Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast
Simon Sinek Unfiltered: The Trap Leaders Must Avoid
Thu, 16 Jan 2025
Do businesses exist to make a profit or care for people? In this episode, Simon Sinek challenges a broken leadership theory and shares a new mindset for organizations to follow.Watch video and download the leader guide: https://www.life.church/leadershippodcast/simon-sinek-unfiltered-the-trap-leaders-must-avoid
Chapter 1: What are the traps leaders must avoid?
We have stupidity, we have insecurity, we have ego, we have all of the things, and I have them too, right? We have all the same issues as every other company on the planet. The difference is how we address those issues when we have them.
Chapter 2: How can leaders better address issues in their organizations?
Hey, great to have you back for another episode of the Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast. This is a bonus episode. We just dropped the first episode of the year, The Six Habits Great Leaders Avoid. We covered three in the last episode. On the first Thursday of next month, we're gonna look at the next three. Today, I have a guest for you that is going to inspire you and perhaps push you.
Now, for the record, Simon Sinek hates when people go through his resume, so I'm not gonna do that. If I did, I'd tell you he's New York Times bestselling author, and I'd tell you which books he wrote, but I'm not gonna tell you the books. And I'd tell you about his viral interviews and such.
Chapter 3: What defines effective leadership according to Simon Sinek?
But I will tell you just personally, I have heard him speak many times at the Global Leadership Summit, and he is a speaker that's very principled, and it's pushed me. Sometimes I push back, but every time I'm challenged by him. And this is an interview that is going to push you as well. So let's dive in today. It's valuable content. This is Simon Sinek.
Simon, hey, man, it is a great honor to have you on the podcast. Nice to be here. Thanks for having me. I've been learning from you for years. And so my goal is to ask you at least two or three questions no one's ever asked you before and try to draw some untapped brilliance out of you as we go. I look forward to it. I mean, I've heard a lot of questions over the years.
Yeah, I may not succeed, but I'm going to try. I'll start with a relatively easy one before I throw you some curveballs. But you're sincerely one of the top voices on leadership alive today, which is amazing. But you didn't probably start out confident in your leadership. Was there a time, Simon, like somewhere early on in your life, maybe as a kid or a young adult,
that you recognize perhaps you had some leadership gifts?
Um, I don't think I ever recognize that there were leadership gifts. Uh, I, I mean, I, I go, I'll tell you a story from junior high school. Uh, So when I was in junior high school, middle school, my best friend was Adam. And Adam and I had a fight one day, as little kids do.
And when I got on the bus the next day to go to school, nobody would sit next to me, because Adam told them not to sit next to me. He was the leader of our gang. He was the leader of the pack. And I remember the distinct feeling that someone else was responsible for my happiness and my friendships around me. One person. And I had to make him happy, otherwise I had no friends the next day.
And it sort of, as a little kid, I was like, that's ridiculous. And at a pretty young age, I started experimenting with being my own self. And really like baby steps, right? So I went to American middle school. We wore jeans and sneakers and white socks and t-shirts to school, you know? And I remember I started wearing black shoes with white socks. Everybody else wore sneakers. I wore black shoes.
And I was just dipping my toe, right? And then by the time I got to high school, I started experimenting with brightly colored crazy socks, right? Every day I wore brightly colored crazy socks. And I sort of got more and more comfortable being me. I got more and more comfortable people making fun of me for that one thing that I was experimenting with.
And I don't think it came until many years later where some of these skills that I had learned and some of these things that I had practiced, like doing what I believe and it's okay if people didn't like me for it.
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Chapter 4: What is the purpose of business beyond profit?
So you're gonna care for them, not just by giving them benefits, but you're gonna care by addressing problems, being transparent, be willing to push through conflict.
I view work relationships like all relationships, right? Which is, if you have problems with your spouse, the default is not divorce. You don't be like, oh, we had a fight, you're out. We had four fights this week, I'm out of this, right? There's an agreement that, whether tacit or expressed, that we will do the work for the good of the relationship.
We both agreed that this is a relationship and we'll do the work. And if you ask the best marriages, like the people who I want a relationship like yours, if you ask them what's your secret, they all say the same thing. It's hard work and we do the work. Well, it's hard being friends. You do the work. It's hard being a colleague. It's hard being a leader in a company. And you do the work.
It's all human relationships. And if you care about the relationships and you care about the organization, which is the same thing as caring about the family, then you take it upon yourself to do the work. As imperfect and bumpy and complex as it is, We do the work.
And I think, you know, I'm a believer in this thing called the infinite mindset, which is you're never done, but you're always striving to do better. There's no finish line. There's no such thing as best. But every day I strive for better. And I think that's how we approach it.
I'd love to know about the soft skills that you see that are necessary for today in leadership. And something that seems a little bit unique with you is you're almost prophetic in your kind of public keynotes and – Very, very clear, very, very strong.
And then when you interview someone on your podcast, you're in this whole different gear that you are so present in the moment, maybe more present than almost any interviewer that I've heard, that it's almost like you have no plan in the podcast except for to be with the person and then follow wherever it goes, which is risky unless you can really do that.
Tell me how you think about personal interactions because you seem to approach them with a little bit different finesse than most people.
Oh, thank you for recognizing that. So when somebody puts me on a stage or gives me an opportunity to come on a podcast, you know, It's an opportunity for me to share a point of view that may be different or to challenge the conventional wisdoms. Not because I think I'm right. I just think I have a point of view.
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Chapter 5: How do ethical considerations shape business practices?
And so I have no choice but to be present at dinner because otherwise I won't learn. Otherwise I'm going to waste an hour and a half. And so I sit down with somebody with a genuine desire to get to know them, and I come in purposefully underprepared. And remember, people overprepare because they're afraid of looking dumb, right? I underprepare because I want my guests to look smart.
I'm writing this down. So you're purposely unprepared. Can you talk to me more about... I'm not unprepared. I'm underprepared. Purposely underprepared. Tell me where else besides an interview would I want to be purposely underprepared?
I think anything where you're going to interact with other human beings. So when I give a talk... and I do a Q&A session, they always offer me the opportunity to have planted questions. Absolutely not. I want to have questions live. I don't know what they're going to ask. It could go in any direction. Podcasts, people offer, we're going to send you the questions in advance.
Well, that means I'm going to think about the answers in advance. That's not fair to an audience for me to plan what I'm going to say. That's not fair. And I think one of the reasons people want the planted questions or want to see the questions in advance is because they're afraid of looking dumb, right? And they want to be prepared to give answers.
And the problem is, is it's canned and it sounds artificial and it's inauthentic. And at the end of the day, I'm not afraid of answering questions about things that I know about. I'm afraid of answering questions about things I don't know about. So if you and I are going to have an in-depth conversation about the migration patterns of European swallows, it's not going to go well for me.
I don't know, and I don't even care. And so I am going to be... I'm going to be like stuck. But I have an interest in human relationships. I don't know everything about them, but I have an interest in them. Like if I spontaneously started asking you questions about your kids, do you think you could tell me without any preparation about your kids? Of course you do. Of course. Of course.
And so I want people to talk about the thing that they know and tell me their opinions about the world that they have an opinion about. Um, and, and so I like to come in cold because what you'll get is, and if I'm a little tired, I speak a little slower today, I'm probably a little jacked up on caffeine, which is why I'm like all soapbox you right now, you know? And so you get what you get.
And I kind of like that. Yeah. I would recommend like when, when people, um, So I try to listen or read or study people on two levels. One is the content. And then two is I try to get in the mindset behind it. And so I would recommend people listen to your podcast. It's a little bit of... What's the optimism? The name of it is... A bit of optimism. A bit of optimism.
I came intentionally underprepared that I had to look up the name of your podcast. I listened to probably seven episodes. And... I would encourage them to listen to how you ask questions because I think in kind of interpersonal relationships from leadership to everything today, one of the most missing soft skills is just the ability to be present and ask questions.
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Chapter 6: What does Simon Sinek say about accountability in leadership?
And nearly 100% of the time when I have to go on a stage, I will mutter out loud under my breath for me to hear right before I walk out on stage, you're here to give, right? I don't want anything. I don't want your standing ovation. I don't want you to buy my book. I don't want you to follow me on social media. I am here because I have a point of view. I believe that point of view has value.
Other people believe that point of view has value because they've invited me to share it with you. And so I'm going to give you absolutely everything I've got, whether the audience is five people or 5,000 people, you're going to get the same Simon. And if you like it, then if I get a standing ovation, I feel that I've earned it.
If you buy a book or something, I'm grateful, but it's not the reason I came. I came to share. And I think people can assess, because I don't talk about me in the opening salvo, that people can assess that my tone of voice, the way I answer questions, like they ask me a question, I don't say, well, you can read that in chapter three of my book.
I answer the question by answering the question, even if it's not in my interest. And I think there's just a level of authenticity that comes through that I think makes people relax. I've worked very hard to almost entirely remove the word you from my talks. You'll rarely hear me say, unless there's a real reason for it, Here's what you need to do to be a great leader. Here's what you need to do.
I say, here's what we need to do to be better leaders. Here's what we need to do to be better citizens. I don't put myself above anybody. I'm on the same level, right? I know what I know. And there are people who are experts in things that I don't know. And so I am part of the problem and I am part of the solution just as we all are.
I think I try hard not to lift myself up and to bring everybody up with me. And I think that – I think people – They crave that.
They don't know they crave it. I think it comes through. There's a level of authenticity that is genuine care rather than self-promotion. And you kind of got to get on your soapbox about kind of corporate America. For me, where I sit – A lot of people want to be speakers and influencers, and they'll do a talk, and I'll ask them how it went, and they'll say, well, I liked it. I felt good about it.
I go, who really gives a rip what you felt about it? Because, you know, it's not about you. And so much of the kind of influential type of leadership is the commercialization of content, self-promotion, and it's really, it's sickening, it's saddening, it's heartbreaking. that you can't watch something without an ad, without a promotion, without a follow me.
And I think it might have a little bit of benefit in the short run because you get some quick wins, but you lose in the long run because you lose trust and authenticity and that's,
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Chapter 7: How can leaders prioritize people over profit?
Please don't pursue fame, pursue impact.
When you start writing a book, by the way, I purposefully never put my picture on the cover of any of my books. And I fought with my publisher. They want to put my name huge at the top of the cover. I want it in like mouse print on the side, you know, so we compromise where we put it at the bottom. Uh, but like my face, Jack Welch wrote a book called winning and put his own picture.
He wrote a book called leadership, put his own picture on the cover. Like that's a problem, you know, like unless you're somebody I'm genuinely interested in, like if you're somebody famous that I want to learn about, like I'm okay with Andre Agassi putting his picture on, on his book. Cause I want to know about him, you know, that's different. Um, but I, I, I, uh, I believe in belief, right?
It goes back to that car analogy, which is I believe of having a belief so strong in something that it inspires you to want to do difficult things, that it inspires you to want to sacrifice something. And people, like, this question always comes up, like, you know, you have to know when to quit. Oh, you should never quit, you know?
Like, we've got, and my attitude is you should quit when the sacrifice no longer feels worth it. And so you look at like, so when I started getting invitations to share my point of view and share my message, and I was, I was preaching a point of view about the way business could work. That was different than the norm. Right.
And by the way, when I started, if you said the word purpose at work, you were just some hippie weirdo, right? That was when I started. And, um, uh, And as I started going and I started getting invitations and speaking started to become a career for me by accident, I found myself on the road all the time.
In fact, I downloaded an app, stupidly downloaded this app that scrapes my calendar and tells me when my flights are, so to help me. But unfortunately, it also scrapes my history. Assuming it's in the right format, so it misses some because they're in the wrong format in my calendar, it'll tell you the total number of flights I took per year. And I went back and looked a few years ago.
I took 178 flights in one year. Right? And if you live that life... You're exhausted. Dating, there's no such thing. You go out on a great date, you're like, I had such a good time. Are you free in six weeks? And even if you are home, you don't want to leave the house. I never wanted to leave the house. I just wanted to be at home. That was the treat.
And just a quick aside, I refuse to have white sheets or white towels in my home. I have no white sheets and no white towels because they remind me of being in a hotel. Oh, wow. Okay. Yeah. And, but the reason I kept doing it for so many years is because I could see that I was having an impact and the sacrifice was worth it. The sacrifice was worth all, and I went in eyes wide open.
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Chapter 8: What soft skills are essential for modern leadership?
Yeah. I mean, of course. I mean, you're spending more time with your colleagues than you are, you know, your outside of work friends. The trouble with work always comes with the fact that it's still a professional environment and there's still a professional dynamic. And so there is something called emotional professionalism, right? Like you can't.
act out at work if you're having a bad day you can't give one word answers in a meeting you know you can apologize that you're off your game you can ask for a little bit of grace but we still have to be emotionally professional and you can be friends if there's a hierarchy but again there's a there's a professionalism that goes with those relationships it's more complicated in the hierarchy but of course you can be friends with colleagues you know um
And sometimes it's hard. You have to code switch sometimes. Like we're at work, and sometimes I need your help with this. It's a work thing. It adds levels of complication, but there are all kinds of friendship dynamics with this level of complications. Like I'm really close friends with my ex-girlfriend's brother. Well, that's a level of complication, isn't it? It's complicated, right.
right or i'm still friends with my ex and she's married now well there's complications that go with that too And so it's not like we're not used to dealing with friendships with complexity and work is just one of them.
I agree. I'm looking at a bunch of people I'm friends with right now and they're laughing because we have wonderfully complex relationships and mostly wonderfully and somewhat complex. A couple of questions. There's another word for complex, which is depth. Yeah.
Depth, yes. Which is if I have multiple, if I only know you at work and you're just a work friend and like outside of work, I have no interest. That's fine. That's a work friendship. Let's call it what it is. You're not my friend. You're my work friend.
You would appreciate this more than most. There's someone who's sitting in here. I won't say her name, but we've worked together for years and they had a loss in the family. And I called the other day and I didn't realize it, but she called back, left me a voice text and said, when I lost a child, you're the first to call. When I lost another family member, you're the first to call.
When I lost this family, you're the first to call. And just said, that means the world to me. And so in some ways, like I think, you know, I look at you as just this, you know, brilliant organizational mindset with a conscience. And I think that's something you would like. That's the way we treat people. I wanted to ask you a couple of questions. And...
then I want you to tell us more about when the book's coming out, because I think it's interesting. Is there something that we're not asking you that we should be asking? Are there questions we're not asking, issues we're not addressing that are obvious to you? When I work with other church leaders, they often ask the wrong questions. And I say, you're not asking the right questions.
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