5 Debate Tactics To Avoid With Friends

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode discusses five online debate tactics that are ineffective when used with friends and family, and offers alternatives for better communication. He emphasises the importance of avoiding aggressive behaviors like interrupting, applying pressure, and using sarcasm, suggesting instead to listen respectfully, reduce pressure, and acknowledge differing viewpoints. The episode aims to help listeners improve their conflict resolution skills in personal relationships by reflecting on Simon's own past mistakes and learning from them.--------------------Online Debate Tactics That Don’t Work (With Friends & Family)Interrupting and Controlling the ConversationHow it manifests in conversations (e.g., talking over, steering the conversation)Results and outcomes of using this tacticPersonal anecdote about Simon’s usage of this tacticApplying PressureDifferent ways pressure is applied (e.g., fixed choice questions, not letting thoughts form)Outcomes and the other person’s typical reactionsExamples that illustrate pressure applicationSimon’s discussion on workplace application vs. personal contextsHumor and RidiculeUse of sarcasm and humor in debatesExamples of sarcastic ridiculePsychological impact on social survival and tribe dynamicsRisks associated with this tactic in emotionally charged conversationsStraw ManningDefinition and explanation of the straw man argumentExamples of straw manningHow it causes disengagementSimon’s personal history with this tacticWalking AwaySituations where walking away might be seen as losing or ending the debateImpact of unfinished business with friendsImportance of long-term relationship dynamicsEffective Strategies for Managing Debates and DisagreementsAllowing Space and Letting Them SpeakApologizing for interruptionsFocusing on active listeningMethods to signal attention and readiness to listenReducing PressureGiving control over the timing and location of the conversationAllowing autonomy and choiceExamples of reducing perceived pressureRespect and DeferenceBeing overly deferential and respectful in both language and behaviorTreating the other person’s perspective with seriousness and importanceSituational examples of applying respect and deferenceSteel ManningDefinition of steel manningTechniques to present the other person’s argument in the best possible lightBenefits of acknowledging the internal logic of others’ perspectivesLeaving Room for Continued DialogueConfirming the opportunity for future discussionsSuggestions for ending conversations on good termsValidating different views without pressure to resolve immediatelyClick here to send me a quick message via FanMailSupport the showThank you so much for listening! I'd love to know what you think and connect. website: simongoode.com email: [email protected]

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