Create Your Own Light

Spouses Who DONT WANT TO KNOW

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the importance of your spouse offering you a soft place to land before you land elsewhere. I also get into self-care, regula...

Everything to Lose and Nothing to Prove

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss struggling through a heavy depressive episode that won't seem to end. I go on to talk about being human and not having ...

Fake A$$ Brotherhood

05 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about the illusion of the First Responder Brotherhood. I go on to talk about the mindset of a young First Responder vs the mind...

When You WIN You LOSE

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the feeling of failing when you are winning and the emptiness associated with it. I go on to talk about the harshness of our...

Product of Your Environment

31 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the future, being human and changing your path in life regardless of your circumstances. Enjoy! Grab My Book "Create Yo...

It Must Be Nice

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about the optics of life and what people see vs what they dont know. I also talk about why having a fall-back plan is not alway...

The Illusion of Happiness

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about the current burn out that I am experiencing and how a simple shift in thinking is helping me breathe. I go on to talk abo...

A Hero's Welcome

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the challenges of being physically injured in the line of duty vs morally injured in the line of duty. I go on to talk about...

Spouses Suffering in Silence

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about the spouses and the important role that they play in the wellness recovery of an individual diagnosed with Post Traumatic...

Infidelity Among First Responder Families

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the extremely uncomfortable topic of infidelity among first responder families. My hope is to shed a little light onto this ...

The Best Defense is NO DEFENSE

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how sometimes the best defense can be no defense. I also get into how much of our time we are truly in control of and learni...

Spouses Who Poke the PTSD Bear

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss spousal disagreements and the importance of knowing when to walk away vs stand your ground in a potentially volatile situati...

When a Mother Fu#%er Tests You

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the importance of controlling your reaction to other people's ignorance. I go on to talk about other people who take yo...

What's Your Family Worth to You

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how to break toxic cycles that impede positive growth. I go on to talk about the importance of having a supportive cast in y...

How Hypervigilance Destroys a Family

10 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the upcoming release of my new book while reflecting on my journey of growth. I go on to discuss the importance of understan...

Family Over Career or Career Over Family

03 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss putting what matters the most at the forefront of our lives. Is it our family or our career?  I go on to explain how many o...

Everything is an Emergency

08 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss being too hard on ourselves and knowing when to stop taking the blame for things. I go on to talk about people who attempt t...

Know Your Worth and Thank Your Spouse

22 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss having the ability to establish your value as it pertains to time, money, relationships and friendships. I go on to talk abo...

Keyboard Warriors and BS Apologies

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I tell a few short stories about my recent experience on TikTok and the most ridiculous apology I have ever heard. I go on to talk abo...

Friends in No Places

17 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about the illusion of happiness and the importance of friends. I go on to discuss the power of self-restraint in a challenging ...

Those who say F#%K the Police

23 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I ask the million-dollar question to those who say F#%K the Police. I go on to talk about how pathetic it is to engage with keyboard w...

Nothing Left To Prove

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss why some have trouble walking away from confrontations even against our better judgement. I go on to talk about that feeling...

The Monster I Became is NOT the Man I AM

30 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how loyalty can stunt your growth and affect not only your happiness but your families happiness. I also get into the import...

Emotionless Wreck

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the inability to show emotion to those who need it from us the most and why we seem so cold during the moments. I also get i...

Time Is Not On Our Side

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the importance placing unreasonable expectations on other people. I also get into how we mold others around us without even ...

Be Where Your Feet Are

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss having the ability to tune out the chaos while welcoming the happy moments in life. I go on to talk about Golden Opportuniti...

None of This Matters

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss doing whatever it takes to be happy. I go on to talk about letting go and living in moments. I get into living vicariously t...

Confronting Your Abuser

20 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the potential disappointment of meeting your heroes. I go on to talk about the abuser / abusee relationship and why we allow...

Know When To Shut Your Mouth

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the benefits of keeping your mouth shut during various scenarios and having the ability to maintain self-control. I also get...

Zero To Zero

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the difficulty of not being able to emotionally start your own engine and what happens when you give yourself to everyone an...

Soft Front Strong Back

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss having the ability of being strong for those you love while also having the ability to be soft, kind and compassionate at th...

Changing Your Pedigree

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss having the ability to change the way that you think while having an open mind in order to promote personal growth. I go on t...

Walking Deadman

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how much time has passed since we felt truly alive and how we have squandered every minute since. I go on to talk about the ...

On a Collision Course with Jesus

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss being a better friend. I talk about ditching the superman act as we get older and keeping an open mind to things that could ...

Brain Damaged Goods

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I harness my inner brain scientist in an attempt to explain how PTSD impacts the brain and the expectations of not just ourselves, but...

Are You a Cow or a Buffalo

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how we face adversity. I get into the mindset of understanding nothing lasts forever and what happens when we become stagnan...

Supported or Tolerated

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the importance of knowing whether you are supported or tolerated by those closest to you.  I go on to talk about the diffic...

Your Year Didnt Suck, Your Mindset Does

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss being a shitty friend and making everything about you. I also get into why First Responders should not compare their profess...

Gratitude and Guilt

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I return from a much deserved three week break off from life. I discuss the importance of simply unplugging in order to recharge and r...

Setbacks Pave the Way for Comebacks

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss carrying guilt and the ability to change the way that we carry it by retraining our brain. I go on to talk about having the ...

Friends in No Places

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss what happens when we spend a lifetime pushing people away. I also get into how we allow joy to slowly slip out of our grasp ...

Who Are You

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss what happens when we let our careers define who we are. I go on to talk about the potential fallout of not being mentally pr...

Pouring From an Empty Cup

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss internal emptiness and how important it is to recharge in order to be the best version of yourself. I go on to talk about le...

The Defeat of Defeat

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I ask when is the right time to teach our children about quitting? When do we make the transition in thinking "It's just a g...

You Are What You Think

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the power of our personal thoughts about ourselves. I also get into the mindset of Hard Work vs Smart Hard Work and growing ...

Screaming Over Spilled Milk

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the uncontrollable light switch of emotion that can sometimes be flipped over the smallest things. I also talk about managin...

It Can Wait

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the lowering of standards for Police Officers and stress cards for those who need a little time out. I also get into the rec...

Handling The Truth

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the power of making invisible injuries visible. I also get into understanding the reality of your mental health situation in...

Grinding Into Nothing

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the sacrifice of pouring so much of ourselves into something. I also get into the theory of focusing so much on the future t...

Unpack Your Trash

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the importance of unpacking your S**T and finishing everything that you start no matter the outcome! I also get into remembe...

I Wish I Was a Better Man

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the difficulty of trying to live up to other people's expectations vs your own. I also get into why it's important...

It's OK to not be OK

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss why we stay in unhealthy relationships and fear the unknown. I also get into making sure we take the time to check on our pe...

Actions Not Words

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss Actions vs Words. I also get into owning and turning our faults into strengths. I go on to discuss the mental readiness of n...

Invisible Fences

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how vital the consumption of our environment can be. I go on to talk about self-confidence and the importance of teaching ou...

Winning is Everything

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the dangers of feeling alone in life and in a mental health crisis. I also get into impulse control, making sure you have mu...

Become Your Own Medicine

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss taking control of your own happiness through your daily thoughts by taking time out of your day to reflect on positive memor...

The Trauma Trophy

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss those who hoist the trauma trophy for recognition. I also get into finding the treasure in our ignorance's. I expand a ...

The Value of Priceless Memories

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss what led me to wanting to become a father. I talk about the importance of letting your children know who you really are, the...

The Two Times You Die

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the legacy we leave behind. I also talk about the give and take from a lifetime in the emergency services while talking abou...

Stop Signs in Your Mind

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss recognizing what's making you stop when you want to go. I also talk about looking for people to blame for your situatio...

The Greatest Woman I Never Met

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how letting life get in the way of life, will rob you of experiences, adventures and relationships. I talk about the greates...

No Perfect Time

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the paralysis of waiting for the Perfect Time! I also getting into pushing through discomfort, feeling alive from fear and b...

Police vs Fire

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss why many Police Officers are more hesitant to get help vs Firefighters. I also talk about going through the bad to get to th...

Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the fight between the effort of doing something vs doing nothing. I go on to talk about finding traction to get out of the d...

Next Man / Woman Up!

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how being set in your ways stunts your growth and how some animals and humans share the same behavioral characteristics as i...

The Power of You

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I reflect on my life in the comedy business and how it applies to current day issues. I get into establishing your value and how the s...

Confronting Your Reaction

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss everything from exercising self control, the growth process, Memorial Day, being overly sensitive, social circles, the Dick ...

When Worlds Collide

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the difference between living in a world of sunshine and rainbows vs the reality of the dark and dangerous world many first ...

Count Your Blessings

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss feeling guilty for taking care of ourselves.  I also get into loosening the grip of control, being debt free and the discip...

Beautifully Flawed

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I am all over the place. I talk a little about substance abuse, medicating for Post Traumatic Stress, Anxiety and Depression. I also t...

Dead at 25 Buried at 75

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss stepping out of our comfort zones to welcome friendships / relationships, trying new things and how to handle uncomfortable ...

Recharge, Regroup & Refocus

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode have a double cameo appearance from two very special guests.  I then discuss the importance of unplugging and selfishly refocusing on...

Walk The Walk

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss leadership being 24/7 and not just during business hours. I also get into how living in a constant state of hypervigilance c...

Betraying The Moment

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss living too far in the future or too far in the past while missing what's right in front of us. I go on to talk about re...

Tired But Inspired

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss conquering re-occurring anxious moments vs letting them escalate. I also get into crossing boundaries and managing expectati...

He Ain't Heavy He's My Brother

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I sit down with my best friend Randy where we talk about the Marine Corps, Life and Finances. We also talk about what it's like w...

Hurt People Hurt People

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how hurt people hurt people and how happy people do not hurt anyone. I also open up about a time when I didn't apply my...

Cultivating Leaders with Dr. David Griffin

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In the episode I sit down with my good friend Dr. David Griffin, Battalion Chief with the Charleston, SC Fire Department. Dr. Griffin was the first en...

Jeff Foxworthy

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I sit down with Jeff Foxworthy and discuss his career, talking fatherhood, trauma, life on the road and coleslaw wrapped in fried chic...

Quality of Life

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about having to put down my beloved Turkey Sue, the best friend I have ever known. This was by far the hardest thing that I&apo...

I Hurt Myself Today

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk to Police Officer Jennifer Samples, widow of Captain Dustin Samples of the Cleveland, Tennessee Fire Department who took his ow...

You vs You

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss competing with yourself to become better every day by not focusing on your short comings, rather, celebrating your victories...

Finding Inspiration

31 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss finding inspiration when it seems impossible at times. This is my shortest episode to date because I too feel uninspired at ...

Your Life Calendar

24 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the time we spend living vs merely existing. I also tell a few stories and have to cut this episode short due to covid compl...

Chaos is Calm and Calm is Chaos

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how  often times the most peaceful and stress free moments in our lives can actually be some of the most dangerous times. I...

Fail to be a Failure

10 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the struggle within the growth process and how lonely it can become along the way. I also talk about failure and how failing...

New Year Same Excuses

03 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I talk about making bullshit resolutions that we never live up to and why.  I also go more in depth with First Responder suicide and ...

Is your Presence a Present

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how our presence may affect others. I go on to talk about the holidays and how those affected with PTSD may not be inclined ...

Own Your Shit

20 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I encourage those suffering with PTSD issues to OWN THEIR SHIT and stop abusing those around them by  using their problems as a crutc...

A convo with my Dad

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In the episode I have a casual conversation with my father about life, growing up and what its like as a parent watching your child struggle with Post...

Rose Petals or Eggshells

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I place emphasis on how we communicate with our loved ones. Do we allow them to walk on Rose Petals or do we make them walk on Egg She...

Bouncing Rainchecks

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss not being able to cash promised rainchecks and ask the question on where do leaders go to seek help? I may tell an ass of a ...

Through a Child's Eyes

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how our children perceive  us through our words, our behavior and our actions. I go on to talk about seeing the world diffe...

Embrace The Suck

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss finding the good from the bad moments in life. What makes your story unique? What kind of life do you want to live? I go on ...

Understanding the Misunderstood

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the difficulty of understanding those who suffer from Post Traumatic Stress. I go on to talk about creating resources for ot...

The Phony Tough

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how the Phony Tough mask their problems while enabling not just themselves but others who depend on them and how to disable ...

Compassion Fatigue

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss carrying the emotional weight of others and the exhaustion that ensues. I go on to discuss helping vs enabling, setting boun...

A Life of Regret

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the fear of an unfulfilled life and looking back with regret. I go on to talk about missed opportunities, the what if's...

Do You Want To Die?

11 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss the thought process behind what makes a person choose death over life. I also discuss those who think Post Traumatic Stress ...

Complacency Kills

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I discuss how complacency can lead to a very dissatisfying life and how  self doubt holds us back from accomplishments.  I further d...