Challenger Cities

EP50: If a City Can’t Handle a Little Kink ... with Lady Valeska

29 Oct 2025

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This one’s a little different. We sat down with Lady Valeska, a professional dominatrix now based in London, to talk about what cities, workplaces, and leaders could learn from the world of kink.It turns out, quite a lot!We talked about power, shame, permission, and trust, but not in the ways you’d expect. Lady Valeska’s version of dominance isn’t about control, rather it's about awareness. She reads people the way good designers read context: through signals, not assumptions.We got into:How communication and consent could fix more than just our sex lives.Why shame might be the most dangerous civic material ever invented.The death of anticipation in a world addicted to instant gratification.What the kink community understands about safety that most cities don’t.And why London’s chaos has its own erotic energy — while Toronto still plays it a little too polite.It’s not an episode about sex. It’s about systems, culture and the trust it takes to make exploration feel safe.Because whether you’re designing a city, a company, or a scene ... the rules are the same: communication, consent, boundaries, safe words and aftercare.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Kink and Dominatrix Culture04:45 The Evolution of a Dominatrix07:27 Communication and Consent in Kink10:02 Creating a Safe Space for Exploration12:43 The Dynamics of Shame and Acceptance15:03 Gender Fluidity and Societal Norms17:55 Cultural Differences in Leadership and Communication20:22 The Impact of Technology on Kink and Sex Work22:42 The Diversity of Kinks and Online Perceptions25:11 The Importance of Failure in Personal Growth27:46 Communication in Kink and Relationships30:55 Cultural Perspectives on Kink and Acceptance32:02 Comparing Life in Toronto and London36:21 Generational Differences in Acceptance39:05 Wishing for a Better Future: Free Healthcare for All39:56 Exploring Taboo Conversations40:19 Personal Growth Through Challenging Topics

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3ª PARTE | 17 DIC 2025 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

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EP50: If a City Can’t Handle a Little Kink ... with Lady Valeska

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3ª PARTE | 17 DIC 2025 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

13:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

12:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

10:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

13:00H | 20 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

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