for my fellow writers, which is more just a reminder. But a worthy one! It uses the book Page Fright by Harry Bruce as th...
Entry #9: Impressive? (Maybe)
12 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #9 introduces a theory that I call "the impressiveness differential." Eek. Some might find it sad, others inspiring, nonetheless, I'll own it. I...
Entry #8: Something I Do
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #8 shares something I've been writing and curating for over two years now. If you like good music, then my column Lyrics I Love and Spotify play...
Entry #7: Should I quit drinking?
08 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #7 raises a question that I've been thinking a lot about lately. In a way, as evident by my annual dry January, it's been looming for much longe...
Entry #6: Intention is Everything
04 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #6 documents another one of my core beliefs (both personally and creatively.) It also shares a couple of quotes from the great playwright, David...
Entry #5: Less is More
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #5 introduces one of my core beliefs (both personally and creatively.) More importantly, I share why I believe it's so important.If you enjoyed ...
Entry #4: Similar or different?
29 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #4 piggybacks off the previous entry and offers an alternative question to ask when evaluating creative work—whether it be your own or someone...
Entry #3: What are reviews?
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #3 sheds light on what I think reviews (and opinions) actually are opposed to what we traditionally think of them as. Will you agree? Maybe. Tak...
Entry #2: Why
25 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #2 answers a listener question—why are you doing the audio-diary format? (Great question.)To submit a question to be answered on the show: 1) ...
Entry #1: Welcome Back
23 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Entry #1 is the trailer for the new version of It's Not What It Seems. It briefly covers what you can expect moving forward with the podcast—an unpo...
#44 - All Things Come to an End
25 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This will be the final episode of It’s Not What It Seems. Thank you so much for listening and your ongoing support. It was a ton of fun and an honor...
#43 - David JP Fisher: How to Not Suck at Networking
18 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a down to earth conversation with David JP Fisher. D. Fish is the author of Networkin...
#42 - Book of the Month: Range (July '19)
28 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss July 2019’s book of the month, Range by David Epstein. *Se...
#41 - Loretta Breuning: On Taming Your Anxiety
14 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a great conversation with Loretta Breuning. Loretta is the author of Tame Your Anxiet...
#40 - Book of the Month: Stumbling on Happiness (Jun '19)
30 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss June 2019’s book of the month, Stumbling on Happiness by D...
#39 - John Crowley: A Conversation About Selling
16 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a great conversation with John Crowley. John is the author of Knuckle Dragging Sales:...
#38 - Douglas Vigliotti: Interview on The Gap (Part II)
09 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron interviews me about my new book, The Gap: The Little Space Between What Yo...
#37 - Book of the Month: Just Kids (May '19)
26 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss May 2019’s book of the month, Just Kids by Patti Smith. *S...
#36 - Daniel Pink: On Why Timing Is Everything
19 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an interesting conversation with Daniel Pink. Dan is the author of When: The Scientif...
#35 - Why I Do What I Do
12 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, Why I Do What I Do: A Manifesto. I wrote this article to he...
#34 - Book of the Month: The Case Against Education (April '19)
28 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss April 2019’s book of the month, The Case Against Education...
#33 - don Jose Ruiz: On Living Better Through Storytelling
21 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an inspirational conversation with don Jose Ruiz. Jose is the author of The Wisdom of...
#32 - The Problem With Star Wars
14 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio articled titled, The Problem With Star Wars. I wrote this article to help y...
#31 - Book of the Month: Barking Up the Wrong Tree (Mar '19)
31 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss March 2019’s book of the month, Barking Up the Wrong Tree:...
#30 - Douglas Vigliotti: Interview on The Gap (Part I)
24 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron interviews me about my new book, The Gap: The Little Space Between What Yo...
#29 - One Bad Habit You Can't Run From
17 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, One Bad Habit You Can’t Run From. I wrote this article to...
#28 - Bob Roth: The Power of Transcendental Meditation
10 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a really important conversation with Bob Roth. Bob is the author of Strength in Still...
#27 - Book of the Month: Factfulness (Feb '19)
24 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss February 2019’s book of the month, Factfulness: 10 Reasons...
#26 - An Urge Worth Fighting
17 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, An Urge Worth Fighting. I wrote this article to help you th...
#25 - Chip Conley: The Case for Rewiring Not Retiring
10 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a fun conversation with Chip Conley. Chip is the author of Wisdom @ Work: The Making ...
#24 - Book of the Month: 21 Lessons for the 21st Century (Jan ‘19)
27 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, my brother Darron and I discuss January 2019’s book of the month, 21 Lessons for the 21st ...
#23 - Jay Acunzo: Why Context Matters More Than Anything
20 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an entertaining conversation with Jay Acunzo. Jay is the author of Break the Wheel: ...
#22 - Walt Disney, Apple, and Nintendo Are All Liars
13 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, Walt Disney, Apple, and Nintendo Are All Liars. I wrote t...
#21 - Rapid Fire Recap of 2018
23 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this special episode of It’s Not What It Seems, I wrap up 2018 with a highlight reel of this year’s guests. Specifically, I’m sharing the rap...
#20 - Seth Godin: This Isn’t Marketing, It’s So Much More
16 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an enlightening conversation with the one and only, Seth Godin. Seth is the author of...
#19 - Joe Sweeney: On Improving Education and Making Better Decisions
09 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an educational conversation with Joe Sweeney. Joe is the Executive Director of How I ...
#18 - Martin Gurri: How New Media Has Changed Public Opinion
02 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an interesting conversation with Martin Gurri. Martin is the author ofThe Revolt of T...
#17 - The Hope Model
25 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, The Hope Model. I wrote this article to show you a 3-step ...
#16 - Jay Baer: A Better Way to Get People Talking About You
18 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an awesome conversation with Jay Baer. Jay is the author of Talk Triggers: The Comp...
#15 - Tyler Cowen: On How to Improve Society and Change the World
11 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an eye-opening conversation with Tyler Cowen. Tyler is the author of Stubborn Attac...
#14 - Bradley Tusk: The Truth About Politics and Politicians
04 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an entertaining conversation with Bradley Tusk. Bradley is the author ofThe Fixer: M...
#13 - 5 Ways to Embrace the Unknown
28 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, 5 Ways to Embrace the Unknown. I wrote this article to he...
#12 - don Miguel Ruiz Jr: An Ancient Philosophy for Modern Times
21 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a spiritual conversation with don Miguel Ruiz Jr. Miguel is the author of don Migue...
#11 - Annie Duke: On Making Decisions Under Pressure & Battling Stereotypes
14 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a wide-ranging conversation with my first repeat guest, Annie Duke. Annie and I had s...
#10 - Greg Mckeown: How to Discover Who You're Meant to Be
07 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an essential conversation with Greg Mckeown. Greg is the author of Essentialism:...
#9 - 12 Breadcrumbs That Might Help You Find Your Way
30 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, 12 Breadcrumbs That Might Help You Find Your Way. I wrote...
#8 - Ryan Serhant: Sales Secrets of a Real Estate Mogul
23 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have an entertaining conversation with Ryan Serhant. Ryan is the author of Sell It Like S...
#7 - Herb Cohen: The World's Best Negotiator
16 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a great conversation with Herb Cohen. Herb is the author of You Can Negotiate Anyth...
#6 - Mark Goulston: Dealing with the Impossible People in Your Life
09 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It's Not What It Seems podcast, I have a compassionate conversation with Mark Goulston, MD. Mark is the author of Talking to ...
#5 - The Most Important Question You're NOT Asking
02 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, The Most Important Question You're NOT Asking. I wrote thi...
#4 - Annie Duke: Life Lessons, Poker Stories, & Decision Strategies
26 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a fun conversation with Annie Duke. Annie is the author of Thinking in Bets: Making ...
#3 - Loretta Breuning: Rewiring Your Brain for Happiness
19 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a joyful conversation with Loretta Graziano Breuning, Ph.D. Loretta is the author of...
#2 - Steve Sims: The Modern Day Wizard of Oz
14 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I have a down-to-earth conversation with Steve Sims. Steve is the author of Bluefishing: The...
#1 - The Outcome Fallacy
13 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the, It’s Not What It Seems podcast, I share an audio article titled, The Outcome Fallacy. I wrote this article to help you th...
Trailer: What is It's Not What It Seems?
06 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Introducing the new podcast from bestselling author and sales strategist Doug Vigliotti. It will inspire you to be more open-minded. In this show, you...