Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Episodes
Season 7 Episode 7: Dating as a Black Woman
29 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Yelitsa and Sofaya tell us the struggles of dating as black women in modern times. We discuss racial discrimination in online dating, the judgment for...
Season 7 Episode 6: $25K Reward for Love
22 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ricky shares why he offering a [now] $25k reward to find his beloved. We discuss a radically different approach, the importance of character in a matc...
Season 7 Episode 5: Marathon Dater
15 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Eliza tells us about her intense 24 hour date that fizzled just as quickly. We discuss the false sense of intimacy after a long date, how to keep your...
Season 7 Episode 4: Diaper Fetish Part 2
08 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
David responds to our episode last season about adult baby diaper lovers as someone with the fetish. We discuss what exactly goes down, why it's s...
Season 7 Episode 3: Therapy for a Therapist
01 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Rachel shares what it’s like dating as a therapist and gets real about her own mishaps in dating which has allowed for her to practice what she p...
Season 7 Episode 2: What it means to be a man
25 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Mark Greene from the Good Men Project, Remaking Manhood, and Think Play Partners talks to us about the evolving definition of masculinity. We discuss ...
Season 7 Episode 1: 2 Blind Dates
18 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Shelby shares her experience going on two blind dates with Matt and Beau and we also hear their perspectives. We talk about the impressions you give o...
Season 6 Episode 15: Meeting your half-orange
30 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Amy Spencer, the author of Meeting your Half Orange, shares how she rewired her way of thinking with dating optimism to attract her perfect other half...
Season 6 Episode 14: So I went to a sex party...
23 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie takes us through her first experience at a sex party where we recorded an Organ House event and talked with other partygoers as well. We discu...
Season 6 Episode 13: The White Horse
16 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Lori shares how she prefers to date Asian men as a white woman and how she has been the “white horse” even in the US. We talk about cultural perce...
Season 6 Episode 12: Romance ISN'T Dead
09 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Brian and Jakara aka Team BJ tell us about their elaborate engagement proposal and how they got together – including the hurdles that came their way...
Season 6 Episode 11: Diaper Fetish
02 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Samantha shares her reaction about being propositioned for a diaper fetish and what was actually involved. We talk about different fetishes, how to re...
Season 6 Episode 10: F*CK Tinder
25 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
David tells us about his experience with Tinder that resulted in many dates, many stories, and ultimately the creation of F*ck Tinder: a love story. W...
Season 6 Episode 9: Gender Blender
18 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ariel, founder of Gender Illumination, shares what it’s like to date as someone trans, gender queer, and gender non-conforming. We discuss her own ...
Season 6 Episode 8: Open to being Open
10 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Jasmine tells us about being in an open relationship from the perspective of someone that never thought about non-monogamy before. We discuss making y...
Season 6 Episode 7: A Foreign Way of Dating
04 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Quino shares his struggles with modern dating culture of dating multiple people at once. We talk about the differences in US dating culture vs other c...
Season 6 Episode 6: The List
28 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Kirra tells us about her project, The List, where she interviews and photographs all the women her friend “K” has slept with to paint a picture of...
Season 6 Episode 5: An Unexpected Ride
21 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Chris tells us about his chance encounter that led to meeting his girlfriend in an Uber, while sharing his personal journey to becoming boyfriend mate...
Season 6 Episode 4: Weeding them out
14 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Heidi, founder of Cannabis Tours and Puff, Pass, Paint, tells us about her slew of weird dates as we figure out why this may be happening to her. We d...
Season 6 Episode 3: The Player Meets His Match
07 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Josh shares how he mastered all the pickup techniques from The Game only to end up with Megan, a dating coach, who told him to loose all the lines. We...
Season 6 Episode 2: When Dating IS Your Job
28 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Meredith from The League tells us what it’s like being a dating professional by day and actual dater by night – and how through that process she m...
Season 6 Episode 1: The Great Love Debate In Every State
21 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Brian Howie from the Great Love Debate shares with us what he’s learned from talking to single men and women across the US and beyond. We discuss th...
BONUS: Tech & Dating with Coffee Meets Bagel, The League, Luvidya, and Three Day Rule
07 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Coffee Meets Bagel, The League, Luvidya, and Three Day Rule join us at General Assembly where these industry experts tell us the best ways to navigate...
Season 5 Episode 16: Just Say Yes
20 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sheryl talks to us about a shift of attitude that instrumentally changed her dating life – and ultimately led her to her husband. We discuss the imp...
Season 5 Episode 15: In Sickness and in Health
20 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Judy and Pablo tell us about their experience with Pablo battling cancer and the impact it had on their relationship. We discuss what commitment reall...
Season 5 Episode 14: Three's Company
13 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Jupiter, Dylan, and Sean share with us their experience being in a triad relationship. We discuss what this actually means, the dynamics between the t...
Season 5 Episode 13: 1000 divorces
06 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Erik from Together Guide tells us about what keeps couples together and what brings them apart – from the perspective of a former divorce lawyer. We...
Season 5 Episode 12: Dating with Tourette
29 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Chelsea White talks to us about dating with Tourette syndrome and the details of this disorder beyond its media portrayal. We talk about how her ticks...
Season 5 Episode 11: Do Millennials want love? with David Cruz
22 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
David Cruz from Millionaire Matchmaker, Finding Cupid, and Three Day Rule talks to us about love and romance with Millennials. We discuss using techn...
Season 5 Episode 10: Breadcrumbing
15 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Farrah tells us about how she is constantly being breadcrumbed by men with little bits of attention and hope, but not the real deal. We discuss why th...
Season 5 Episode 9: Love + Money
08 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Joe from Gavazza Wealth Management talks to us about money management from the start of dating to building a life with another person. We discuss asse...
Season 5 Episode 8: Empire (Swipe of Mind) Strikes Back
01 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Jena and Kat share their reactions to our most controversial episode yet, Empire Swipe of Mind from Season 4, with Jake back in the studio. They share...
Season 5 Episode 7: I am not throwing away my shot
25 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
MK tells us how she quickly let out her quirky side when she first started dated her now-boyfriend by sending a photo dressed in full-out Hamilton gea...
Season 5 Episode 6: Relationship (In)Experience
18 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Ben tells us about his lack of relationship experience and the impact it's had on his dating life. We discuss recognizing any form of experience a...
Season 5 Episode 5: Getting out of the Friend Zone
11 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Chris and Amy how they moved from a platonic friendship to being engaged. We talk about how to get out of the friend zone, what changed in their relat...
Season 5 Episode 4: Yes, I have herpes
04 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Sheila Loanzon shares her own personal experience contracting herpes and how she got back to a place of self-love and acceptance. We dig into the ...
Season 5 Episode 3: An insider's look into the pickup community
25 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence & Social Intelligence Coach DJ Fuji talks about the origins of the “pickup artist" subculture and the stark difference in its med...
Season 5 Episode 2: Every. Body. Beautiful.
20 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie Carey, author of Every. Body. Beautiful, tells us about her decades-long battle with body image. We discuss overcoming the struggles for both ...
Season 5 Episode 1: The Secret to Dating in Modern Times
13 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Ned drops the secret of dating successfully in a city where our attention is scattered and options are plentiful. We discuss the impact of technology,...
Bonus: Check in with Past Guests (Part III)
23 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We’ll check in with some more of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their liv...
Bonus: Check in with Past Guests (Part II)
16 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We’ll check in with some more of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their liv...
Bonus: Check in with Past Guests (Part I)
09 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We’ll check in with some of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their lives in...
The Why Series: Why can't I meet people in real life?
19 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of the premium ‘Why Series’, we discuss why it’s so hard to meet people IRL and what we can do about it. We give you tips and ta...
The Why Series: Why do people flake or ghost even after a great date?
12 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The reality is that ghosting and flaking are all too common in today’s dating culture. We've all been there – that great date that turns into ...
The Why Series: Why do I go on date after date and none of them lead to anything?
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Introducing 'The Why' Series, where we answer some of the top listener questions and dating conundrums. The first question: Why do I go on dat...
Season 4 Episode 17: My Journey to be a Better Man
07 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Dave tells us about his evolution from being a serial dater to an engaged, one woman man. We discuss becoming the best version of yourself, how that c...
Season 4 Episode 16: Why You Cannot Find "The One"
30 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Heidi Isern tells us why you cannot find 'the one” – and why hunting for that person is just too much pressure. We talk about how to navigate ...
Season 4 Episode 15: Empire Swipe of Mind
24 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Jake and Nathan tell us about their experience with dating apps – in SF vs. NY. We discuss how women present themselves differently, ratios playing...
Season 4 Episode 14: Going with the Flo
17 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Flo and Dylan tell us about their relationship that was anything but love at first sight when they met at a silent disco. We discuss meeting when the ...
Season 4 Episode 13: The Support Male
10 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Don discusses changing male gender roles and being a ‘support’ male in a city filled with independent, alpha females. We talk about men’s career...
Season 4 Episode 12: Rope Bondage
03 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Eva shares what it’s like to be part of the BDSM community - specifically being into rope bondage. We discuss getting introduced to kink, what happe...
Season 4 Episode 11: Crazy Festival Wives
25 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Bryant tells about one of his former “festival wives” that may have gone a little crazy through text messaging. We talk about why women get the “...
Season 4 Episode 10: The System
19 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Jenny walks us through her system of dating multiple people at once now that she is back in the dating scene after being married. We discuss dating st...
Season 4 Episode 9: Young, Broke & Beautiful with Broke-ass Stuart
11 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Stuart aka Broke-Ass Stuart tells us what it’s like to date as an ‘SF Cult hero” in a city where you’re bound to run into an ex or two. We tal...
Season 4 Episode 8: Love in the Air(bnb)
04 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Li and Chris tell us how they met through Airbnb when Chris visited SF from Germany. We talk about their whirlwind romance that lead to marriage, the ...
Season 4 Episode 7: Making Moves IRL
29 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Taylor tells us how she is an anomaly to modern dating - ditching apps for the real life approach. We talk about doing this in a non-aggressive way, g...
Season 4 Episode 6: Perceptions and Misconceptions
19 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sheel tells us about what he's looking for and ideal qualities of a partner - all while we talk about the perception he may be giving off on socia...
Season 4 Episode 5: The Bathroom Bail
15 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Melissa talks about her date’s ultimate disappearing act - while they were out on an actual date. We discuss the importance of communication, who sh...
Season 4 Episode 4: Levels of DTR
07 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Aaron tells us about his bold move to meet a guy through the ‘People You May Know’ section of Facebook. This leads to discussions about what it re...
Season 4 Episode 3: Dating as a Muslim Woman
01 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Amal tells us about dating as a Muslim and Arab woman, especially during the Trump Presidency and Muslim Ban. We talk about dating outside her race an...
Season 4 Episode 2: #Millennial
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Harrison talks about dating as a #millennial. We talk about his facebook live dating experiment, stepping up your emoji game, and differences between ...
Season 4 Episode 1: Dating in the Dark
15 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Julie and Danny talk about their experience ‘dating in the dark’ at matchmaker OKSasha’s event. We discuss how removing physical attraction from...
Season 3 Episode 17: Against the Rules
28 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Kate and Boris tell us how they ditched all the dating rules - including Kate being on JDate as a non-jew - and found true love. We discuss exchanging...
Season 3 Episode 16: Full Disclosure
21 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
David shares a story where things wouldn’t progress sexually with a girl he was seeing - resulting in a shocking discovery. We discuss when to discl...
Season 3 Episode 15: Let's Make Apps and Babies
14 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Connie tells us about her dating history and how she just wants to make apps and babies - so much that she froze her eggs. We talk about the process, ...
Season 3 Episode 14: Dating Fatigue
29 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Andrew tells us about his many dates over the last 8 years in SF, where not even one has turned into a real relationship. We talk about how technology...
Season 3 Episode 13: Masterbacon
22 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Megan from Meet Foxie tells us about a guy she dated long distance with a freaky food fetish. She shares one of her letters declaring his fantasy invo...
Season 3 Episode 12: Dating Profile Dish
16 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
We teamed up with Lively, a new video dating app from Zoosk, to do a little dating profile. Our panel talks about all the do’s and don’ts of profi...
Season 3 Episode 11: Open Relationships
08 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Chris discusses consensual non-monogamy and how open relationships differ from polyamory. We talk about the necessity of communication and boundaries ...
Season 3 Episode 10: "Double" Date
02 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ariel tells us how she learned something very unexpected about her new guy...and all from her best friend matching with him on Tinder. We discuss reco...
Season 3 Episode 9: Yellow Fever
26 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Dan talks about his love for Asian women as a white male. We also have Eric, an Asian male, who prefers to date white women. We talk about why they gr...
Season 3 Episode 8: Married with Options
19 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ben and Kate talk about being polyamorous while married to one another. They talk about the differences compared to open relationships, how they got s...
Season 3 Episode 7: The Dating Experiment
12 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Linda tells us about a little ‘dating app’ experiment she did that didn’t get her as many dates as expected. We discuss why her first message ma...
Season 3 Episode 6: Dating the CEO of a Startup
04 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Josh talks about dating as a CEO of a successful startup and how it's not all unicorns and rainbows. We talk about what happens when you are marri...
Season 3 Episode 5: Love Lyft
27 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Nay tells us about how she met her boyfriend of 2 years as the passenger in his Lyft! We talk about taking risks, making the first move as a woman, an...
Season 3 Episode 4: The Orgy Dome
20 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Chris tells us about his experience at the Orgy Dome at Burning Man and how it impacts his outlook on sex and dating. We talk about how “play” tra...
Season 3 Episode 3: Dating on a Whim
13 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Yue tells us about her own first date using the app Whim. Eve Peters, the founder and CEO, interviews Yue and Andrew separately to hear their impressi...
Season 3 Episode 2: So I met him at Bar None...
07 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Rachel shares a ridiculous story from her past that starts by meeting at Bar None and results in getting kicked off the MUNI. We talk about getting dr...
Season 3 Episode 1: You are someone I just have to meet
31 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
In our Season 3 premiere, Spencer and Carolyn tell us the story about how they met IRL and became a pretty instant couple. We talk about what attracte...
Season 2 Episode 16: A beautiful breakup
03 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Julieann tells us about a serendipitous love story that becomes her most life changing relationship despite ending in a breakup. We discuss relationsh...
Season 2 Episode 15: Love, Sex, and Burning Man with Matteson Perry
27 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Matteson Perry,, author of Available: A Memoir of Heartbreak, Hookups, Love and Brunch, tells us about his plan to be single for year and casually dat...
Season 2 Episode 14: 24 apps and counting
20 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
MIkka tells us about using her 24 dating apps to date anywhere and everywhere including traveling to Portland, her latest hotspot, for dates. We talk ...
Season 2 Episode 13: A league of her own – Part 2
13 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Amanda Bradford, founder of the League, continues our conversation about the inner workings of the app. We hear about your league score, how to get of...
Season 2 Episode 12: A league of her own – Part 1
06 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Amanda Bradford talks about dating as the founder of The League. We discuss the reasons she created the app and dive into changing gender roles in soc...
Season 2 Episode 11: Mr. Marina
29 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Mark (aka Mr. Marina 2016) talks his best and worst dates ever. We talk about respecting others time, the importance of a raw connection, and dating a...
Season 2 Episode 9: How far would you go for love?
15 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Xavier tells us about the lengths he took to be with the girl he loved including moving from San Francisco to China to New York, and entering into an ...
Season 2 Episode 8: Hey Heartbreak
08 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Elle, the founder of Mend, talks to us about the most painful part of relationships: heartbreak. She knows all about this topic as the founder of Mend...
Season 2 Episode 7: Can't Hurry Love
01 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Jake tells us about a Tinder date that got aggressive fast. We discuss it all here: interpretations of dates, texting aftermath, ways to vet online da...
Season 2 Episode 6: Double Booked
25 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Alan takes us on a wild ride through his dating life including a story that happens during the recording. We talk about dating strategies, sex, findin...
Season 2 Episode 5: Plus One
18 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Marissa discusses dating a man with kids and her change of perception as she gets older. We discuss the intricacies it brings to relationships, the di...
Season 2 Episode 4: Are we asking too much of Tinder?
11 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Sam talks about a Tinder date gone wrong after a stand up and group date to his date’s DJ show. We talk about expectations, vetting, and commitment ...
Season 2 Episode 3: 2 Year Ghost
04 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Katie tells us about a guy she dated for 2 months that ghosted after a crazy adventure trip. And then he returned 2 years later only to ghost again! W...
Season 2 Episode 2: Lost in Translation
27 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Ketan gets deep about a heartbreak that ends with his girlfriend packing her bags on their trip to Italy. We talk about complexities in relationships ...
Season 2 Episode 1: The Blind Date
20 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Yue goes on a blind date riding a Scoot Quad around the city. Her date, Matt, comes on air and we hear both of their impressions of the date. When hav...
Season 1 Episode 10: Are you opposed to hooking up?
16 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
In our season finale, Robert tells us about his social experiment about sending hookup messages to 20 women on Tinder. We discuss how one night stands...
Season 1 Episode 9: Are We Or Aren't We?
09 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Jessica tells us about her quote unquote “relationship” that spanned over 10 months with a guy that would never commit. We talk about setting the ...
Season 1 Episode 8: Market Research
02 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Tan tells us about his date turned psychology study. We talk about being clear on intentions and ditching the small talk on first dates. We also talk ...
Season 2 Episode 10: Confessions of a Matchmaker
24 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Courteney Kay, founder of Sparx and formerly at Dating Ring and Grouper, shares what it's like to be a modern day matchmaker. We get her inside sc...
Season 1 Episode 7: Don't Molly and Date
13 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
One of our hosts, Yue, spills about her dating experience that moved a little too fast. We get into conversations about how to handle when people ghos...
Season 1 Episode 5: Frozen Eggs
12 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
John tells us about his setup with an older woman from a matchmaker. We discuss the importance of life-stage in relationships and preconceptions aroun...