Calm Parenting Podcast
Episodes
Defiant, Moody Child Won’t Stop & Blames You: 5 Ways to Stop This
31 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Defiant, Moody Child Won’t Stop & Blames You: 5 Ways to Stop ThisYou have a child who gets moody and disrespectful. You tell her that attitude i...
Child Not Living Up To Your Expectations? Use This Script.
24 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Child Not Living Up To Your Expectations? Use This Script.Do you have a child who procrastinates, doesn’t listen, is impulsive and disorganized? You...
A Special Message For Kids Who Feel Different (Dedicated to Poppy!)
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A Special Message For Kids Who Feel Different (Dedicated to Poppy!)I recorded this short message for kids who feel different, don't always feel like t...
Get Your Kids to Listen Without Being Mean or Asking 12 Times
17 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get Your Kids to Listen Without Being Mean or Asking 12 TimesDo you ever feel like you have to ask your child 12 times just to do something simple lik...
Considering UN-Schooling? A Practical Framework
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Considering UN-Schooling? A Practical FrameworkThis is an opportunity to customize your child's education around his or her natural gifts, passions, c...
You Did What?! Disobeying & Lying About It
10 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You Did What?! Disobeying & Lying About ItYour child trades another kid at school for something you don’t approve of. Then hides it and lies a...
Why Kids Choose Consequences Over Simply Doing What You Ask
03 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why Kids Choose Consequences Over Simply Doing What You AskYou give a strong-willed child a simple instruction. If they would simply do what you asked...
When Kids Want To Do Things Their Own Way!
25 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When Kids Want To Do Things Their Own Way!Chloe wants to tie her own karate belt in the morning before practice. But she doesn’t really know how to ...
A Personal, Self-Serving, 5-Minute Podcast!
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A Personal, Self-Serving, 5-Minute Podcast!This is personal and self-serving so if you don’t want to listen to all 5:39 of it, here’s the gist. Yo...
Angry, Aggressive Child Who Swears, Lies, Lashes Out
18 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Angry, Aggressive Child Who Swears, Lies, Lashes OutDo you have a child who lies, swears, who lashes out at others and even at himself? Are you a Mom ...
Confronting Your Parents & In-Laws
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Confronting Your Parents & In-LawsDo you have parents who criticize how you raise your own kids? Even correct you in front of your kids? Does this...
You Are NOT Responsible For Your Child’s Happiness, Mood or Gratitude
11 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You Are NOT Responsible For Your Child’s Happiness, Mood or GratitudeThis is hard. Some of you were emotionally abandoned as a child. Some were dism...
Kids Are NOT Supposed To Be Immediately Obedient
04 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Kids Are NOT Supposed To Be Immediately ObedientHow many of you have been told kids are supposed to be immediately obedient? Maybe you were raised wit...
When Childhood Trauma Affects Parenting: 3 Ideas to Help You
28 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When Childhood Trauma Affects Parenting: 3 Ideas to Help YouParenting a strong-willed child is hard enough. But when you’ve had a traumatic or diffi...
5 Ways To Be A Better Parent, Leader & Manager
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
5 Ways To Be A Better Parent, Leader & ManagerWhether it's a teammate at work or a child at home, helping others to improve can be frustrating, es...
3 Specific Ways to Help Kids In School
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
3 Specific Ways to Help Kids In SchoolKirk begins this podcast with a fantastic way to change a child’s behavior in class without crushing his spiri...
From Authoritarian to Connected Parenting (Without Being Too Sweet)
14 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From Authoritarian to Connected Parenting (Without Being Too Sweet)Many of you grew up with an authoritarian parent who used fear to change your outwa...
3 Tough Talks With Husbands & Dads
10 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
3 Tough Talks With Husbands & DadsWhat is the role of the step-parent with someone else's biological children? What do you tell your daughter when...
Stop Whining, Complaining & Tantrums NOW!
07 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Stop Whining, Complaining & Tantrums NOW!Do you have a child who whines, complains and throws tantrums? Of course you do! Because you’re a paren...
Stop Anxiety, Perfectionism & Controlling People’s Emotions
30 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stop Anxiety, Perfectionism & Controlling People’s EmotionsHave you noticed that your anxiety as a parent actually backfires and causes the exac...
Q&A: Sibling Fights, Unhappy Kids, Parents with Control Issues, Kids Throwing Things
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Q&A: Sibling Fights, Unhappy Kids, Parents with Control Issues, Kids Throwing ThingsOn Facebook today, I asked parents what they were struggling w...
When Plans Change: Kids Who Lose It When Disappointed
23 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When Plans Change: Kids Who Lose It When DisappointedDo you have a child who loses it when plans change, when they face disappointment, during transit...
When Your Child Provokes You: 3 Ways to Stop Reacting
17 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When Your Child Provokes You: 3 Ways to Stop ReactingYour child is an expert at pushing your buttons. And it’s even worse when you are tired, irrita...
Q&A: Fear of Failure, Calming A Chaotic Home, Child Doesn’t Want to Participate?
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Q&A: Fear of Failure, Calming A Chaotic Home, Child Doesn’t Want to Participate?Do you have a child with a fear of failure, who gets upset when ...
Grumpy Kid? How to Change This (& Yourself)
10 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Grumpy Kid? How to Change This (& Yourself)Do you have a child who can be grumpy, who verbalizes everything that’s wrong, who often controls the...
5 Ways to Get Your Kids to Clean Up Messes (Part II)
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
5 Ways to Get Your Kids to Clean Up Messes (Part II)How can you get your kids to be more responsible for themselves? How can you get them to clean up ...
Overcoming Triggers That Set You Off: Messes Everywhere Part I
03 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Overcoming Triggers That Set You Off: Messes Everywhere Part IWe talked all last month about kids with big emotions. But what about parents with big e...
Stop Fights Between Siblings & Parents. Build Confidence.
26 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This may be one of the most important podcasts I have ever recorded. We cover sibling issues, tension between parent and child, building confidence, a...
Thanksgiving: 8 Ways to Handle Big Emotions (And Judgmental Family!)
19 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Thanksgiving: 8 Ways to Handle Big Emotions (And Judgmental Family!) For many parents of strong-willed children, holidays mean getting judged by fami...
Parents with Big Emotions: 5 Responses When Kids Push Your Buttons.
12 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Parents with Big Emotions: 5 Responses When Kids Push Your Buttons.We’ve been talking about how to help kids with big emotions. But what about when ...
BIG DEFIANCE FROM A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP & CHILD
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
BIG DEFIANCE FROM A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP & CHILDConfession: I didn’t like Casey when he was young. I nearly destroyed our relationship and my son...
Stop Defiance & Big Emotions From Anxiety
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stop Defiance & Big Emotions From AnxietyDo you have a child who struggles with anxiety? Who resists going to new places or trying new activities?...
MEN: How to Stop the Yelling & Power Struggles (Men In The Arena Guest Podcast)
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
MEN: How to Stop the Yelling & Power StrugglesFind yourself yelling at your kids? Or repeating your own Dad's angry parenting patterns, the very o...
Calming A Screaming Toddler or Venomous Teen
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Calming A Screaming Toddler or Venomous TeenYou have a child who lets out a bloodcurdling scream or won’t calm down no matter what you try. You have...
5 Strategies to Help Kids With Big Emotions
29 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
5 Strategies to Help Kids With Big EmotionsDo you have a child with BIG EMOTIONS? Of course you do. Do you or your spouse have big emotions? Yeah prob...
Help For Homeschoolers Part II: 10+ Tips For Your Kids
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Help For Homeschoolers Part II: 10+ Tips For Your KidsIn Part II of this series, we discuss more than a dozen ways to jumpstart your strong-willed chi...
Is Giving Consequences “Threatening” Your Child? Better Ways to Discipline
22 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is Giving Consequences “Threatening” Your Child? Better Ways to DisciplineIn this episode, Kirk answers this question, shows you how to use conseq...
Help For Homeschoolers Part I: 10 Secrets to Survive
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Help For Homeschoolers Part I: 10 Secrets to SurviveIf you are homeschooling a strong-willed child, you ARE going to experience constant pushback and ...
Child Doesn’t Want Any Restrictions on Screen Time? 4 Script Options
15 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Child Doesn’t Want Any Restrictions on Screen Time? 4 Script OptionsYour kids call you controlling and too strict. They don’t want any limits o...
Men: What Your Wife is Afraid To Tell You
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Men: What Your Wife is Afraid To Tell YouI made every mistake possible as a husband and father. I needed my son to behave and do everything I told him...
Best Morning Routine Idea! I Dare You To Try This
08 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Best Morning Routine Idea! I Dare You To Try ThisHow many of you dread waking your kids up in the morning for school, starting the day with a power st...
3 Ways to Help Disruptive Kids in the Classroom
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
3 Ways to Help Disruptive Kids in the ClassroomConsequences and behavior charts aren't working. So Kirk shares three practical ways to help with disru...
School Struggles? 8 Weird Ideas To Improve Focus, Motivation, Homework & Writing
01 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
School Struggles? 8 Weird Ideas To Improve Focus, Motivation, Homework & WritingIt's not shocking to me that your kids are struggling with focu...
How to "Win" The Power Struggle Without Struggling
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to "Win" The Power Struggle Without StrugglingYou ARE going to have power struggles with your strong-willed child, no matter the age. So often, we...
Stealing, Lying and Spanking
24 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stealing, Lying and SpankingSo your son steals some money, lies directly to your face, and then confesses when he is about to be spanked. Is there a b...
When Kids Don’t Want to Do Things YOUR Way
17 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When Kids Don’t Want to Do Things YOUR Way Strong-willed kids are never going to do things the way you want them done. They aren’t. And it’s go...
Fighting Over Doritos: Handling Tantrums & Sibling Fights
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Fighting Over Doritos: Handling Tantrums & Sibling FightsTwo kids bring home bags of Doritos. The brother eats them, sister complains, Mom interve...
My Son Follows Me, Relentlessly, Picking Fights
10 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
My Son Follows Me, Relentlessly, Picking FightsWhat do you do when your child gets upset at you, then follows you around relentlessly, hurling socks a...
The Frustrated Child: 3 Ways to Help
03 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Frustrated Child: 3 Ways to HelpThis podcast is jampacked with three big insights that WILL change your home and your child. How do you shift your...
How & When To Be Stern, Without Being Mean
27 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How & When To Be Stern, Without Being MeanThere are times when you can be understanding of your child’s reaction or attitude. But being too swee...
Stop Power Struggles Without Breaking Your Child’s Spirit
20 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stop Power Struggles Without Breaking Your Child’s Spirit When you try to change another person’s behavior, you become frustrated because they do...
A Great Phrase to De-Escalate Back-to-School Tension
14 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A Great Phrase to De-Escalate Back-to-School TensionEveryone is on edge now with school returning. Your kids are going to pushback, become more mouthy...
Moms, This is NOT Your Fault (Tough Toddler Troubles)
12 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Moms, This is NOT Your Fault (Tough Toddler Troubles)Do you have a young child who doesn’t follow instructions, only does what he wants to do, melts...
Let Your Kids Be Odd & Responsible For Themselves
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Let Your Kids Be Odd & Responsible For ThemselvesYou have a child who came out of the womb different—more strong-willed, sensitive, peculiar, ne...
3 Quick Ways to Help Kids at Back-to-School Time
06 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As the new school year begins, you’re hoping the new teacher understands your child and can help him succeed, instead of relying on behavior charts ...
Stop Making Your Kids Eat Your Food…Or Ideas
30 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a child that reflexively says, “No!” or “Why?” and rejects even your best, most well-intentioned suggestions? Of course you do! I...
You’re Not Yelling…Yet. But Here’s What Ticks You Off.
23 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You’re Not Yelling…Yet. But Here’s What Ticks You Off. Wouldn’t it be awesome if your kids just did what you told them to do? Without whining...
One New Idea When a Child Lashes Out
16 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One New Idea When a Child Lashes OutSo your child is lashing out. You can’t distract, redirect, or reason with your child this time. Nothing is work...
Straight Up Defiance: 7 Ways to Stop It.
09 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Straight Up Defiance: 7 Ways to Stop It.Do you have a child who is defiant, oppositional, backtalks, or rolls his eyes? Kirk shows you how to be to...
When Kids Resist & Whine—Stop Trying to Make Everything Better
02 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When Kids Resist & Whine—Stop Trying to Make Everything BetterAre you tired of feeling like you have to “make everything better” for your ch...
Q&A: Exhausted By Lies, Defiance, Yelling, Moody Kids?
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Q&A: Exhausted By Lies, Defiance, Yelling, Moody Kids?How do you handle kids who lie and won't accept responsibility, husbands who yell, defiant k...
2 Ways to (Re)Build Your Relationship With Your Strong-Willed Child
25 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
2 Ways to (Re)Build Your Relationship With Your Strong-Willed ChildTo my shame, I didn’t like our son when he was little and nearly destroyed my rel...
Kirk Answers Your Toughest Questions!
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Kirk Answers Your Toughest Questions!Have a child who dominates others and family time, whines or complains, won't do homework or clean up messes, str...
Handling A Demanding Child Without Losing Your Mind
18 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Handling A Demanding Child Without Losing Your Mind Do you have a child who comes downstairs in the morning (afternoon and evening) DEMANDING things ...
How to Discipline Without Anger
11 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to Discipline Without Anger A Dad at a conference asked, “How can I give my kids the benefits of discipline without the anger and broken relati...
"I Don't Have Anger Issues!"
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"I Don't Have Anger Issues!"When I was in my 30's, little things going wrong would cause me to explode. I'd yell, catastrophize ("Now the whole night ...
Triggered By Messes? An Odd Way to Get Your Kids to Listen More
04 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Triggered By Messes? An Odd Way to Get Your Kids to Listen MoreWhat do your kids do that triggers you? Is it the constant sibling fights, the arguing,...
Child Bossy, Melt Down Over Transitions & Losing, Argue Relentlessly?
28 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Child Bossy, Melt Down Over Transitions & Losing, Argue Relentlessly?Do you have a child who is bossy, melts down over changes in plans or transit...
Sibling Fights: What Are The Consequences?
21 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sibling Fights: What Are The Consequences?Siblings lash out, provoke and even hit one another. So how do you stop this from happening and what should ...
When Your Child Thrashes About—Teach Them To Be Responsible
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When Your Child Thrashes About—Teach Them To Be ResponsibleEver have a child lose it over little things? Want your child to learn how to be responsi...
I Feel Like A Failure As A Mom! My Child Won’t Listen!
07 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I Feel Like A Failure As A Mom! My Child Won’t Listen!“Our son won’t listen at home, school, or at soccer practice. He just does his own thing. ...
Why Do Strong-Willed Kids Push Your Buttons?
23 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why Do Strong-Willed Kids Push Your Buttons?It’s a given. Your kids are going to push your buttons. They are going to irritate you. And you are goin...
PANDAS, Pills, Patience & Pushups: Who Wins the Faceoff?
16 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
PANDAS, Pills, Patience & Pushups: Who Wins the Faceoff?Your child is resistant to doing something they don’t like. You naturally get impatie...
Responding to Blatant Disrespect & Backtalk
09 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Responding to Blatant Disrespect & BacktalkSometimes our kids spit out words we would have never said to our parents. We fear they will grow up to...
How To Restrict Phone Usage With Your Kids
02 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How To Restrict Phone Usage With Your KidsWhat do you do if you have a child whose phone usage is out of control, changing his or her moods, and ca...
How to Teach Kids Self-Control & Gratitude
26 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to Teach Kids Self-Control & GratitudeYou sacrifice so much for your kids and sometimes they don’t express gratitude. You don’t want them ...
Stop Power Struggles Over Anxiety & Trying New Things
12 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stop Power Struggles Over Anxiety & Trying New ThingsDo you have a child who struggles with anxiety? Who resists going to new places or trying new...
What Anxiety Feels Like For Kids
11 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What Anxiety Feels Like For KidsToo often we stigmatize anxiety as if it's something bad when it's completely normal. Kirk recorded this to help both ...
Reactive, Dawdling Kid Who Lashes Out, Not Good At Losing
05 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Reactive, Dawdling Kid Who Lashes Out, Not Good At Losing You have a sensitive child who overreacts, lashes out, has trouble losing games and connect...
5 Ways to Stop the Afternoon Chaos & Meltdowns
26 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
5 Ways to Stop the Afternoon Chaos & MeltdownsHow many of you have kids who hold it together at school, but then save the meltdown for you at the ...
Q&A With 5 Odd Answers To Tough Questions
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Q&A With 5 Odd Answers To Tough QuestionsHow do you get kids to do their chores without reminding them 18 times? What do you do when a child flat...
Try This During Meltdowns, Chaos, Sibling Fights
19 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Try This During Meltdowns, Chaos, Sibling FightsUsually when things are falling apart at home, we rush in to try to fix the situation or change the ch...
5-Minute Valentine's Day Message: Say This To Your Spouse
13 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
5-Minute Valentine's Day Message: Say This To Your SpouseDo you think your wife is too soft and coddles your child? Do you think your husband is too r...
10 Secrets To Stop Homework Battles
05 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
10 Secrets To Stop Homework BattlesIs homework time often a nightly power struggle that results in meltdowns, lectures, and tears? Your kids have real...
Men In The Arena Guest Podcast: Discipline Without Anger w/ Kirk Martin
02 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dads, are you tired of yelling at your kids? Does your child seem to push all your buttons? Do you struggle with how to respond to rebellious or diso...
Child Who Creates Chaos & Seeks Attention (Attachment Issues)
29 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Child Who Creates Chaos & Seeks Attention (Attachment Issues)Do you have a child who seemingly creates chaos in your home on purpose? Pushes your ...
Q&A For Teachers & Parents: Kids Daydreaming, Not Listening, Acting Silly in Class
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a child or student who daydreams and doesn't pay attention? How about a student who reads during math class or who acts out in class to ma...
How to Reset/Recover After You React/Yell At/Lecture Your Child
22 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to Reset/Recover After You React/Yell At/Lecture Your ChildDo you ever mess up and end up losing it, yelling, going on and on, making it person...
3 Ways to Keep From Destroying Your Child’s Confidence
15 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
3 Ways to Keep From Destroying Your Child’s ConfidenceHalfway through this podcast, I got very intense and almost swore because I realized one wa...
Teachers: 5 Ways to Help Students with Anxiety, Focus, Social Skills, & Transitions
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Teachers: 5 Ways to Help Students with Anxiety, Focus, Social Skills, & TransitionsMost of us have one or two children who may not listen. Imagine...
One Way to Change Your Child's Response Overnight
08 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
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The Truth About Lying & How To Stop It
01 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our New Year's Sale Begins NOW: You get everything we have ever recorded delivered directly to an app on your iPhone, iPad, Android, or computer. Lis...
When To Be Tough Or Soft? Specific Examples.
26 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are extending our Christmas Clearance Sale through January 1st: You get everything we have ever recorded delivered directly to an app on your iPho...
5 Quick Holiday/Family Survival Strategies
19 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our Christmas Clearance Sale Ends This Weekend: You get everything we have ever recorded delivered directly to an app on your iPhone, iPad, Android, ...
What Should Worry You About Your Strong-Willed Child
12 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Take advantage of our Christmas Clearance Sale: You get everything we have ever recorded delivered directly to an app on your iPhone, iPad, Android, ...
A Grumbling, Growling Child: 3 Ideas For Defiance & Complaining
04 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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Tired of Being Judged As A Parent During the Holidays?
28 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of Being Judged As A Parent During the Holidays?Are you tired of having to explain why your child acts the way he does or defend how you parent ...
3 (Actually 5!) Quick Ideas For Dads & Moms
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
3 (Actually 5!) Quick Ideas For Dads & MomsWhen you thought about having kids or adopting, you didn’t say, “I bet we are going to have a reall...
Child Hits, Screams, Defiant? What's the Root?
13 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Child Hits, Screams, Defiant? What's the Root? Your child may hit, bite, scream, yell at you, shut down, resist, or meltdown. Your first thought shou...
Why Your Kids Aren’t Listening or Progressing
06 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why Your Kids Aren’t Listening or Progressing Frustrated that your kids aren't progressing or listening to you? Of course you are. Have you noticed...