E49 Chris Shelton: The REM Model: Rationalization, Emotion & Morals in Cult Influence (and Recovery)

In Part 2 of Confronting the Line conversation with Chris Shelton he unveils his REM Model—a practical lens for understanding how we get pulled into (and out of) coercive systems. We map the three interacting layers that drive human behavior:** Rationalization: the stories we tell ourselves after we act** Emotion: moment-to-moment feelings and deeper unmet needs** Morals: our “how the world should be” compass that leaders can exploit for righteousness and outrageUsing parallels from Scientology and Landmark, we break down tactics like love bombing, awe-based promises, urgency, and integrity-as-weapon—then show how REM helps you spot compromises in real time and reconnect with your own values.What you’ll learn* The REM layers and how they interact in recruitment, commitment, and exit* Why “think later, act now” works—and how to interrupt it* How awe and moral certainty get weaponized (not just fear)* Practical self-checks: Which need is empty? Who benefits if I say yes? Am I crossing my moral lines?* Healthier paths forward: multidisciplinary support, critical thinking that includes emotions, and timing your decisions to let feelings settleIf this resonates, drop your questions and stories below—we’re shaping a workshop to help survivors, clinicians, and curious humans use REM in the real world.RESOURCES & LINKS: Check out Chrises Show/Podcast - YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGrPM1Pg2h72ADIuv8eYmzrJ-ppLOlw_g&si=FTr1i8vbjEsqWKb8 Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/speaking-of-cults/id1030984057 Read Anne’s Book Is This A Cult: Confronting the Line Between Exploitation and Transformation and find other pods and resources → https://isthisacultbook.com/ If you or someone you know is wrestling with recovery after being involved in a high-control group, relationship or any organization, check out the Healthy Healing and Recovery Group w/ Rachel Bernstein https://ilumn8.life/op/lgat-recovery-group/ MODERATION NOTE: While healthy debate and discussion regarding the topics being discussed is encouraged, personal (ad hominem) attacks on people, places or things will be deleted. FINALLY Please consider supporting this channel which helps us to offer more and better content and resources such as the healing group w/ Rachel. Contributing also supports the learning and healing needs of folks, no matter their ability to pay, who are waking up to and leaving high demand and cult(ish) groups. Learn what you can do HERE. https://ilumn8.givingfuel.com/ilumn8giving

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