Brick House
Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
Episodes
081 To Your Health!
15 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Rather than thinking that “porn is bad,” maybe it’s more useful to think of it as “bad for your health.” Ben also explores the similarity be...
080 Hello Again!
05 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
After a hiatus, Ben Fraser returns to podcasting and reintroduces himself and his perspective on quitting porn. It’s a worthwhile journey! Links: Ma...
079 Anger, Anxiety and Therapy
28 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not. Somatic Experiencing:...
078 Miistakes and Other Disasters
01 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead. Appreciation: Amazon...
077 Comfort and Joy
24 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
God rest ye merry gentlemen Let nothing you dismay Remember Christ our Savior Was born on Christmas Day To save us all from Satan's pow'r When we were...
076 Ogling
17 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can...
075 Easy Women
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it? Watch the...
074 Restructuring Your Life
19 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only ...
073 VOTE! (for the person you want to be)
05 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a...
072 Sustainability
22 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not? Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustain...
071 Love and Compassion
24 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with...
070 Learning From Relapse
10 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes? Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of th...
069 Vulnerability
24 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connecti...
068 Change Is Possible
27 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidab...
067 Porn Saved My Life
05 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on ...
66 The Meaning of #MeToo
25 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with...
065 Resistance
15 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are curr...
064 Three Useful Tools
03 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in...
063 A Diet of Junk Food
21 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want. Inspired...
062 Behind the Scenes of the Porn Industry
19 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tel...
061 "Unbroken Brain" - Porn addiction is a developmental disorder
08 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser reviews “Unbroken Brain” by Maia Szalavitz, and discusses why adolescents are more vulnerable to addiction and why kindness and hope is...
060 An Artist's Approach to Porn Addiction
28 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Musician, filmmaker and creative person Ben Fraser shares some of his ideas about an artist’s take on porn addiction, including changing the narrati...
059 Internet Dating For Porn Addicts
03 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about the specific challenges of internet dating as it relates to recovering porn addicts, including fantasy and projection, taking s...
058 After The Breakup
13 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about the challenges of refraining from porn and masturbation in the 7 days immediately after a breakup. He faces the triggers of fee...
057 Ben Grosscup Song And Interview
06 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser interviews activist folksinger and organizer Ben Grosscup. Ben G. also sings an original song about internet porn addiction, “Every Day”...
056 Feeling The Love
30 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
After a 3 month break, the podcast is back! Season 2 of the web series is available now! http://brickhousewebseries.com/ Ben reflects on how it feels...
055 Happy New Year!
31 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
As we think about the New Year, Ben chooses a few key points from the past year that have helped him to quit porn and stay sober. PornFree Radio epi...
054 Self Care
25 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Are you taking good care of yourself? That is a key step in the challenge to quit porn. Matt Dobschuetz - PornFree Radio episode about making a plan...
053 Darkness And Light
16 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser reflects on the challenge of dealing with the darkness in our lives, literally and figuratively. This 2013 article has some interesting fa...
052 What I Learned From Juggling
10 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
How is learning to juggle like learning how to quit porn? Ben Fraser counts the ways. The show about yoga: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/039-b...
051 The Wrong Reasons To Quit
02 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about some of the wrong reasons to quit porn, and eventually gets to the right reason. Appreciation: Dogs Decoded PBS documentary. W...
050 Gratitude
25 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
As a porn addicts, it’s easy to feel bad about ourselves, or notice how difficult things are. On this Thanksgiving, Ben Fraser takes a moment to thi...
049 Advice To My Younger Self
18 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Today Ben thinks about what he would say to his younger self about porn, specifically when he was 12 years old. He’s learned a lot in the last 40 ye...
048 I Wouldn't Date A Woman Who...
12 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Back in Ben’s single days, there were a few woman who he wouldn’t consider dating because of the way they looked. But now he wonders if maybe his ...
047 Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places
05 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
You may know the old country song by Johnny Lee. Looking at porn is kind of like looking for love in all the wrong places, since porn cannot give you ...
046 Entertainment For Men
28 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
If you grew up with a certain magazine, then you know that phrase. Ben Fraser talks about how being a man makes us vulnerable to the “sex sells” t...
045 Feeling Terrible
22 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us use porn to avoid feeling terrible. But the only way to really quit using is to just feel terrible for a while. Want to be a guest on the ...
044 All I Need
15 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re craving porn, you think it will satisfy your needs. But it never does. What do you really need? Want to be a guest on the show? I’d l...
043 Day Four
07 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
What it feels like to be on Day Four after a relapse. I hope you learn from my mistakes. Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voic...
041 Ramblings
23 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular trigge...
040 I Am An Addict, Dammit!
17 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed ...
039 Breathe Into It - Things I Learned From Yoga
09 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser has been doing yoga for 34 years. Along the way, he learned a few things that are useful if you want to quit an addiction like porn. For in...
038 My Story - Part 3: Lowest Of The Low
03 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about “hitting bottom” and why he finally decided it was time to quit looking at porn. We’re fundraising to make new episodes ...
037 Willpower
26 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a common idea that to quit an addiction, you need to have a lot of willpower. But Ben Fraser thinks willpower is only one component to quitt...
036 Give Yourself A Break
19 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re an addict, your idea of taking a break is probably doing the addictive behavior, If you quit the addictive behavior, it’s sometimes hard...
035 Good Sex
12 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser wonders what good sex really looks like. Is it something we are used to seeing, or is it completely different? Dr. Ruth: https://en.wikipe...
034 How Does It Feel?
06 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser walks through a hypothetical porn experience and examines the feelings along the way. Obviously, there’s some pleasure. But what other fe...
033 I Am You
30 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Being an addict is no fun. But if you look around, you may notice that everyone else around you is addicted to something, whether it’s porn, or caff...
032 Entitlement and Deprivation
23 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser examines how, as addicts, we might feel entitled to look at porn, because we feel deprived. We feel like we deserve it. But maybe there are...
030 The Turning Point
09 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser reflects on what it’s like to be in the middle of a binge, and then re-commit to sobriety. He also talks about the feelings that come up ...
029 Starting Over
02 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about his strategy for starting over after a slip. This method works for him. What works for you? Appreciation: Community Fireworks ...
028 Asking For Help
24 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser wonders why asking for help is so difficult, when it’s so obvious that we need it. What kind of help can you get if you are trying to qui...
027 Father's Day
17 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks how his father’s magazines were his first exposure to pornography, and an alternative to blaming. How do you stop addiction when it...
026 The Rat Park
11 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about the Rat Park experiments of Bruce Alexander. What happens to rats who get addicted to morphine? And how do they become drug fre...
025 Opening Your Heart
04 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about how opening your heart might be key to recovery from porn addiciton. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/...
024 Update
28 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser shares updates about his recovery, trigger challenges, and his recent guest appearance on an internet radio talk show. He also explores the...
023 Springtime!
21 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Spring brings some challenges for the recovering porn addict. The winter coats are gone and it’s easier to see the shapes of people’s bodies, so h...
022 Three Short Stories
14 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben reads three short stories related to the struggles of porn addiction. Do you have any stories that you’d like to share? Pass them along! Poem b...
021 Accepting The Present
07 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben takes a road trip and talks about acceptance and being present. Porn is a great escape. But if we can be more satisfied with the present, porn and...
020 Ben Fraser Interviewed By Jeremy Jones (Tea And Crumpets Podcast)
30 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser gets interviewed by Jeremy Jones for the Tea and Crumpets Podcast and answers questions about the Brick House Web Series. Topics include ho...
019 You Are Still Good
23 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben reminds every one struggling with addictive behaviors that feeling bad about yourself doesn’t help. If you have a set back, how can you turn thi...
018 Checking In
16 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben does a check-in about the challenges of staying sober this week, including unexpected triggers like helping a friend with computer stuff. Apprec...
017 Ignoring The Obvious
09 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes you can get caught up in the addiction and ignore the obvious things you can do to quit. Ben talks about H.A.L.T.S., which stands for Hungry...
015 Beautiful Girls
26 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This phrase, often used in porn, seems harmless, but what are we saying when we use it? How are men and women affected by standards of beauty that are...
014 Not Enough Porn In The World
19 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
The internet is full of porn, but Ben thinks that it is still not enough. He’ll tell you why that is, and also what happened recently when he had a ...
013 That Would Be Telling
12 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben answers a question from Chris about when and how to tell a significant other about his porn habit. The answer is: it depends. But you should defin...
012 Is Porn Bad?
05 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
The answer may not be what you think. In any case, it doesn’t help to feel guilt or shame about it. Ben continues his discussion with Jim from episo...
011 Fifty Shades Of Grey
26 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben hasn’t watched it, but he still has a lot to say about it. What’s it like to be a recovering porn addict and be inundated with the media frenz...
010 Snowed In!
19 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser was recently snowed in at a motel far from home with nothing to do. Triggers! Hear how he dealt with real triggers in real time, without r...
009 Joking Around With Jim
12 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a lot of laughing going on during this episode when Ben talks to a guy who uses humor to help ease the tension when talking about quitting p...
008 Aliens Attack! Radio Play By Ben Fraser
05 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
An original comedy radio play is featured this week. What happens when aliens try to attack Earth? How can the Earthlings resist if they are in a porn...
007 A Year Without Porn
29 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about what he did to make it through one year without porn, including exercise, counseling, compassion for yourself, and not counting...
006 My Story - Part 2 Seeds Of Addiction
22 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Telling stories of early struggles can be a great step in the recovery process. Combine porn magazines, a sex education book, and feelings of isolati...
005 I'm Not An Addict! Am I?
15 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about the word “addiction” in regards to a porn habit, and says why he thinks it applies to himself. And how is compassion relate...
004 My Story - Part 1
08 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Telling our stories can be a way to end feelings of isolation. You may recognize yourself in Ben's story of how he first encountered pornography as a ...
003 Why I Quit Porn
01 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Reasons Ben Fraser quit porn. If you are trying to quit, you may sometimes forget why you are doing it. Here are some reasons that have been useful to...
002 How To Deal With How You Feel
26 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
How do you deal with the feelings that come up when you quit an addiction? Ben Fraser gives you some tips. More info at http://www.brickhousewebseries...
001 Quitting Porn - The Hero's Journey
03 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Ben Fraser talks about how quitting porn is like the Hero's Journey as described by Joseph Campbell. What is your "Call to Adventure?" Who are your al...